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Babeland's Body Massage Candle is a lovely addition to a sensual evening of massage at home with your lover. Made of soy wax and shea butter, this candle is designed to melt down into a pool of warm massage oil. Light the candle, give it a few minutes, then slowly pour or drip the thick luxurious oil onto your lover's skin. Unlike wax, this oil is the perfect temperature to provide a thrilling and sexy sensation, but not hot enough to burn even the most sensitive skin. Then, you have a pool of oil ready to be massaged into the skin for a lasting glow.

We love the concept of massage candles - we support anything that encourages lovers to exchange massage, exploring one another's body and creating full body relaxation and pleasure! Our only critique of Babeland's Massage Candle is the scent - our friends at Babeland sent us a candle in the Pashmina scent to try out . The scent is delicious but very strong - and while some people may love this musky addition to their erotic explorations, we wish this candle was also available in an unscented variety so those of us who prefer less perfume could still enjoy the warmth and luxury of the candles.

We definitely recommend you give Babeland's Body Massage Candles a try - in your choice of scents (ranging from Mango Vanilla to Citron Fig) This could be a fabulous way to surprise your lover - have the candle burning by the bed, begin playfully touching your lover, flip them over and then delight them with the incredibly sexy feeling of warm oil pouring onto their skin. At $6 for the small candle and $14 for the large candle, this is a very affordable luxury that can be used as often as you wish to add more sensuality and pleasure to your relationship.

We be that massage is absolutely the best foreplay - so why not take it to the next level with a Massage Candle?

There are many options for massage oil - from heavily scented oil blends available at health-food stores to the olive oil in your kitchen cabinet. Any natural oil can be used for massage - and in a pinch, olive oil is actually a great choice. But few people find the scent of EVOO to be relaxing or arousing.

Organic almond oil is one of the best choices for full body massage. Almond oil is light and silky. It stays slick for a long time, but absorbs into the skin beautifully. Unlike other oils, almond oil doesn't leave your skin feeling greasy. Virtually scentless, almond oil is a great choice for those who don't like scented oils - or you can add a drop or two of your favorite essential oil for a custom aromatherapy experience.

Naked Organic Massage Oil from Babeland is a great choice for bedside massage oil. We were sent a bottle from our friends at Babeland, and we were very pleased with the quality of this massage oil. The 5.25 ounce bottle is a great value at $13 - one of the best prices for organic almond oil I was able to find online. This sleek bottle is the perfect size to keep next to your bed. Plunge the entire bottle in a big glass of hot water to warm the oil on chilly nights. Reach for this oil any time you want to offer your lover a few minutes of relaxing full body massage. You'll find it the perfect oil to keep your strokes gliding smoothly, allowing you to sink into your lover's body and offer soothing, pleasurable touch.

Do keep in mind that latex condoms are not oil-friendly. So if you've been using massage oil to warm one another up, make sure to wash your hands thoroughly before putting the condom on - and switch to a silicone or water-based lubricant for erotic touch of the penis, vulva or anus. If you are not using condoms, you can use oils as sexual lubricant if you wish, or switch to a sexual lubricant.

As you know, we believe full body massage can be part of everyone's sex life - and great massage needs great oil. Check out Babeland's Naked Organic Massage Oil and see just how pleasurable a few minutes of full body touch can be!

After last night's midnight showing of Sex and The City 2, it is clear that you probably won't go see SATC for the sex advice. Go for the reunion with Carrie, Samantha, Miranda and Charlotte. Go for the fashion and extravagance. Just seeing Liza Minnelli perform "Single Ladies" is well worth the price of a ticket.

But in between the shots of high heels and couture, the Sex and the City ladies offer us an abundance of sex  and relationship advice, targeted squarely at those in long term relationships and struggling to keep the "sparkle" of excitement alive.

As sex educators, here are the top 7 lessons we noticed in the film:

1. Take Time Alone 
How much time do you take to nourish your own needs and desires? Whether you are a busy mom, overworked at your job, or both, taking time to be alone and replenish yourself is essential to a happy relationship and fabulous sex life. No matter how many demands there are on your time, taking a few moments each day to nourish your own needs will go a long way towards giving you more energy to share with your partner, kids and friends. Most of us don't have a second home to escape to like Carrie - we need to create that oasis within our own busy lives. What would you do with ten minutes a day, just focusing on your own needs and desires?

2. Capture the Sparkle
As their relationship matures, Carrie misses the "sparkle" of the romance, excitement and glamour of their early life together. When she sees this sparkle return to her lover while he is talking to another woman, her upset is more than jealousy - it is craving. She wants to be wooed again. The longer a relationship endures, the more effort we need to invest in capturing the sparkle of the initial lust and romance. The best way to do this is returning to the source - remember the first days, weeks and months of your relationship. What did you do to capture one another's attention? How did you seduce one another? It worked the first time, it might work again. Replay some of the moments every now and then - do the activities you did on your first dates, go to your favorite places you've been together, remember what it felt like as you were falling in love. Just like Big pulling up in his limo, ready to whisk Carrie off into the New York night, create the opportunity to remind one another of how you fell in love in the first place.

