Pleasure Mechanics

Workshops

The Pleasure Mechanics Workshops have thrilled and inspired men, women and couples since 2008. We’ve sold out venues from San Francisco to Durham, NC and so many places in between. Our epic road trips of 2009-2011 allowed us to meet so many folks coast-to-coast.

After 50,000 miles on the Pleasure Mechanics chariot, we are staying put for awhile and working exclusively on online media.

But you never know when we’ll open up enrollment for another in-person experience, so please join our mailing list in the sidebar to the right if you want to be one of the first to hear. We’d love to meet you!

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Pleasure Mechanics Workshops
  • Couples Massage
  • Erotic Massage
  • Ejaculation Control for Men
  • Orgasm Every Time for Women
  • Erotic Spanking
  • Anal Play For Her: 100% Pleasurable, 100% Pain Free Anal Stimulation for Women
  • Prostate Massage
  • Full Spectrum Sexuality: A New Approach to Spiritual Sexuality
  • Make It Rain! How To End Dry Spells

Couples Massage Workshops

Do you want more massage in your life?

Would you like to learn the insider secrets of massage pros?

Do you want to experience more pleasure, connection and passion in your relationship?

Master the art of massage at home with your partner with the Couples Massage Mastery Online Course.

Massage is a powerful and effective way to communicate love and affection. Receiving quality touch leaves you feeling loved, cherished and nourished. Sharing massage at home with your lover is the perfect way to stay connected and experience the pleasure of touch every day.

Massage keeps your physical relationship “warm” so it is easier to get “hot” – by releasing stress, massage creates more opportunities to get aroused and enjoy the full potential of lovemaking.

Scientific studies confirm that touch has powerful health benefits, improves relationships and is essential for humans to survive and thrive.

In this culture, your lover is probably your primary – or only- source of physical touch. Yet very few of us are trained in the art and skill of massage, or can confidently offer our partner full body touch for relaxation and pleasure.

Many couples go weeks, months or years without sharing quality touch. Other relationships get into physical ruts, and intimacy becomes less exciting. Even lovers with fabulous and satisfying sex lives can benefit from learning new ways to touch one another.

Massage offers powerful benefits to all relationships. Massage is an easy, low-pressure way to feed your physical love relationship and strengthen your ability to relax and experience pleasure together.

Join us for an online course in full body massage, designed especially for couples. We have distilled our hundreds of hours of massage training and years of experience as sex educators into simple, easy to learn skills for expressing your love through touch.

Learn an effective massage sequence, covering the entire body, that you can offer as five minute massage quickies or combine to lavish one another in an hour-long full body massage experience. We believe that sharing five or ten minutes of massage a day can offer dramatic benefits to your body and relationship.

In this online course you will:

  • Learn Five Minute Massage Sequences for Five Key Areas: Neck and Shoulders, Back, Butt, Arms and Hands, Legs and Feet
  • Discover the Potent Health Benefits of Pleasurable Touch
  • Learn How To Comfortably Offer Massage Without Wearing Out Your Hands or Body
  • Understand How Massage Can Expand Your Foreplay and Dramatically Improve Your Lovemaking
  • Both Give and Receive Pleasurable Massage, in Easily Learned and Memorable Sequences
  • Learn How To Bring the Grace and Ease of Massage to Your Daily Touch

Everyone can learn to give a great massage! Start sharing the pleasures of massage tonight with our Couples Massage Mastery Online Course

Female Ejaculation and the G Spot

Female Ejaculation has only recently come out of the closet. While first studied by physicians in the 17th century, and documented in Sexology papers ever since, the knowledge and acceptance of female ejaculation was omitted from Western medical practice until very recently.

Meanwhile, many women have been confused and distressed about their own ejaculatory response- in the passions of sex they feel themselves (or their partners notice) a gush of fluid coming from the urethra. Without knowledge of female ejaculation, the natural assumption is that the fluid is urine. Often this triggers a shame response over having “wet the bed,” but perhaps while cleaning those sheets the women noticed that it didn’t smell like urine, and was not yellow like urine.

Just imagine if men did not know about ejaculation, and there was a cultural silence about it. Young boys would be terrified of masturbation, men would be flocking to the doctors for a diagnosis on the strange white substance coming from their urethra. The case of Female Ejaculation and the Female Prostate is a classic example of how medical “knowledge” can define our daily lives. Without an official category for this sexual response, and with most doctors to this day having received no training on the subject, individual women are led to believe that they are doing something wrong or peeing the bed, when in reality their body is experiencing a very natural response to stimulation.

