Facials have a bad reputation. Many consider them to be degrading and humiliating. But do they have to be? In this episode we explore what makes a sex act degrading. Facials involve a man ejaculating on his partner’s face, usually as part of oral sex. Are they considered degrading because ejaculate itself is considered dirty? Or because oral sex is thought of as an act of degradation? What if we think about semen as a pleasurable, life-giving fluid? Could facials be part of loving, tender sex? Listen in and see what you think!
Here is the email from a listener that we answer in this episode:
Hey Pleasure Mechanics,
First of all, thanks for the show. My boyfriend and I both listen to it, usually separately, but often have great conversations prompted by the show. Most recently, episode #71 helped us have a huge breakthrough about my orgams/ orgasms during sex. But that’s not my question. My question is about facials. He really loves coming on my face, and to be honest I don’t mind it that much. But it came up in conversation with a friend recently because she was saying how degrading it is and that no self respecting woman would let it happen. I got really embarrassed but didn’t say anything to her right then. But then the other night, I was going down on my boyfriend and he wanted to end with a facial, and I felt sick all of a sudden. Have I been letting him degrade me this whole time? I love this guy and can even see us getting married someday – is letting him do this to me making me less of wife material? Should I stop letting him do this? Honestly, I had never really thought about it until my friend brought it up, and I was curious what you think about it. Thanks! ~ Deena