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Here is how to have more spontaneous sex – without enduring the common pitfalls of quickies!
Most people want more spontaneous sex – but we also know that the body and mind need to be prepared for orgasmic, satisfying sex. Arousal takes time to build – so what space does that leave for spontaneous sex and quickies?
In this episode we cover:
- how to capture the energy and excitement of spontaneous sex
- how to prolong foreplay over days and weeks
- how to stay warm so it is easier to get hot
- the importance of spontaneous affection
- the difference between spontaneous sex and quickies
- the kind of quickies to have more of – and the kind of quickies to avoid
We also cover spontaneous sex in Episode 154, featuring Esther Perl on the myth of spontaneous sex.
This episode was inspired by the following question, submitted by a listener:
Dear Pleasure Mechanics,
My husband found you about six months ago when my relationship was really at a standstill. I never enjoyed sex the way we had been having it but didn’t know what to ask for. He hated that I wasn’t enjoying it, so stopped initiating it. Before we found you, we didn’t have sex for about a year and were both kind of giving up on it. Then through the magic of google he found you, and signed up for the foreplay course. Your course helped us start more conversations and I was able to ask for the kind of warm up I now know my body needs before I can enjoy intercourse. Turns out he was more than happy to provide once I was able to ask. For this, I thank you.
I hope I am not pushing my luck here by asking for more help. My question is about spontaneous sex. Now that I know I need lots of time for warm-up, does that rule out quickies? Is spontaneous sex ever an option?
Thanks again for all your help,
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