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Like other muscles, the muscles of the pelvic floor can be toned and trained. The pelvic muscles can be strengthened over time, and stronger muscles are capable of stronger contractions, so you can experience stronger orgasms.

A regular practice of pelvic clenches will create a more powerful sensation during arousal and climax. Strengthening these muscles is essential for more sexual pleasure and to maintain your sexual health.

You may have heard pelvic clenches be called Kegels, after Dr. Arnold Kegel, who in 1948 wrote about the sexual health benefits of toning the muscles of the pelvic floor.  Clenches are widely endorsed by midwives, doctors, and sex educators alike and are a major practice in the traditions of Tantra and Taoism.

Some describe the Kegel as clenching the muscle you would use to stop the flow of urine. This may be a helpful place to begin finding the muscles of the pelvic floor - but in reality the muscles that start and stops the flow of urine is only one small part of the entire pelvic floor. You can strengthen and tone this entire web of muscles using various exercises for pelvic floor strength. Over time, you'll be able to isolate distinct groups of muscles.

For now, just focus on awakening as much of this musculature as you can identify, and clenching the entire group of muscles together. Begin practicing clenches on your own until they feel effortless. Then try integrating them into lovemaking - clench around your partner's finger or penis. Clenching during arousal is more difficult, but can lead to wonderful peaks of sensation.

Be sure to completely relax after clenching. Relaxation is just as important of a sexual skill: if you can consciously relax muscles as you approach climax, you can prolong your arousal and delay ejaculation, allowing for longer lovemaking and more full body sensation.

Using a vaginal barbell or weighted pelvic exerciser may help you strengthen your pelvic muscles. Barbells provide something to squeeze against, providing a bit of resistance to intensify the benefits of your clenches. But you don't need a tool to get started - just identify your PC muscles and squeeze!

Here is a comparison of two different pelvic exercisers provided to us for review by the good folks at BetterSex.com They offer a whole range of kegel exercisers to support your sexual health

The Isis is a beginner pelvic exerciser, weighing in at just over 2 ounces. The light pink lucite hourglass shape is very friendly for beginners. This light toy won't provide much resistance, but it does give you something to practice clenching around. Just having something inserted will help you feel the movement of the muscles as you clench and release, so you can be sure you are getting effective results from your practice.

Betty Dodson's barbell is much heavier at nearly a pound, and may be better suited to women who already enjoy a regular practice of pelvic clenches. The heft of this toy can't be ignored - once inserted inside, the pelvic muscles begin responding right away just to keep it in place! The ultimate test of your pelvic strength is to stand up, insert this barbell and then try to clench and release without dropping it from the mighty grip of your vaginal muscles. Try to keep this stainless steel barbell firmly gripped while fluttering your pelvic floor muscles.

A regular practice of pelvic clenches, with or without a barbell, will enhance your sexual response and support lifelong sexual health. Enjoy the process of toning your pelvic musculature - many women find that the clenches alone create a very arousing response!

This morning we found this comment on our YouTube channel under the preview video for our Guide to Prostate Massage:

"can't you tear the anus wall with your nails going in and out like that? looks kinda dangerous in a way"

This kind of fear is precisely the reason we made these guides. Anal stimulation (for both men and women) never has to be painful or dangerous. It can be 100% pleasurable, 100% of the time.

Our response:

"If the butt is relaxed after lots of external touch (which is demonstrated in the guide) then the in and out strokes are not dangerous. Of course, nicely trimmed nails and plenty of lube will help keep everything smooth and pleasurable. The tissues of the anus and rectum are actually quite flexible - but can be damaged if the area is not completely relaxed. Prostate play NEVER should be painful, it can be 100% pleasurable!"

Many people avoid anal stimulation out of fear of pain or injury. Usually this is becuase they have either watched porn that depicts anal sex as a fast, hard and deep penetration with no warm-up or they have tried anal sex before and found it painful.

Without proper warm-up and relaxation, anal stimulation can be uncomfortable, painful or even dangerous. But with lots of relaxing warm-up and arousing external touch, internal stimulation can be highly pleasurable. It may even be the most pleasurable sex act for some people, especially when combined with stimulation of the genitals.

Our guides to Prostate Massage and Anal Play for women are designed to show you how to enjoy pleasurable, pain-free anal play. Let us know if you have any more questions about how to keep it fun, arousing and 100% pleasurable.

Why do so many of us have so little pleasure in our everyday lives?
Why are adults getting locked into stress - literally - and unable to relax?

We believe that we are not taught how to prioritize pleasure. Adults need to learn how to take time to enjoy themselves, how to relax and let their body feel pleasure.

Many people in loving relationships rush through life without taking time to feel pleasure with their lover - then wonder why the relationship goes astray after years with very little shared pleasures.

If you are in a relationship, take the time to say hello to your lover's body every day. After a busy day of work, it can be all too easy to rush into the evening without properly greeting your lover, as your lover. When you come home, find some time to cuddle up, sink into a long hug, or kiss.

A little bit of touch can go a long way - even if dinner needs to be prepared or there are bills to be paid. If your evening hours are normally spent watching TV together, get a little closer on the couch or exchange foot massage.

Bringing more pleasure, more touch, and more intimacy into your life is a daily practice- it takes a daily commitment to take a few moments (or a few hours!) to touch and be touched, love and be loved.

Pleasure is often thought about as being selfish, greedy, or hedonistic. We believe in making Pleasure a Priority. Pleasure does not just happen to us - we must actively choose to cultivate pleasure in our individual lives and in our relationships.

Pleasure is healthy, makes us feel happier, more alive, and gives us energy to fuel our days. We believe that being fulfilled with pleasure makes us better partners, parents, friends and coworkers.

Here are 5 health benefits of pleasure:

#5 - The autonomic nervous system controls the heart, the smooth muscles around your organs, and your glands. There are two modes - Sympathetic and Parasympathetic - Stress and Pleasure. Many adults stay stuck in the stress mode, which has devastating impact on your health. Experiencing pleasure counteracts the impact of stress and gives your body the chance to heal.

#4 - Pleasure is essential for your heart health. Pleasure activates the parasympathetic nervous system, which calms the heart rate, lowers blood pressure and stimulates production of healthy hormones that are highly beneficial to heart health. 

#3 - Every experience of pleasure activates your immune system, providing a measurable and enduring boost to your body's natural defenses. A single moment of pleasure can boost your immune response for up to 6 hours.

#2 - Pleasurable touch alleviates depression. If you are feeling depressed, and are touched or cuddled, your blood chemistry can change in as little as one millionth of a second - the brain instantly responds to pleasurable touch with a flood of endorphins. Studies have shown that many chronically depressed people are also touch starved.

#1 - Experiencing pleasure makes you feel loved. Feeling loved and emotionally secure is essential for the overall health of mammals. Study after study shows that emotional bonds and physical contact allow mammals to thrive. Studies with infants have shown that touch and love are biological needs on par with food and water.

These health benefits should not be underestimated - more and more medical studies are confirming that pleasure, relaxation and love may be the best cure for what ails us!