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Just Hold Me : The Erotic Power of Holding Still

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Just hold me! Sometimes, just being held in full loving presence is exactly what is needed. In this episode we explore the erotic power of holding and being held, holding still, self-holds, a pause during arousal, holding one another in a long hug, and even holding one another in compassionate conversation or quiet presence!

Being held is a deep luxury that we can all experience and generate for ourselves and one another. In this episode we share lots of practical strategies and explorations so you can feel more held, hold the people you love in more exquisite attention, and generate the boundless pleasure, joy and connection that comes from the simple act of holding.

Be held! And behold the power of holding!

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Ritualizing Romance

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“I want more romance” and “I want more romantic sex” are themes in many of the emails we receive from our listeners, and while the yearning for “more romance” is so common, what each individual means by this phrase and what it would look like to experience “more romance” is wildly and wonderfully unique to each of us.

When we talk about “romance” with our global community, we learn how specific, personal and culturally laden the experience, desire and appetite for romance is to us individual humans. And yet we also notice the deeply human desires to feel seen, cherished and connected.

Valentine’s Day is a day filled with ritualized romance – but it is not our only opportunity to ritualize romance in order to feel, express and celebrate romance more fully!

In this episode we explore what it means to ritualize romance, cultural scripts of romance, and how to create your own personal and meaningful romantic rituals.

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When exploring our personal relationships to the notion of “romance” it is essential that we get off script about romance and start getting specific about what feels most romantic to us as individual erotic beings, at this stage in our life. Here are some questions that may bring up meaningful insights into your own relationship with “romance”

  • What emotional acts or gestures feel romantic to you?
  • Of your (sub)culture’s romantic scripts, which ones turn you on, and are there any that turn you off?
  • Is romance even something you want? If so, how much?
  • What is the most romantic thing someone has ever done for you?
  • When you think of a “romantic date” what sensual details emerge?
  • Are sex and romance connected for you?
  • Do you have romantic friendships? How do you express your emotional intimacy and closeness with non-sexual partners?
  • Is there anything you do for yourself that feels romantic?
  • What acts of self-romance might you choose to experience more of?
  • What feels most romantic, to you?
  • What would a more romantic relationship look and feel like?
  • How do you want to get more romantic in expressing how you feel to those you love?

Here are curated resources for you to explore romance, getting more romantic, making sex more romantic, and experiencing more romance in your life.

Resources On Romance and Romantic Relationships

Our #1 recommendation if you are ready to deepen your experience of intimacy and relationship is our friend and mentor Dr. Alexandra Solomon’s online course, INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS 101. We are enrolled students and this course has both guided us through a tough season and deepened our relational skills and experience of romance – even after 15 years as erotic educators! We can’t recommend this course highly enough! This course is a deep dive and will give you a comprehensive foundation in the skills of relational and sexual self-awareness— the skills you need to create a thriving and healthy intimate partnership. Enroll here, a discount is built right into the link for members of the Pleasure Mechanics community.

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Romance

What feels most romantic, to you? What would a more romantic relationship look and feel like? How do you want to get more romantic? When thinking about romance, it is essential that we get off script about romance and start getting specific about what feels most romantic to us as individual erotic beings, at this stage in our life.

Here are curated resources for you to explore romance, getting more romantic, making sex more romantic, and experiencing more romance in your life.

Resources On Romance and Romantic Relationships

Our #1 recommendation if you are ready to deepen your experience of intimacy and relationship is our friend and mentor Dr. Alexandra Solomon’s online course, INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS 101. We are enrolled students and this course has both guided us through a tough season and deepened our relational skills and experience of romance – even after 15 years as erotic educators! We can’t recommend this course highly enough! This course is a deep dive and will give you a comprehensive foundation in the skills of relational and sexual self-awareness— the skills you need to create a thriving and healthy intimate partnership. Enroll in INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS 101 here.

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Too Ticklish To Touch?

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Are you or your partner too ticklish to touch? When you try to relax into massage, do you instead feel jittery, anxious, nervous or ticklish? Do you tend to get overwhelmed when trying to get aroused? If any of this feels familiar, this episode is for you! No one is “too ticklish to touch” no matter how persistent this experience is, there are strategies to guide the body into relaxing into touch and arousal.

In this episode we share ways to talk about being too ticklish to touch, how to create a more supportive touch environment and share lots of professional touch strategies to overcome feeling too ticklish to touch! Learn how to slow down, sink in and relax into touch and arousal.

Ready to learn the art of erotic touch, head to toe? Get started tonight from the comfort of your own home with our online courses.

We have been teaching the art of erotic touch since 2006 and believe learning full body couples massage is one of the best investments you can make in your erotic life and overall relationship wellbeing.

We’ve taught tens of thousands of lovers how to touch with more skill & confidence. Are you next?

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Cannabis, Pleasure & Connection with Shango Los

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In this episode we are in conversation with Shango Los, host of the Shaping Fire podcast, about the connections between cannabis, pleasure and erotic intimacy.

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We explore the relationship between cannabis and pleasure, and how we humans can deepen our connection with the plant itself, and with one another by partaking in the plant together.

Cannabis is a generous plant that brings humans pleasure, relief, joy and connection in so many forms – as well as offering highly useful fibers, a nourishing food source and so many other benevolent offerings. For tens of thousands of years humans have been in relationship with this plant in ways that span the sacramental, medicinal and recreational arenas of human culture.

No matter your current relationship with cannabis, this episode will offer information, insight and inspiration on how we can deepen our pleasurable connection to this powerful plant.

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