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How To Give A Handjob

Ready to learn how to give a handjob that he’ll never forget? First, forget everything you think you know about handjobs.

Forget the image of holding on and pumping up and down in the same frenzied motion over and over again. We’re not quite sure when this one-stroke model for touching men became the norm, but throw it out the window – men deserve a lot more finesse than that.

Touch your man with creativity and curiosity, and use your hands to create the widest range of sensation possible.
ForeplayBadgeAs trained massage therapists and body-based sex educators, we are experts in erotic touch, and to help you out we have created a stroke-by-stroke video guide that demonstrates a huge range of handjob techniques for maximum pleasure and arousal.

The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Handjobs was first published on DVD in 2007.  Now, you’ll find the video and much more in our Foreplay Mastery Course.

Learn a few new skills and you’ll soon discover that your hands can create a huge range of sensations. You can create a full and satisfying sexual experience with just your hands if you know how.

Tips on How To Give A Handjob To Blow His Mind!

  • Use lubricant to allow your hands to slip and slide over his sensitive skin. Lube decreases friction and increases sensation.
  • Use more pressure than you thought possible. Many women are scared of hurting the penis and use light, tentative pressure. Try using a very firm grip, using your hands to create a tight squeeze along the entire length of his shaft. Then explore the full range of pressure, from feather light to very deep.
  • Use your hands in a variety of ways – from a full hand grasp to a single finger glide. The more variety you create, the more sensation he will feel and your touch will stay fresh and exciting.
  • Play with rhythm and speed to create variety. Think of it as music – steady rhythm with variety and unexpected flourishes creates more pleasure.
  • Think of the stimulation as a journey, not a race to the finish. Don’t just find one stroke that works and try to finish as quickly as possible. Build up his arousal, then back off. Tease him. Create peaks and valleys in his pleasure. This will make his climax even more intense.

Ready to master the skill of how to give a handjob? The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Handjobs is the world’s bestselling video guide on how to give a handjob that will blow his mind! You’ll find it and much more in our Foreplay Mastery Course.

You’ll learn strokes to create a wide range of sensations, prolong his arousal and give him stronger orgasms. Go way beyond the classic jerk-off stroke – surprise him with all of the different ways you stimulate his most sensitive parts.

Give Your Man a Hand

Your hands are sensitive, dexterous and capable of giving your man intense pleasure and powerful climaxes.

With a little skill and confidence, you can fully satisfy your man and leave him feeling saturated with pleasure. Many women enjoy having the option of fully satisfying their lover without being penetrated.

Let’s face it, sometimes the idea of intercourse or oral sex is just a little too much. But you may be turned-on enough to kiss, cuddle and give your man a fabulous orgasm with your hands!

Today’s challenge is to add this skill to your sexual repertoire, and then notice the benefits of bringing manual stimulation back into your bedroom. We’re going to help you out by showing you that touching a man goes way beyond the “one stroke wonder” kind of touch you might have used back in the day.

Once you give yourself permission to explore new ways of touching him, begin noticing his reactions. Pay exquisite attention to his responses. How does he respond when you touch ever so lightly around the head of his penis? Do faster or slower strokes peak his interest? Can you tell when he is really into it? What happens to his breathing? Does he make sounds to let you know when it feels good? By paying attention you’ll gain valuable information about your lover’s patterns of arousal and in no time you’ll be proficient in giving him pleasure.

Using your hands is also the best way to explore prolonging his arousal and delaying ejaculation. Your hands can quickly respond to feedback, allowing you to back off on stimulation before he reaches the point of “no return” and climaxes. After you gain confidence using your hands to pleasure him, begin playing with prolonging his pleasure. Work together to notice and communicate as he gets closer to ejaculation, and play with backing off and building up as many times as you can before he simply can’t wait any longer and wants to experience his climax.

With a little skill and a lot of confidence, using your hands to pleasure your man can add a whole new dimension to your sex life. Many women find this to be an exciting and sexy addition, as they take control and are able to pleasure their man in a whole new way. All too often we forget about our hands as the amazing erotic tools they are designed to be – we are built to give and receive pleasure and touch is our primary way of communicating with our lover. We invite you to explore the pleasurable potential of making love to your man – with just your hands!

