Bi Curious, Bisexual, or Just Fantasizing?
A listener writes in wanting to know if her bisexual fantasies means that she is bisexual. If she is bi, does that mean she needs to tell her boyfriend? Should she try to make her bisexual fantasies a reality, or just stay secretly bi curious?
We explore the complexity of sexual desire, how to tell a fantasy from a desire and the ethics of fantasizing during sex with your partner.
We also offer a range of options for exploring bi curious desires without risking your relationship.
Being bi curious doesn’t mean that you are going to cheat on your partner, or that you need to feel guilty about your fantasies. Being bi curious just means you – like all the rest of your fellow humans – are a complex erotic being! Human desire is not simple, so you don’t need to feel upset about your bi curious feelings. You can choose to have a conversation with your lover and share your bi curious fantasies, or keep your fantasies to yourself!
Many people choose to explore their bi curious desires by having a threesome. Threesomes can be a great way to explore same sex desire – or they can be an erotic disaster! If you want to explore the possibility of having a threesome, grab your copy of our book How To Have A Threesome. Don’t even TRY to have a threesome without it!