Sex therapist Dr. Jack Morin emphasized the importance of “warm sex” in long term relationships. Here’s a daily practice that can help you maintain a warm sexual relationship so it is way easier to get hot when you have the chance. We share an excerpt from Jack Morin’s book The Erotic Mind. Find out what one thing he believes a relationship can’t bounce back from.
Here’s an excerpt from The Erotic Mind:
Cultivating Warm Sex
My observations have consistently revealed an apparent contradiction: to preserve opportunities for lusty, passionate sex, most successful long-term couples develop the ability to enjoy “warm sex.” Rather than emphasizing focused intimacy, warm sex revolves around calmer experiences of sensuality, affection, pleasure and playful fun. ALthough warm sex usually includes genital stimulation, its goals are neither high arousal nor orgasm.
Especially during periods when desire is relatively low, warm sex allows couples to maintain a physical bond and helps them to continue perceiving each other in a sexual light. I haven’t seen a couple – nor have any of the colleagues I’ve informally surveyed – who were able to rebuild a sexual connection after they had stopped thinking of each other in an erotic way for five or more years.