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Black Sexuality Professionals To Follow On Instagram

Here are just some of the many brilliant black sexuality professionals on Instagram, whose accounts will blow open your heart, elevate your mind and educate your entire being.

Whenever possible please support black and POC educators generously and directly – use the links in their accounts, follow their calls to action and otherwise compensate them for their time and labor – presence on Instagram is work for educators – shower those you benefit from with love and resources!

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I choked, I shared Alana, I celebrated being oh so queer in every way. link in bio. Posted @withrepost • @livinginthisqueerbody “ONCE YOU QUEER YOUR LOVE LIFE, THERE IS NO GOING BACK” AMB Adrienne Maree Brown is author of Emergent Strategy: Shaping Change, Changing Worlds and Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good, and the co-editor of Octavia’s Brood: Science Fiction from Social Justice Movements. She is a writer, social justice facilitator, pleasure activist, healer and doula living in Detroit. #livinginthisqueerbody #pleasureactivism #emergentstrategy #disorderedeating #queerpleasure #queermovementbuilding #queertwerking

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If we had conversations about sex growing up, very few of them included anything about pleasure. We want you to know that you have a right to experience pleasure and that pleasure is a form of resistance in a world that wants us to normalize and internalize trauma and self hate. Because no one taught us, learning to clearly communicate your wants, desires, and needs with your partner(s) can be challenging. Here’s an exercise that may help – Give yourself 15-30 minutes to reflect on your sexual needs, wants, and desires. Then record them — write them down, save it in your phone, or record a voice memo. Think about where you like to be kissed. Or how you like to be held. Or where you want your partner(s) to touch you. Be descriptive. Are these kisses hard or soft? Do you like gentle touches or do you like to be spanked? Do you like the lights on or off? What kind of sex do you want to be having more and less of? Would you like to have more solo time to masturbate? Or do you like to masturbate with your partner? Identifying your needs and desires is a major first step in being able to have pleasurable sex with yourself and others. After you identify your needs and wants, ask yourself what are you not asking for that you need more of to ensure satisfying and pleasurable sexual experiences? – – – Visit the link in bio to see all of the videos in our Intercourse series and to sign up for our 9-Day Intercourse Challenge! We offer activities that promote sexual growth, healing, and pleasure.

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Porn and sexually explicit media are not the enemy- silence and shame around sexuality are. What will truly prepare a child is the relationship and ongoing support that’s fostered with the caring adults in their world. The open conversations that start early, are ongoing, and send the message that no talk is taboo. . Don’t assign porn more power than your own influence, and don’t miss the opportunities to support a child’s sexual health. Ensure that the young people in your world are prepared to make sense of what they feel and what comes their way. Be a safe, shame-free space for their curiosities to land. . This is an opportunity to create conscious consumers of any form of media, whether it is fantasy, “reality,” violent, racist, sexist, or sexualized. And if you need tools and strategies to support your next talks, join us this Wednesday for our first webinar in our monthly Tackle the Talks series— “Tackling Talks About Porn (So You’re Prepared, Not Scared).” Follow the link in our bio for details and to register. Playback links will be sent to all registrants, so you do not have to be available at the time of the live webinar. We look forward to sharing the insights that support confident, sex positive (not fear- or shame-based) conversations in families.

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I get asked about being confident often. My answer is ALWAYS the same. My confidence is rooted in everything except what I look like. Looks can change on a dime, but my intelligence, sense of humor, and style are big parts of my personhood. What are some things you're confident about?

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This post was born out of the amount of talk around healing in BDSM. While healing is possible, I think it’s important to cover everything. There are so many areas for this subject matter to cover and hopefully I will be able to discuss them in the future starting with race and privilege. — In all that you consider within the realm of BDSM, consider yourself most of all. ————————— 📸: @fae.ruin for Subverting Transness

A post shared by Hi. I’m BlakSyn. Read My Bio. (@kinkyblackeducator) on Jan 24, 2020 at 9:05am PST

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Sometimes when we crave touch the most, we turn to our sexual or romantic partners. But what happens when we’re uncoupled or without a regular partner and masturbation just ain’t cutting it? Thankfully, going without touch until your next rendezvous doesn’t have to be in the cards! • • Check out these 5 simple ways to satisfy your skin hunger this weekend! • • • #TheSensibleSexpert #SexEd #SexualHealth #SexualWellness #BlackWomen #BlackFemmes #Women #Femmes #MentalHealth #MentalHealthMatters #Touch #Skin #Friday #WeekendVibes #CheersToTheWeekend #SelfCare #SelfLove

