The goal is to bring massage into your relationship to be a positive physical expression of your love, affection, desire, commitment. We invite you to share massage as an expression of love.
Massage can be amazing foreplay. Massage relaxes the body, preparing it for more intense arousal. It builds up intimacy, allowing you to go deeper with one another during lovemaking. Massage also brings your attention to the entire body, allowing whatever erotic sensation you build to flow more freely, creating full body arousal and orgasms. You’ll also be developing your touch skills, communication, timing and many other skills that will simply make you a better lover.
But it is important to know that all massage will not lead into sex – it can be enjoyed for its own pleasures, without any expectation of it culminating in sex. Communicate about what your mood, hopes and expectations are before you start massage, to avoid any misunderstandings – if one of you is thinking foreplay, and the other is ready to receive a massage then drift off to sleep, there might be some hurt feelings after an otherwise pleasurable experience. Be clear if you want the massage to lead to sex, you definitely don’t want to have sex, or you are open but not sure yet and want to check in later during the massage and see how you feel then.
So enjoy massage on its own as often as you can. When you are both in the mood, use massage as extended foreplay and notice the benefits to your sex life. But don’t conflate the two – or you might find one partner avoiding massage because they don’t feel like having sex – missing an opportunity to exchange pleasurable touch and share an intimate moment. And, you can always check in after the massage and see how you feel – receiving massage may stir up erotic excitement that wasn’t there when you started!