Pleasure Mechanics

Q& A: Handjob Vs. Blowjob

Question::

Hi. I’m thinking of ordering your hand job video. Question though. Can a hand job be just as pleasurable and sexy as a blowjob? I want to get a handjob cause I don’t want to risk std/sti from blowjobs.

Thanks!

Jason

Answer:: 

Hey Jason!

Thanks for being in touch. I LOVE this email because I can say your situation is perfect for what we offer. Handjobs can be amazing – the hands can deliver a huge range of sensations unavailable in any other way. Oral sex is a totally amazing experience, and I hesitate to compare them, but a good handjob can be just as transcendent. Most handjobs are totally boring because people stick to one or two strokes. Our handjob video guide shows you tons of ways to stimulate the penis for maximum sensation. Handjobs are also great to prolong arousal, keeping a guy suspended in pleasure for longer than he can believe. I strongly encourage you to explore going through the guide a few times with your lover, and then just playing and discovering which strokes are your favorite (my favorite? “endless penetration” – so fun!)
And you are right that it is 100% safe sex – great to be able to give one another so much pleasure without any of the worry!
Cheers,
Chris
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Responsive Desire

Let’s face it: life is busy, our to-do lists are long and at the end of the day it can feel exhausting to think about getting intimate.

But if you wait until you are in the mood, you might be caught waiting for far longer than you want.

What if instead you sought out a pleasure you are ready to say yes to, and then the next?

This is the essential difference between .

So here is a simple choice that can do wonders for your overall pleasure, joy and intimate connection: find a pleasure to say yes to, and let that be the spark in a responsive desire cycle. Let one pleasure lead to the next, as it feels good and right in the moment. This isn’t about faking anything – in fact it’s about finding your most authentic yes.

If exploring responsive desire with a lover, meet wherever you both can show up fully. Go for a walk or sit on the couch and talk. Play a game or workout together. Ask to cuddle. Choose to get naked, get in bed and simply explore full body touch.

Don’t put pressure on the situation, don’t have an agenda to go all the way. Just connect. Laugh. Touch. Then notice how you feel.

Most of the time, your body will start warming up and feeling really good, your mind will relax and you’ll say things like “Why don’t we do this EVERY night?”

This “get naked and touch” advice is even more important for those of us who don’t often experience the lightning bolt feeling of horniness or spontaneous desire. Some people are simply more likely to feel aroused and ready for intimacy once they are already in an erotic situation (naked and touching their lover!) rather than spontaneously as they are washing up after dinner.

Once you are naked and in bed, focus on full body touch, using all of the strokes you have learned from the . Then, if you find yourself aroused, you can move on to or other kinds of orgasmic stimulation. But remember that even a few moments of full body touch is enough to trigger your brain’s pleasure response, create head-to-toe relaxation and release all the health benefits of touch. Make a few minutes of full body touch part of your daily routine and you’ll notice tremendous benefits for your health and your relationship.

So don’t wait to be in the mood for intimacy. Choose to get naked and start touching and see what happens!

Scrotum

The scrotum is a part of the male sexual system. It is the home of the testicles, otherwise known as the “balls” on male mammals.

Many men appreciate skilled touch on the scrotum as part of foreplay. Check out our advice on How To Stimulate The Scrotum