A post shared by Dr. Wendasha Jenkins Hall (@thesensiblesexpert) on Dec 13, 2019 at 6:25pm PST

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Today is my DOCTORVERSARY!!! I want to shout out some dope Black Sex educators!! it's Love month, it's Black History Month so putting these two together only makes sense!!!! 5 years ago I completed my PhD and whew chillay has it been a journey! My knowledge grows daily of course, my passion even more so! I l🖤 #shamefreesexed and I 🖤 being a #couplesclinician. There are some fun projects being developed here at The Institute for Sexuality & Intimacy, LLC and I'm excited to share them with y'all! Stay Tuned and thanks for following! Inspired by the dope @blkgirlmanifest

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The #SexTalk…. How do you #Communicate your sexual desires to #Yourself #YourFriends and #YourPartners. In this #JTTT we explore ways to communicate your wants & needs in the bedroom…. #UnapologeticSexologist #SafeWords #ConsentIsSexy

A post shared by Michelle Hope, M.A. (@mhsexpert) on Jan 21, 2020 at 8:21pm PST

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DON’T WORRY, I MISSED YALL TOO 🤗 • • • It’s been QUITE a summer but I’m ready to bring you all amazing episodes this fall. As I’m gearing up for this season, I want to hear from you: what topics do you want to hear covered? Sound off in the comments below 👇🏾 • PS: if you want to prep for the launch of Szn 2, make sure you’re all caught up with the show’s previous episodes. Just search “Sex Ed in Color” wherever you get your favorite podcasts!

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Women and femmes of color are often the first to take care of others without thinking of their own needs. This guided journal and coloring book gives woc the opportunity to explore the relationships in their life AND take some time to relax. bit.ly/forcoloredgirlswhoneedabreak

A post shared by Chanta Blue, LCSW, CST 💕💚 (@nj_sextherapist) on Apr 21, 2019 at 1:31pm PDT

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Great time at ECU if you attended comment below. #SouthernSexologist™

A post shared by Tanya Bass,MS,MEd,CHES®,CSE (@thetanyambass) on Feb 5, 2020 at 5:02pm PST

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I want you, just not right now! These are two that can be very confusing for many people, for several reasons. This is the quick dirty version, but desire versus arousal can be more complex than this. Sometimes women don't desire sex until engaged in sexual activity. Sometimes people experience sexual arousal spontaneously. Sometimes our brains and genitals are not in sync and that's okay. We'll discuss arousal non-concordance later!

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#oneminutesextips Its time to create a space for you to be honest. There are a lot of you that follow me that can’t even use the things I teach because you have acknowledged your truth. You have the nudes and dirty talk video but your partner doesn’t really engage with your nudes, you have the masturbation class but your partner doesn’t think you should be using toys … you’ve been dying to use your toys because you’ve never actually had an orgasm with your partner … his list goes on and on. The truth is we all still have so much to learn in this world but you won’t ever learn it if you can’t start with YOUR truth. Don’t go into 2020 without acknowledging the one thing you feel that you can’t say, don’t go into 2020 without VOCALIZING the things that you KNOW are standing in the way of your amazing sex life. It’s time out with faking the funk… get your best sex life! PERIODDDDDDD yah a friend or repost 🖤

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This is exactly what I needed on this here 12-12 Full Moon. Gratitude to The Effing Foundation for believing in this work to use kink and bdsm to better establish consent. ❤ Man, I have some stories to tell that inspired this project. Stories that believe in transparency, accountability, and the complexities of abuse and violence. Stories to challenge victimhood and disposability culture ahem…with receipts. Stories that illustrate how we actually have liittle/no framework for establishing accountability after rupture. To acknowledge instances vs patterns. Stories that make consent a priority…and discretion to who we engage with an absolute must. ❤ I've done work in the erotic for about 6 years as an organizer but over 10 in some form or fashion. But it only took 3 months and 2 short lived relationships to shift ALL OF THAT. Trauma bonds create patterns like these…and this work has been my backbone to help break those cycles. This is about to get real interesting ❤ Let the play begin! 2020 – Kinkiest YEAR EVAAAAA. . . . . .

A post shared by BDSM | Kink Coach/Educator (@coachfelyne) on Dec 12, 2019 at 4:58pm PST

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Who can relate? That post therapy clarity is life changing. • #LetsTalkBruh #BlackMasculinity #TherapyForBlackMen

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Let’s test it 🤷🏾‍♀️ Give a holler if IG is annoying the fuck out of you too. – 🎵Someday & Bossanova by icons8.com/music

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