Pleasure Mechanics

Black Sexuality Professionals To Follow On Instagram

Here are just some of the many brilliant black sexuality professionals on Instagram, whose accounts will blow open your heart, elevate your mind and educate your entire being.

Whenever possible please support black and POC educators generously and directly – use the links in their accounts, follow their calls to action and otherwise compensate them for their time and labor – presence on Instagram is work for educators – shower those you benefit from with love and resources!

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If we had conversations about sex growing up, very few of them included anything about pleasure. We want you to know that you have a right to experience pleasure and that pleasure is a form of resistance in a world that wants us to normalize and internalize trauma and self hate. Because no one taught us, learning to clearly communicate your wants, desires, and needs with your partner(s) can be challenging. Here’s an exercise that may help – Give yourself 15-30 minutes to reflect on your sexual needs, wants, and desires. Then record them — write them down, save it in your phone, or record a voice memo. Think about where you like to be kissed. Or how you like to be held. Or where you want your partner(s) to touch you. Be descriptive. Are these kisses hard or soft? Do you like gentle touches or do you like to be spanked? Do you like the lights on or off? What kind of sex do you want to be having more and less of? Would you like to have more solo time to masturbate? Or do you like to masturbate with your partner? Identifying your needs and desires is a major first step in being able to have pleasurable sex with yourself and others. After you identify your needs and wants, ask yourself what are you not asking for that you need more of to ensure satisfying and pleasurable sexual experiences? – – – Visit the link in bio to see all of the videos in our Intercourse series and to sign up for our 9-Day Intercourse Challenge! We offer activities that promote sexual growth, healing, and pleasure.

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Porn and sexually explicit media are not the enemy- silence and shame around sexuality are. What will truly prepare a child is the relationship and ongoing support that’s fostered with the caring adults in their world. The open conversations that start early, are ongoing, and send the message that no talk is taboo. . Don’t assign porn more power than your own influence, and don’t miss the opportunities to support a child’s sexual health. Ensure that the young people in your world are prepared to make sense of what they feel and what comes their way. Be a safe, shame-free space for their curiosities to land. . This is an opportunity to create conscious consumers of any form of media, whether it is fantasy, “reality,” violent, racist, sexist, or sexualized. And if you need tools and strategies to support your next talks, join us this Wednesday for our first webinar in our monthly Tackle the Talks series— “Tackling Talks About Porn (So You’re Prepared, Not Scared).” Follow the link in our bio for details and to register. Playback links will be sent to all registrants, so you do not have to be available at the time of the live webinar. We look forward to sharing the insights that support confident, sex positive (not fear- or shame-based) conversations in families.

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#oneminutesextips Its time to create a space for you to be honest. There are a lot of you that follow me that can’t even use the things I teach because you have acknowledged your truth. You have the nudes and dirty talk video but your partner doesn’t really engage with your nudes, you have the masturbation class but your partner doesn’t think you should be using toys … you’ve been dying to use your toys because you’ve never actually had an orgasm with your partner … his list goes on and on. The truth is we all still have so much to learn in this world but you won’t ever learn it if you can’t start with YOUR truth. Don’t go into 2020 without acknowledging the one thing you feel that you can’t say, don’t go into 2020 without VOCALIZING the things that you KNOW are standing in the way of your amazing sex life. It’s time out with faking the funk… get your best sex life! PERIODDDDDDD yah a friend or repost 🖤

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This is exactly what I needed on this here 12-12 Full Moon. Gratitude to The Effing Foundation for believing in this work to use kink and bdsm to better establish consent. ❤ Man, I have some stories to tell that inspired this project. Stories that believe in transparency, accountability, and the complexities of abuse and violence. Stories to challenge victimhood and disposability culture ahem…with receipts. Stories that illustrate how we actually have liittle/no framework for establishing accountability after rupture. To acknowledge instances vs patterns. Stories that make consent a priority…and discretion to who we engage with an absolute must. ❤ I've done work in the erotic for about 6 years as an organizer but over 10 in some form or fashion. But it only took 3 months and 2 short lived relationships to shift ALL OF THAT. Trauma bonds create patterns like these…and this work has been my backbone to help break those cycles. This is about to get real interesting ❤ Let the play begin! 2020 – Kinkiest YEAR EVAAAAA. . . . . .

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