Facesitting is a very common fantasy for men (and women who have sex with women!) Facesitting is also sometimes called Queening, which is a beautiful term that draws attention to the idea that the woman is at the center of this fantasy. It is her pleasure that drives this fantasy. She is the Queen and her lover’s face is the throne!
We received the following email from a podcast listener:
Hey Pleasure Mechanics. My boyfriend found your show and we’ve been listening every chance we get. It has opened up some really amazing conversations, so we both want to thank you. Recently, after listening to a totally unrelated episode, he blurted out “How do you feel about facesitting?” My first reaction was to laugh, but then I got intrigued. I asked him what exactly he meant and he explained it has always been a huge fantasy of his to have a woman sit on his face while he gives oral sex, and he wondered if I would try it. I enjoy receiving oral, but have never tried this position. I’m open to it, and his birthday is coming up, so any tips to make this really hot for him? Thanks again! – Yvonne
Why Is Facesitting So Sexy?
First, for people who enjoy pussy (vulva, use your term of choice here!) facesitting gives the ultimate experience of being engulfed in it. Facesitting creates the feeling of being totally surrounded by the beautiful vulva. Some people take it a step further and want to be totally smothered in pussy!
Facesitting also is all about pleasuring a woman who is in control of her pleasure. To climb up and straddle your lover’s face you need a certain amount of confidence and there is nothing sexier than a confident woman who is ready to claim her pleasure! Feeling a strong, sexy woman writhe around on your face is incredibly hot.
Finally, facesitting is oral sex amped up to the next level. Giving a woman oral sex is really hot already, and when that woman is moving around with pleasure on your face, teasing you with her pussy, it is even more blissful. Facesitting means you get to feel the weight of her body and look up and see her magnificent body above you. For many people who love women, this is pure heaven!
The Facesitting Experience For The Receiver
What is fascinating about facesitting is that many of the same elements that make it so sexy for the giver are precisely what make it challenging for so many women to receive!
Being on top during sex is vulnerable enough for a lot of women, and oral sex is challenging for many women, so when you combine the two it is downright terrifying for some and awkward for others!
Facesitting means you are totally exposed. Your pussy is right there, covering your lover’s face, and there is no room for being shy or reserved about it. You need to believe that your lover is totally excited and aroused by your pussy. For so many women who have mixed feelings about their vulva and it’s taste and smell, this is a real challenge to accept. But if you can make the leap, and your lover is enthusiastically participating, facesitting can be the ultimate act of celebration. You get to have the experience of being completely proud of your pussy and ready to accept being completely worshipped as you ride your lover’s face!
Listen to the podcast (hit the “play” button at the top of the page!) for specific tips for making facesitting super exciting for both of you. In the podcast we cover:
- how to make facesitting positions comfortable
- how to switch it up for a variety of pleasures
- safety tips for facesitting
- how to use hands in combination with the mouth for even more facesitting pleasure
- toys and accessories specifically designed for facesitting
- how to add different erotic energies to change up the experience
- how to create full erotic experiences with facesitting as the highlight
- how to orgasm during facesitting
We challenge you to experience the pleasures of facesitting. It can be challenging and vulnerable at first, but ultimately offers an incredible and liberating experience of pleasure for both of you!
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