Erotic Spanking 101

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Curious about exploring the pleasures of erotic spanking? Learn how to get the exact kind of spanking you desire: from gentle to rough. We cover how to negotiate with your lover to get clear about what you want to explore, how to keep a spanking safe and pleasurable, and ways to make spanking hot for both the giver and receiver.

Erotic spanking can be an amazing, intense sexual experience. Or, it can be an erotic disaster. In this podcast, we discuss the techniques and strategies to make sure your erotic spankings explorations are as pleasurable as possible.

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

Erotic SpankingThe Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Erotic Spanking

Erotic Spanking

EroticSpankingBookErotic spanking is one of the most common sexual fantasies for both men and women alike. It is a very primal activity that is both physically and emotionally stimulating.

Spanking can be part of a an erotic power exchange, where one partner is erotically dominating the other, more submissive partner. Separate from the power dynamics, many people enjoy erotic spanking simply because it feels good. A good spanking can be incredibly arousing and invigorating. The level of power play you bring to your experience is up to you.

Everything you need to know to enjoy erotic spanking is in our new book: The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Erotic Spanking.  We guide you in the skills of giving and receiving erotic spanking: how to fully warm-up and prepare your lover, basic spanking techniques, strategies to build intensity, getting to a big climax, and how to enjoy the delicious afterglow.

Here is a list of some of the more common reasons people enjoy spanking, though we are sure you could add one or two of your own. Note the different parts of sensation – some people love the impact, others the afterglow. It helps to be specific about why you like something (sometimes you only know this after you’ve experienced it a few times) – being specific allows you to create experiences that are the most fulfilling and satisfying for you and your lover!

Top 10 Reasons People Love Erotic Spanking

Erotic Spanking• Sensations of Spanking

• Sensations Spanking Creates in Genitals

• Sensations After Spanking

• Emotional Experience of Vulnerability

• Getting High on Endorphins

• Attention on Ass

• Warmth and Color of Reddened Cheeks

• Creating Extreme Anticipation and Desire

• Feeling of Power and/ or Control

• Form of Erotic Tease

Get the full, blow-by-blow guide to erotic spanking: The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Erotic Spanking

Q&A: My boyfriend wants to spank me!

My BF wants to spank me (all new to me) how can I make it a hot experience for him? – Strawberry Girl

Hey Sweet Strawberry Girl,

Thanks so much for being in touch, I was especially happy to get your email as I set down for a writing session on our next book – which will be about spanking! so the short answer is, we are working on it! are you on our newsletter to hear about our new projects? Update: The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Erotic Spanking is now available!
I noticed you asked about making it hot for him – what about making it hot for you? Ideally, that is an essential ingredient for him enjoying the experience, is your pleasure in it. make sure you are into receiving this kind of sensation, and make requests that will make it hot for you. what kind of attitude do you want him to bring to it? is it a “punishment” or just something hot to get you both excited? how hard do you want it? how will you communicate about intensity while you are in the midst of the exploration? I’m finding myself rewriting the book here so I’ll just leave you with those teaser questions, and an invitation – is there anything really specific you want to know – either about communication or technique? if so, just let me know and I’ll try to either send you that section of the book – or write it just for you!
cheers, and hope you enjoy one another! if you haven’t already, consider checking out our butt massage video, it is our favorite form of foreplay and warm-up for spanking!
let me know if I can answer any specifics, and thanks again for checking out our site and being in touch!
cheers
Chris

My boyfriend wants to spank me!