Most guys want to feel sexier – but without the obvious shortcuts like lingerie or high heels, how can guys start to feel more swagger in their step? We share our thoughts on sexy clothes for guys, how to find your erotic archetype and what sexy men have in common. Then we focus on how to feel more desired by your partner, especially in long term relationships. This is a sex advice podcast you don’t want to miss.
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Hi Pleasure Mechanics,
Firstly, thanks for the great podcast. I’ve been listening to it for a couple of years now and it’s been really insightful.
I have a question about feeling sexy and how to show it outwardly. When I look at fashion I feel that it’s easier for a woman to show off her body and feel sexy because of it. They can wear short skirts, low cut tops, lingerie, makeup, a range of dresses and tops and shoes, high heels etc. Of course this does come loaded with social pressures and pandering to the male gaze, but let me put that aside for one moment.
On the male side of fashion I don’t feel there’s the same kind of seductive clothing available. When I see “sexy” males they’re either posing topless or in their underwear for a magazine shoot or they’re handsome men wearing suits. Whilst I get that looking handsome can be sexy it got me wondering, where is the male equivalent of lingerie, of short skits, revealing dresses? What can I wear that would excite my partner the same way that that clothing excites me.
Generally I just want to feel sexy. I already go the gym, and put some effort into how I look. I’m not bulging at the seams with muscles and I’m not wearing designer clothing but I do make an effort to at least look presentable.
I think part of this problem might come from my current relationship. I think my partner would agree that I’m the more tactile of the two of us. I’m nearly always the first to go in to hold hands, hug, kiss and I initiate sex most of the time and definitely lead on what we do during sex. Outside of the bedroom I’m always the one to go in for a thigh caress, breast fondle, neck kiss or just generally feeling her skin.
I’d like to have this same kind of attention. I want to feel like they can’t wait to rip my clothes off or just need to stop everything and kiss me. And, perhaps importantly, I want this to happen outside of the bedroom.
I have already communicated this to her and there has been some progress. I get that there are no easy quick fixes so I’m wondering what i can do to keep the momentum going.
Thanks for any help you can give!