A listener named Ryan called in with a very personal question. Nearly every time he tries to pleasure his wife, she responds by cringing and saying “ouch” or giggling. He tries to be a sensitive lover but she never seems to be able to relax and enjoy his touch.
We give Ryan, and everyone else who has a partner who can’t seem to enjoy sex, lots of advice and strategies to try to have a more spontaneous and pleasurable sex life. Our intuition leads us to believe there may be something going on beyond the relationship, a hidden cause for the hypersensitivity Ryan’s wife experiences.
This emotionally charged episode is a must-listen for anyone who has struggled to stay present during sex or had a partner who responds to touch in unexpected ways.
The day after we posted this episode, we received an email from Ryan thanking us for our response. Turns out our intuition is pretty accurate. Thanks to Ryan for trusting us with this issue, and we certainly hope that some of our suggested strategies create more pleasure and intimacy for him and his wife.
Resources Mentioned In This Episode:
Healing Sex by Staci Haines (In the podcast I use the original title, The Survivor’s Guide to Sex – that’s how long this book has been an essential part of my library!)
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