What does monogamy mean to you? What counts as cheating and infidelity? Have you ever had a conversation about monogamy with your partner, or do you just assume that you both know what it means?
Assumptions about monogamy can lead to a lot of misunderstanding, emotional drama and even divorce. What defines infidelity is way too important to leave to assumptions and cultural scripts – especially now in the age of technology that allows someone to cheat on their partner while in the same room. Dating apps, online porn, webcam chats, fetish forums and all sorts of other temptations are just a click away. Expecting your partner to know where your boundaries are without ever discussing them is bound to end badly.
Instead of assuming you know what monogamy means to your relationship, have an explicit conversation about monogamy and come up with an explicit monogamy agreement. In this episode, we walk you through that process and discuss why this is an essential conversation for every relationship.
This episode is part of the State of Affairs Book Club, taking place on our Patreon Community. State of Affairs is Esther Perel’s new book on infidelity, and is an excellent and provocative exploration of issues that affect all long term relationships.
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