Oh how easy it is to compare ourselves to others! But when it comes to pleasure, there is no measure by which to compare one person’s orgasms to another. No way of measuring sexual satisfaction. Yet it is somehow easier to compare ourselves or our lovers to other people’s perceived fulfillment rather than focus on optimizing our own experience.
The grass is not greener on the other side, it is greenest where you water it. Right?
We received a letter from a dedicated husband who wanted to make sure his wife was having all the right kind of orgasms, like his girlfriends in the past. In this week’s podcast, we set him straight. First, we clear up the persistent myths about “types” of orgasms. Then, we focus him in the most positive direction: making sure his wife is having an amazing time in bed, rather than comparing her experience to ghosts from the past. Finally, we share tips for anyone who wants to amp up the intensity of their own orgasm. We give you strategies for both the giver and the receiver to fully maximize the orgasmic intensity you seek.
Remember, pleasure is a highly personal experience. there is no point comparing your experience to others. Instead, let’s all focus on maximizing our own experience and having the best erotic life possible. You in?
Here’s the letter we received from a listener:
My wife recently stumbled upon your podcast and we are now both fans. We’ve have a good sex life, but after 10 years things had cooled down until discovering Pleasure Mechanics. I’ve done some reading in the past about clitoral vs full vaginal orgasms. I’m not convinced that my wife has had full vaginal orgasms with me, just clitoral, but she says otherwise. I have been with women prior to her that clearly had full body, ground shaking orgasms and my wife’s never seem to hit her at that level. I admit I’m learning how to more intimately penetrate my wife, but are there any tips that could help her achieve fuller orgasms?