Practicing non-judgment is at the core of mindfulness and our approach to Mindful Sex. Learning how to recognize and release judgment serves to bring us deeper into our present reality, align us with our values and create connection with others.
But like so many essential skills, developing the attitude of non-judgment takes time and practice.
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Continue the Conversation with more Speaking of Sex Podcast Episode:
Cultivating Non-Judgment With Mindful Sex Practices
In this podcast episode we explore how we can befriend our own judgment to create more freedom within us and relationally by practicing the attitudes of non-judgement and discernment instead.
To explore this practice and process:
- We become aware of our own judgment
- We explore where this judgment comes from
- We ask ourselves, is this judgemental thought your own, or is it from intergenerational sources, like family, religion or capitalism?
- Do you agree with this thought or does this thought align with your current values?
- We ask what is right for me, right now?
Through these inquiries we can choose a different response to our judgemental thoughts.
We explore swapping judgment for the slower process of discernment. Discernment is a practice of perceiving the present moment without judgment. Discernment encourages a little more space between our thoughts and actions than our reactive judgmental thoughts. In the practice of discerning, we can pause and choose to get curious, and ask the question: what is right for me right now?
If we can release even a little bit of our own judgment we can make space to experience our lives with less suffering and more freedom, pleasure, joy and connection, for ourselves and those around us.