Expanding Orgasmic Capacity

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Multiple orgasms, squirting orgasms, clitoral orgasms, oh my! We break down the complexity of orgasms and demystify all the hype about different types of orgasms.

A listener wrote in wanting to know more about female multiple orgasms. After listening to our podcast and deepening their sexual intimacy, he and his wife were experiencing new levels of pleasure and orgasm and wanted to know what exactly was going on.

Specifically, his question was about female ejaculation (a.k.a. “squirting”) and if multiple female ejaculations count as multiple orgasms. And, if his wife could have multiple ejaculatory orgasms, why did she feel “done” after one clitoral orgasm?

There is a lot of confusion out there about different “types” of orgasms. Clitoral orgasms, g-spot orgasms, a-spot orgasms, vaginal orgasms, cervical orgasms, anal orgasms, blended orgasms, multiple orgasms, squirting orgasms… and many sex educators will tell you that one type or another is better or more intense than another. All of this confusion and focus on creating a hierarchy of orgasms doesn’t serve anyone!

In this episode, we share a new perspective on orgasm and how to slowly expand your erotic capacity without worrying about different types of orgasms or which is better than another. Orgasm is all about pleasure, release and connection – so it is up to you to explore what your body is capable of at this moment, and to give yourself permission to explore what you want to experience next.

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Here is the question that inspired this episode:

Hello! I’m a 46 year old man from Texas.

Before I asked my question and I want to thank you so very much for your wonderful podcast. I’ve gone through a transformational change in my last 3 years focusing on presence in my life and that includes the area of sexuality.

Your podcast has been a part of the ongoing work on doing to living my life as my best self. Discussions you’ve had on your podcast has helped me open pathways and conversations with my wife that have increased our intimacy as well as our erotic pleasure. So from the bottom of my heart and truly the bottom of my soul thank you very much for the important work you do that helps so many people including me.

Now for my question. My wife is a higher drive libido than me, which we have discussed and now talk about and openly accept. Her body is such a beautiful thing and capable of incredible wondrous things. One of them is that she is able to squirt and she drives a lot of pleasure from that. That’s a recent discovery that is kind of out from are increased level of intimacy. Sometimes our love making sessions she will squirt a few times to a dozen times. It’s not an all the time every time thing. But when it does happen it’s really pleasurable for her and also for me to be a part of her life in those moments and share that experience with her as a giver.

Our recent conversation about that led to the discussion of multiple orgasms. And you hear about the female body being capable of multiple orgasms. I’ve listened to your podcast and from other sources talk about the recovery time necessary for women being less and they can sometimes be led to multiple orgasms.

But what my wife and I were wondering was when you guys and other sexologists speak about multiple orgasms are you talking about clitoral orgasms anal orgasms or things like her squirting included in the conversation? This is an honest question that neither of us knew the answer to and we were both smiling and laughing as we were trying to figure it out. We are also very careful to be cautious about caring so much about the answer to this question. The fact is she likes the way it feels and she’s able to squirt multiple times and that is a beautiful incredible thing and we’re going to continue to enjoy that regardless of labels! But we’re also wondering if perhaps her body is capable of more than one clitoral orgasm. To date she says that once she has a clitoral orgasm she’s done. And I trust her to communicate what she is feeling and desires and is capable of. But since we’ve gone through a period of Discovery and Awakening she is curious if all this talk about women being multi-orgasmic is something she is already experiencing or something she perhaps is capable of via her clitoris that she hasn’t discovered yet. It’s also entirely possible that it’s not something her body is capable of.

This turned into a really long email in question. I think when you boil it down the question is pretty simple. When sexologist talk about female multi-orgasmic experiences are they including these intense moments of squirting and release or are they talking about a different type of orgasm. Thank you both so much for sharing your experience lives and knowledge