Ready for a new sexual adventure? Here is everything you need to know to take your first steps into the world of social sex clubs and sex parties.
Sex clubs and sex parties offer a world of erotic adventure, and can be a thrilling part of a monogamish relationship. But it can be intimidating to get started and take your first baby steps into the world of social sexuality.
There are a lot of myths about sex clubs and sex parties – the top myth is that they are all about the orgy. Orgies – big piles of writhing naked bodies randomly licking, sucking and penetrating one another – are more myth than reality. But what DOES happen at sex parties is far more exciting than the orgies you see in movies.
The best first baby step into social sexual adventures is a burlesque show or dirty storytelling event. You can sit safely in the audience, participate in a titillating event, and go home and talk to your partner about it. You’ll be able to notice what comes up, if any jealousy or discomfort emerges, and see if you experience a mutual thrill in participating together.
If you enjoy being out at these kinds of events, you may want to take the next step and go to a sex club. Sex clubs are public spaces where you can pay an admission fee and participate, no invitation required. Sex clubs offer BDSM equipment and fantasy roleplaying spaces, such as medieval banquet halls, exercise rooms, doctor’s offices, and other rooms decked out for your roleplaying pleasure. For many couples it is easier to get into a roleplaying scenario when you aren’t at home surrounded by your domestic life. Sex clubs are also a great place to explore exhibitionism and voyeurism. You can also go to a sex club and just watch, never taking your clothes off or doing any sexual activity of any kind. You’ll get a feast for the eyes and be able to talk about what turned you on, what repelled you, what you found interesting and what you’d like to try together.
The great thing about sex clubs is anyone can go. But that is also the bad side – there is no exclusivity other than who can pay the admission at the door. For a more curated social sexual experience, sex parties offer another option. Sex parties tend to be invite only communities that meet regularly, usually in private homes. Once you are invited into a sex party community you’ll meet a group of people that have been selected for their ethics, etiquette and participation in that specific sex party culture.
Sex parties can be queer or straight, kinky or vanilla, alcohol fueled or sober. It may take awhile to find a community that is right for you. But once you do, you can get to know a great group of friends who get together once in awhile to have sex in the same space. You can go and just watch, go and have sex with just your partner, or slowly start to invite others into your sexual experience.
Go slowly as you explore sex clubs and sex parties. It is far better to take your time while you figure out what you want instead of doing too much too quickly and regretting it later.