In recent years, sex educators have been on a mission to spread information and normalize female ejaculation and the female prostate. Several books, films and websites now feature female ejaculation. The result is more and more women having the aha! moment of realizing all those times they felt the urge to urinate during arousal or all those times they gushed was actually an experience of female ejaculation.

The Male Prostate vs. The Female Prostate

The male prostate is a gland under the bladder, around the urethra.
The female prostate is a gland under the bladder, around the urethra.

The male prostate produces hormones.
The female prostate produces hormones.

The male prostate, during arousal, produces fluid. This fluid, along with semen, travels down the urethra and out of the body.
The female prostate, during arousal, produces fluid. This fluid travels down the urethra and out of the body.

The male prostate responds to direct and indirect stimulation, and can create strong sexual sensations and powerful orgasms.
The female prostate responds to direct and indirect stimulation, and can create strong sexual sensations and powerful orgasms.

Male ejaculate can either be expelled from the body or absorbed back into the body.
Female ejaculate can either be expelled from the body or absorbed back into the body.

Pelvic Anatomy

Get to know your pelvis! The pelvis is the foundation of the body, and the core of your sexual system. This article is a brief introduction to your pelvic anatomy.

Standing up, put your hands on your hips and find the bones. These bones are the sides of your pelvis. If you trace those bones around to your back, you’ll find the arch of your iliac crest and then the two bones will meet in the middle at a triangular bone at the base of your spine. This is the sacrum, the back bone of your pelvis. Beneath the sacrum is a tiny tip of bones called the coccyx- where our tails would be if we humans still had them! Moving back around to the front, you can find the pubic bone which meets in the middle, underneath your belly button and above your genitals. This entire structure is your pelvis- the muscular and structural foundation of your entire body. The spine anchors in the pelvis, as do the legs.

The nerve pathways that create sensation in the entire pelvis and genitals run from the brain, down the spine, through the holes in the sacrum and into the musculature of the pelvis. Nerve fibers work like electrical signals- translating information along a channel to the brain where it is interpreted.

The word “pelvis” in latin means “bowl” – and indeed the bones of the pelvis are shaped like a flexible bowl. The bones of the bowl are home to a complex sling of muscles, nerve endings, vital organs and major blood vessels and arteries.

You may have heard about the PC muscles. What most people know as the pubococcygeal muscles is a web of musculature that extends from the pubis to the coccyx like a sling. The anal sphincters are the rear part of the pelvic floor, the genitals are in the front of the pelvic floor. The anal sphincters are directly connected to the frontal pelvic floor, and the muscles around the genitals  by the perineum. The perineum is the center of the figure 8 of the pelvic muscles, and a major nexus of the nerve endings. There are also major muscular attachments at the ischial tuberosities (the sitz bones) and sacrum. The gluteals, or butt muscles, are a major part of the pelvic system and play a major role in sexual pleasure. The muscles of the pelvis are constantly at work, even when you are sitting still!

Strengthening the pelvic muscles is essential for sexual health and pleasure. A daily practice of pelvic clenches strengthens the muscles that contract during orgasm, leading to stronger orgasms. For more about strengthening the muscles of the pelvic floor, see the articles below, where we outline a series of practices for both men and women:

Pelvic Exercises for Men
Pelvic Exercises for Women

Breathing for Sexual Enhancement

Breath is an essential sexual skill. We breath without thinking much about it our entire lives- and yet most of us breath only enough to survive.

Deliberate deep breathing can help the body relax, flood the bloodstream with fresh oxygen, create more sensation in the body and fuel your erotic fire.

It is no surprise that breathing is a central skill not only in all sexual traditions around the world, but also in most devotional religious traditions, and for professional singers and athletes.

Learning to breath more fully allows us to live more fully, and experience new kinds of relaxation and sensation in the body.

Breathing is also a way to develop your ability to pay attention and be present in each moment. When someone learns to meditate, often the breath is the first tool of mindfulness.

When you are paying attention to your breath, you are paying attention to what is happening in that very moment in your body, and you can begin cultivating the ability to clear the mind clutter and notice physical sensations more fully.

Ready to practice pleasure with us? We are exploring erotic breathwork and more in our membership community, The Pleasure Pod! Join Us!