Shame is one of the most common sexual struggles. Shame is a social experience of feeling unworthy, unlovable, not belonging or lesser than. Shame tells us we have to hide parts of ourselves to fit in, get along or avoid rejection.
Shame tells us we are broken, sinful, gross or otherwise unworthy of love.
Shame tells us if we were to be truly ourselves, we wouldn’t belong. Shame lies to us, and holds us all hostage in an invisible web-like grip of cultural myth and misinformation.
While not all shame is sexual shame, almost all of us struggle with some form of sexual shame – from body shame to faith-based shame, from kink shame to genital shame, almost everyone holds some form of shame around their sexuality.
It’s time to slay the shame. Here are some resources to get you started:
- Slay Sexual Shame Speaking of Sex Podcast Episode
- Understanding Sexual Shame Interview with Rahim Thawer
- Participate in our Shame Slayers Survey here
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Resources Mentioned On This Episode:
- Couples Massage Mastery Online Course
- Foreplay Mastery Online Course
- Step 2 in our 5 step Shame-Slaying Plan asks you to evaluate your shame experience through the lens of your personal values. Here is an interactive exercise from our colleague Dr. Alexandra Solomon’s Intimate Relationships 101 that helps you sort and specify your core values.