How To Touch Balls

The balls, or testicles, are one of the most ignored parts of the male sexual system. A lot of women don’t know how to touch the balls to give him pleasure. The balls seem delicate and fragile. In reality, most men’s balls are very sensitive to touch and can be a source of erotic pleasure. Learn how to touch his balls to add more pleasure to your handjobs and prostate massage.

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How To Touch Balls: 10 Strategies For Maximum Pleasure

How To Touch Balls Strategy 1) Focus on the scrotum, not the balls. The scrotum is the tissue surrounding the balls. The skin is quite sensitive and can handle deep pressure. The balls themselves are more delicate and should be handled with care!

How To Touch Balls Strategy 2) As you’re kissing, gently hold his testicles in your hand. Simply hold still and allow him to feel the warmth of your hand.

How To Touch Balls Strategy 3) Trace circles at the crease at the base of the penis where the shaft meets the scrotum.

How To Touch Balls Strategy 4)  Explore very light pinching on the skin of the scrotum. Roll the skin in between your fingers very gently and watch how he reacts.

How To Touch Balls Strategy 5) Wrap your fingers around the scrotum and massage them lightly between your thumb and index finger. Gently pull the testicles down and away from his body so you’re holding them in a tight sack of skin. This exposes more nerve endings and increases sensitivity. Now stroke the taut skin and see how it feels.

How To Touch Balls Strategy 6) Wrap both hands around his penis with a firm grip. Now glide one hand up and over the head and the other hand down and across the balls. This move will make the penis feel large and expand the sensation. Use lube or massage oil to create a nice smooth glide.

How To Touch Balls Strategy 7) Straddle his chest, facing his pelvis. Reach down all the way to his perineum, then drag your hands, hand over hand, over the scrotum and penis, and up onto his stomach.

How To Touch Balls Strategy 8) Very lightly run your fingernails over the skin of the scrotum. Notice how he responds. Some guys love this scratching sensation and will get almost giddy with pleasure. Other guys get nervous. See if he enjoys it and respond accordingly.

How To Touch Balls Strategy 9) Pull the scrotum into your mouth. First, just hold still. Then move your tongue around, exploring the contours of the scrotal skin. Find the seam that runs down the middle of his testicles and lick it.

How To Touch Balls Strategy 10) As you touch his scrotum with one hand, place the flat of your knuckles on your other hand against his perineum (the area between his testicles and anus), and vibrate it. Shake your fist, pulse in and out. We cover a lot more techniques for stimulating the perineum on both our Handjob and Prostate Massage video guides.

Have fun learning how to touch his balls with more creativity and confidence. Master the art of stimulating his entire sexual system with our stroke-by-stroke guides on handjobs (part of our Foreplay Mastery Online Course) and prostate massage to be the best lover he’s ever had!

Q& A: Handjob Vs. Blowjob

Question::

Hi. I’m thinking of ordering your hand job video. Question though. Can a hand job be just as pleasurable and sexy as a blowjob? I want to get a handjob cause I don’t want to risk std/sti from blowjobs.

Thanks!

Jason

Answer:: 

Hey Jason!

Thanks for being in touch. I LOVE this email because I can say your situation is perfect for what we offer. Handjobs can be amazing – the hands can deliver a huge range of sensations unavailable in any other way. Oral sex is a totally amazing experience, and I hesitate to compare them, but a good handjob can be just as transcendent. Most handjobs are totally boring because people stick to one or two strokes. Our handjob video guide shows you tons of ways to stimulate the penis for maximum sensation. Handjobs are also great to prolong arousal, keeping a guy suspended in pleasure for longer than he can believe. I strongly encourage you to explore going through the guide a few times with your lover, and then just playing and discovering which strokes are your favorite (my favorite? “endless penetration” – so fun!)
And you are right that it is 100% safe sex – great to be able to give one another so much pleasure without any of the worry!
Cheers,
Chris
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