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Hundreds of couples have discovered the thrills of erotic spanking with our Erotic Spanking Mastery Course. Beyond the immediate benefits of thrilling sex, many find that there are unexpected benefits to their relationship.

We recently received an email from a happy member of the Erotic Spanking Course:

Hi Ladies,

Your course on Erotic Spanking has worked wonders for my sex life. My wife loves it, she can’t seem to get it enough. Most of the time it isn’t followed by sex, she just enjoys it. One unexpected thing that came from the course is that it has changed our marriage in many ways. She used to be very argumentative and pick fights with me, now she doesn’t. She also used to challenge me on so many things; now, not so much. I’m not totally sure if the spankings are the reason behind our more peaceful home life, but it is the only recent change in our relationship that I can point to. What are your thoughts? Thanks!

Peace,

Sean

After this podcast aired, we heard back from Sean:

Hello Chris,

Thanks for answering my question. I’m glad it inspired a good discussion! My wife listened to your podcast after I did and she half jokingly said that maybe spanking actually did ‘correct’ her behavior. This of course was never the intention. (I think this goes without saying but it never hurts to add.) I definitely think there is a lot that is accurate about your comments. I appreciate how you both thoroughly made the distinction between erotic spanking and punishment. We are Christians (Catholics, actually) and we find the idea of ‘Christian’ domestic discipline so abusive.

To answer your question, I did end up speaking to my wife about how our relationship changed since I started spanking her. She has always had control issues, so if I ever took the lead on something she used to always challenge me or pick fights. It was like she couldn’t relax unless she was in control. So when I got her to let me take complete control with these spankings and she received so much pleasure from it, she began to be to be more relaxed about other aspects in our life. And over time when I started to become more confident with the spanking she started seeing me as a stronger man she can trust more with taking the lead sometimes. It allowed her be more ‘submissive’ (I’m not sure if that is the right word to describe it but it’s the first word that comes to mind). Again to reiterate: her and I are complete equals as far as I’m concerned and I certainly don’t think I has any authority over her.

Thanks again for answering my question! Have an awesome day!

Peace,

Sean

Hit the play button at the top of this page to hear our take on why erotic spanking has created marital harmony for this couple. We discuss the unexpected benefits of erotic spanking that can totally transform your life. We also talk about why some couples pick fights with one another when really what they need is more intense sex and the opportunity to dominate one another in the bedroom.

Erotic spanking may be exactly what your marriage needs! Here are our rules for Wife Spanking to make sure it strengthens your relationship and does not create marital meltdown!

Wife Spanking Rule #1: Always For Pleasure

All of the erotic techniques we offer here at Pleasure Mechanics are designed so you can have an orgasmic sex life and loving relationship. Wife spanking is no exception to this rule. Erotic spanking can be incredibly pleasurable, arousing and even romantic. It never has to hurt (even when it gets intense!) and should always leave you feeling relaxed and flooded with pleasure.

Wife Spanking Rule #2: Never For Punishment

Spanking your wife should never be a punishment or a way to control her behavior.

Do not spank your wife as punish for real world infringements. This can quickly create resent and ruin your relationship.

Do not spank without the erotic context and active consent, this is just abuse!

Wife Spanking Rule #3: Get Specific

Does your wife want to be spanked with lots of sensuality and romance? Or does she want a firm, hard spanking followed by rough sex?

Her desires may change day to day, so always ask her about what she specifically wants before you start any erotic spanking session.

Wife Spanking Rule #4: Always Warm Up

In our Erotic Spanking Mastery Course, we show you how to create a slow, steady warm up that allows the body to release endorphins. These natural pain killers allow your wife to literally get high on sensation!

With a slow warm up, she will be ready for harder spanks and they will feel intense but not painful. Each blow will create a peak of sensation and then quickly melt into delicious pleasurable release.

Wife Spanking Rule #5: Tears Can Be Cathartic

Spanking can create much needed emotional and physical catharsis (a purging release of built up tension) so if your wife tears up, don’t stop suddenly.

If you are unsure you can check in by asking “Would you like me to continue?” or say “I’m going to continue until you use your safeword. Let it all go, I love you.” With these words you are giving her permission to relax and release as you continue to spank. Many people find this kind of catharsis very cleansing.

Wife Spanking Rule #6: Being Dominant Does Not Give You Authority

Playing with power in the bedroom can be a great way to explore new erotic terrain and create thrills and excitement. But being dominant during sex does not give you authority over your wife outside of the bedroom.

Consensual erotic power play can only exist between two equal individuals. In all areas of your relationship, create balance and mutual respect. This creates the trust to enjoy power play in your sex life.

Wife Spanking Rule #7: Erotic Spanking is NOT Christian Domestic Discipline

See rules #1 through #6!

Sharing an erotic spanking experience is not the same thing as using spanking to discipline your wife, change her behavior or punish her for sins. Christian Domestic Discipline follows very different guidelines than Erotic Spanking, and the two should never be confused!

Wife Spanking Rule #8: Spanking Isn’t Just For Wives!

Men love to get spanked too! Imagine being over your wife’s knee, your body ready for her touch, quivering with anticipation. Spanking sends pleasurable vibrations through the male pelvis and straight to the penis, so many guys find it incredibly arousing. It can pair well with handjobs and other forms of sex play, so let your imagination run wild. Getting spanked doesn’t make you any less of a man – in fact you may just find it makes you feel wildly masculine and powerful!

Kink and BDSM are now mainstream topics of conversation, and more couples than ever are exploring the kinky side of life.

We know that kinky play can reinvigorate your love life, bring you new levels of satisfaction and allow you to express yourself more fully. When done with the right skills, kink can open up a vast terrain of pleasure and fun for any couple.

If you are ready to explore erotic spanking, join our Erotic Spanking Mastery Course for immediate access to everything you need to know to enjoy the thrills of spanking in your marriage. You’ll master the skills of spanking your wife while minimizing the risks. Enroll now and start your erotic adventure tonight!