If you want to last longer in bed and prolong intercourse, you can learn ejaculation control and how to separate orgasm from ejaculation. If not, the refractory period will limit just how long intercourse can last. But if you don’t stay hard as long as you want to or experience premature ejaculation, you can get creative and explore alternative ways to prolong the pleasure of intercourse, with or without an erection.
In this episode, we cover the ins and outs of prolonging intercourse, including:
- shedding the emotional anxiety that is holding you back
- communicating with your lover to avoid assumptions
- rethinking what it means to last longer in bed
- mastering all of the tools of pleasure you have available
- maintaining momentum and intensity
- keeping a sense of humor while expanding your sexual repertoire
- the place of sex toys in prolonging intercourse
This episode was inspired by an email sent in from a listener. Have a question you want answered? Be in touch!
Here’s the original email:
Back story our first 2 years together we’re amazing sex 2-3 times a day. What some would say the honeymoon phase, she would give me oral and just wanted sex all the time.
But somehow the last 2 years we have faded away from each other. There was a time where she wanted to and I just didn’t, I can not recall if it was due to working to much or financial issue that effect my sex drive. So having to turn her down many time she lost the drive, also she has went through a depression stage in her life having lost her job , she was in a dark hole for a while.
We almost broke up last year but have both agreed we need to work things out. We have finally slowly pulled her out of depression and things are getting much better. She is slowly wanting to have sex more often, before she just never had the desire to.
So my question is how do I build up her sex drive like before? Also I saw she told her friend that she just wants to be fucked. But having not had sex for so long consistently, I am having trouble lasting. These days i may only last 10 min which really affect my self image knowing that I can please her and “fuck her”. My time is slowly increasing I notice if I focus on pleasuring her I can last longer.
I recently gave her a full body massage then a yoni massage and was able to get her to multiple orgasms with g spot and clit stimulation. After that she wanted sex and then i notice I was able to last a little longer since I didn’t have anxiety to last long enough to get her to orgasm.
I am all into “fucking her” but that style/type really turns me on therefore I can’t last long. She loves getting bent over and she can actually get a orgasms from that position but The thing is I can’t last that long I get too aroused. She also hates when I have to stop or pull out to take a break.