Pleasure Mechanics

Perineum Pleasures

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Discover the powerful pleasure potential of the perineum in this podcast episode, where Speaking of Sex hosts Chris and Charlotte Rose share all about the perineum, why it is so important in pelvic anatomy, and how to stimulate the perineum for more pleasure, arousal and relaxation.

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Between the genitals and the anus is the perineum. This is a highly sensitive area that should not be overlooked, as it is an intersection of pelvic muscles, blood flow and nerve pathways. Chris loves the pelvic floor musculature so much they have it tattooed on their back! Check out their pelvic floor tattoos here

On all bodies, perineal stimulation can relax the very common chronic muscular constriction that limits blood flow to the genitals and reduces sexual sensation. Perineal stimulation also adds all new layers of sensation and interest to many different kinds of sexual play.

External prostate milking can be done via the perineum. You need deep pressure to reach the prostate through the sling of muscles that comprise the pelvic floor.

To discover how to add perineum stimulation as part of foreplay, erotic massage, fingering, handjobs, anal play and prostate massage, check out all of the stroke-by-stroke videos in our Erotic Touch Mastery online courses.

Sexual Confidence

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Sexual confidence is a feeling state that so many of us want more of, but it can feel elusive or out of reach to attain. How do we build sexual confidence? What does sexual confidence look and feel like – for you specifically?

In this podcast episode we tackle the elusive question of gaining sexual confidence – and why we might want to always be turning towards vulnerability and awkwardness in order to build new arenas of confidence and growth.

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Erotic Grief

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Erotic Grief includes a vast range of experiences of erotic loss, longing and loss of belonging. Erotic grief includes the grief of sexual assault and abuse, but also medical loss and trauma, infertility and reproductive health, and not only the loss of belonging due to shame and fear of coming out as our true selves, but what we might lose when we do dare to be more authentic. Erotic Grief is a vast category of what researchers call “disenfranchised grief” – grief that has no formal social support and often goes unnamed and unrecognized, yet carried with us often for a lifetime.

In this tender and heartful podcast episode, we discuss Erotic Grief and how we might develop more strategies to honor, support and tend to the grief we all experience in life.

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In general we talk so little about grief in our culture, and we almost never talk about the experience of erotic grief. This already tender experience may be compounded by the experience of aloneness that pervades a subject as private as any loss around our erotic or sexual selves.

Grief is a universal experience. While there is a vast spectrum of how we experience grief in our lifetimes, what is also true is that we all experience this emotional experience. And we often feel so alone in that experience, when in truth so many other people are grieving right along with us in silence and isolation.

What is important is that we bring some tender attention to this private terrain. Many of us may not have named, or had enough support around these issues. When we make caring space to feel these uncomfortable emotions, to honor and witness these stories of ours, we can begin to allow some integration of these parts of ourselves and our life experience. We discuss how we can provide support and be there for other people we care about who may be going through challenging and private erotic grief. 

Once we have made space to honor and hold our grief, we can begin to find our way back to the erotic aliveness that may be available to us on the other side of this experience. We explore being able to hold the both/and of joy and grief, death and aliveness and make space for our full spectrum of feeling, and explore the erotic nature of grief itself.

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Grief

Grief is one of the universal human experiences, the sorrowful feeling of loss, longing and loss of belonging. Grief is a deeply felt set of emotions, a full body experience that can be fully overwhelming in acute stages while also lasting a lifetime as a chronic companion. We all feel grief, and we all need tools to tend to grief and learn to grieve while also coming back to the pleasure, joy and connection of being alive.

Here are some curated Pleasure Mechanics resources for you to support you, no matter what you are grieving. Permission to feel it all.

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Open Deeply with Kate Loree

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In this episode we explore how to navigate consensual non-monogamy in relationships. We talk with Kate Loree, sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamy and author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships. 

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We cover what the differences are between the terms Consensual Non Monogamy, Ethical Non Monogamy, Swinging, Relationship Anarchy and Polyamory. We explore strategies for what to do when uncomfortable emotions like jealousy and insecurity arise. We discuss how our attachment styles influence our intimate relationships as well as approaches for how to communicate effectively within relationships.

Whether you are single, partnered in a monogamous relationship or exploring an open relationship, there are approaches, tools and ideas in this podcast episode that may be useful for expanding the love, care and connection you experience in your life.

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