The anus is part of both the male and female sexual system. The external anal sphincter is one of the most sensitive parts of the human body, with one of the densest concentrations of nerve endings. You can get a lot of pleasure out of external anal stimulation without ever going inside. If you do try anal penetration, you’ll find the internal anal sphincter. This muscle is involuntary and only relaxes when the body wants to open up – this is why you can’t rush anal sex. Through external touch and arousal, the internal sphincter begins to relax and open, giving way to the rectum. Internal anal stimulation is pleasurable for the sense of pressure and fullness it creates. Internal stimulation can also reach the clitoris and the root of the penis from inside – adding another layer of pleasure.
Anal sex can range from very light external stimulation all the way up to full penetration. Your experience is up to you to decide – if you are curious about including anal play in your sex life, start with our Guide to Anal Play for Women and our Guide to Prostate Massage for men. You’ll learn everything you need to know to enjoy highly pleasurable anal stimulation and add anal sensation to the sex you already enjoy.