What Is Arousal?
Arousal is the experience of our systems “upregulating” in response to stimulation – for our purposes we will be focusing on sexual arousal, the stimulation in response to pleasurable erotic stimulation (which can be a touch, a sight, even a thought!)
Arousal can be brief or prolonged, sought out or spontaneous. The dictionary definition of “arouse” is “to evoke or awaken.” This definition reminds us that arousal awakens the erotic part of us that is always within us, a part of our very being.
Stimulation from any number of sources can awaken this energy, bringing our attention more fully to our sexuality and desires. Humans can even be aroused by thoughts alone, the memory or an idea of pleasure is enough to stimulate the system and create full body arousal.
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The Dual Control Model Of Arousal
One of the most important things to know about arousal is that it is contextual and the overall experience of sexual arousal involves both the gas and the brakes, the things that excite you and that which inhibits your arousal from moving forward. Learn all about this game-changing perspective in Speaking of Sex Episode #227: Manage Your Turn Ons and Turn Offs
Resources To Explore Arousal, Pleasure & Orgasm
Speaking of Sex Podcast Episodes About Arousal
- Episode 267: Sexual Desire: Spontaneous Vs. Responsive
- Episode 329: Wet and Ready: Debunking Myths About Female Arousal and Wetness
- Episode 337: Learning To Orgasm with Vanessa Marin
- Episode 314: Own Your Arousal
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