50+ Free Sex Questions and Conversation Starters For Intimate Conversations from PleasureMechanics.com
Questions About Growing Up & Learning About Sex
- Where did you learn about sex when you were a kid?
- What were you taught about masturbation as a child?
- Who was one of your first celebrity crushes? What attracted you to them?
- What is something you believed as a kid that you now know is a myth?
- What were you taught about love and marriage?
- Who were the happiest adults you knew as a kid?
- How did your family talk about LGBTQ+ issues?
- Have you ever been to or been in a pride parade?
- Who was one of the first queer people you met?
- How did your family deal with conflict? What did repair look like?
- What big emotions were safe in your family? Which were not allowed?
- What were some of your first sexual experiences? Were they wanted?
- Who did you talk to about your first sexual experiences? How did they respond, and how did their response impact you?
- If you could go back and tell your 6 year old self anything, what would you say?
Questions About Sexuality, Culture & Identity
- What do you think an ideal sex culture would look like?
- Why do you think sexuality has been oppressed over history?
- Do you think humans are meant to be monogamous? Why or why not?
- What words do you use to describe your gender identity and sexual orientation? What other words have you used in your life?
- What do you think should be included in all sex education for kids? for teens? for adults?
Questions About Love & Relationships
- What drew you to me when we first met?
- What values are most important to you in our relationship?
- What is your love language and what are some examples of how you most feel loved?
- What is one of your favorite memories of our first few years?
- What about our relationship are you most grateful for?
- How can I be a better partner to you?
- What is one simple thing I could do for you to express my love?
- What do you need most when you feel stressed? sad? angry? worried?
- When in the past year have you felt most loved?
- What would the chapters in The Story Of Us be named?
- What songs would be on the soundtrack of your life story? our love story?
Questions About Fantasies & Desires
- How do you think about the difference between Fantasies and Desires?
- What is one thing you find hot in fantasy but don’t actually want to explore in real life?
- What is one thing you want to experience more of in real life?
- What is something you’ve always wanted to try but never had the chance?
- What is one of your Peak Erotic Experiences?
- What do you think is one of the hottest scenes in a movie and why?
- What Do You Want Right Now?
Questions To Ask Before An Erotic Encounter
- What are you into?
- Is there anything I can do to make you feel safe?
- Is there anything in your past you want me to know about?
- Do we need a safe word?
- How will we be practicing safe sex?
- What does this mean to you?
- Do you want this?
Questions To Ask During An Erotic Encounter
- Will you tell me when this feels just right?
- Would you like me to go deeper/slower/faster or is this good?
- What would make this feel even better right now?
Questions To Ask After An Erotic Encounter
- Can I bring you some water, a snack or anything else?
- What are you aware of?
- What were your favorite moments?
- Did you feel overwhelmed at any point?
- What was the most exciting moment for you?
- Was there anything you wanted more of but didn’t ask for?
- What could have made it even better?
Conversation Starters About Giving & Receiving:
- What was the best gift you received as a kid?
- What was one of the best gifts you ever gave to someone else?
- What is a gift you wanted as a kid and never received?
- In your professional life, do you think that you Give or Receive more frequently?
- What is your favorite kind of massage to receive: foot, shoulder or hand?
- Which is easier for you in general, Giving or Receiving?
- When you are sick how do you like to be taken care of?
- Would you rather receive a love letter or be made a homemade meal?
- What is your favorite position for cuddling?
- Would you rather go on a weekend getaway or receive an expensive romantic gift?
- If you had $500 to spend on a date, what would you do?
- If you had three hours and $0 for a date, what would you do?