3. Pay Attention
Carrie Bradshaw unzips her gown to reveal sexy lingerie and lots of bare skin. The movie audience notices - but her lover doesn't pay any attention. He has seen her body before. He is more interested in what is on TV. This is the fatal flaw in many long term relationships: we stop paying attention. We take one another for granted. When your lover undresses, do you notice? When they make an effort to look nice, are you paying attention? What is more worthy of your attention - your lover or your television screen?

4. At Your Service
Arriving for their all expenses paid trip in the (once) glamourous city of Abu Dhabi, each of the ladies is presented with their very own butler. The excitement in their faces is palpable as they respond to the concept of a young, attractive, gracious man who is completely at their service. The film doesn't linger too long on this relationship, but as Carrie's butler warms milk for her on a sleepless night, we have to wonder- who is taking care of us? Service is a luxury, usually thought of as the extravagant indulgence of the very rich. But we can all have the experience of being taken care of, of having someone "at your service" if we bring this into our love relationships. Bring your lover a cup of coffee. Notice if she is getting cold and bring a sweater or blanket. Anticipate their needs. Small acts of service translate to big feelings of love and desire.

5. Jealousy: Use it or Lose It!
Jealousy is a natural response, and is to be expected in any long term relationship. It is one thing to be jealous when there is due cause. If your partner is beginning to stray, jealousy might be the first warning sign that a major intervention is called for. But if you are like Charlotte, getting jealous when she sees Harry noticing another (younger) woman's breasts, you either have to use it or lose it. Lose it - let it go if your jealousy is over something trivial and is not actually a warning sign of your relationship being threatened. Or, better yet - Use it! Notice your lover's desire and respond. Charlotte could have tempted Harry with her own breasts, bringing his gaze back to his own body. Transform your jealousy into desire and seduction - allow that emotion to fuel your passion.

6. Forbidden Pleasures
In the sexually conservative landscape of Abu Dhabi, Samantha discovers a new sexual challenge: sublimating her sexual desire and tendancy to show off her body. As she tries to reign in her sexual displays, she meets a handsome stranger who shares her lusty personality. He describes his added arousal of being in the sexually conservative Middle East - by taming his desires they only grow. No matter where you live, there are places where sexual desire is less welcome than others - and you can use these "forbidden pleasures" to your advantage. If you notice desire in a "forbidden" place, allow the taboo to turn you on.

7. Design Your Own Relationship
The movie opens with a lavish gay wedding, as unlikely lovers Stanford and Anthony tie the knot. As Anthony reveals their "rules for marriage" the ladies talk about what it means to be married. Leave it to the gays to remind us what we knew all along - every marriage is a unique agreement, and every relationship has its own character. Designing your own relationship happens whether or not you do so consciously. So take the time, and together with your lover to create the guidelines that support your relationship. What are your hard and fast boundaries? What do your vows mean to you? If a marriage is a contract, surely it is worthwhile to remind yourself of why you got married, what it means to you, and what kind of marriage you want to have together.

Unlocking the Secrets of the G-Spot: The Ultimate O

Adult educational videos are notorious for inducing a case of "Pornus Interuptus" - just when a sex scene gets hot , the video jumps to an talking heads expert offering gentle advice and hard science.

This DVD, provided to us for review from the good folks at BetterSex.com is no exception - short sex scenes with loving and sometimes hot real-life couples are frequently interrupted by sex experts, therapists and doctors offering education and advice.

The education is solid, providing clear information about the g-spot, female ejaculation, and (unexpectedly) techniques for men to maintain erection longer. This final theme may not fit the overall topic of the DVD, but is welcome advice for the male audience members. Educators include Marty Klein Ph.D., Dr. Beverly Whipple and many others.

The highlight of the DVD is a scene with Carol Queen, legendary sex educator. Her masturbation scene with a g-spot orgasm and female ejaculation is worth watching the DVD for - she brings a joyous intensity to the scene. All of the couples featured in this DVD have real, natural bodies and good chemistry. Watching Sinclair videos feels more voyeuristic than watching porn - like peeking in on real couples having real sex. This is a refreshing change, and a good choice for couples looking to learn new sexual skills, gain more information, and enjoy an intimate evening at home.

Unlocking the Secrets of the G-spot doesn't disappoint, you just need to prepare yourself for the frequent interruptions from very unsexy experts. Don't expect to get hot and heavy while watching this DVD, but try to take away some useful hints for your next bedroom adventure.

Also check out our download-to-own video guide on how to use your hands to pleasure a woman.