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Intimacy Issues

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Intimacy is one of those words that has lost it’s meaning – and it is time to excavate the meaning of intimacy and see where it fits in the complicated reality of human sexuality.

In this episode, we investigate the meaning of “intimacy” and propose a more deliberate and meaningful use of the word. What does intimacy really mean? How does it play out in all of our relationships? When we want more sexual intimacy, how do we get it? What happens when we don’t want to be intimate?

Intimacy is sometimes understood as “in-to-me-see” – is this a useful concept? If so, who do we want to let in – and what conditions do we need to create in order to make that safe?

In this episode we take a candid look at the concept of intimacy and reveal it to be much more than a euphemism for sex!

The Emotional Authenticity of Erotic Touch

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The Emotional Authenticity of Erotic Touch :: Free Podcast Episode

Proven: authentic emotions are transmitted through touch. Here’s how to use this power to your erotic advantage! Discover how to communicate love, gratitude and desire through the simple magic of touch.

A 2006 study [PDF] strangers were separated into pairs, with just a black curtain between them. One was asked to try communicating an emotion by touching the other person’s hand or arm. The study revealed that the people being touched “could decode anger, fear, disgust, love, gratitude, and sympathy via touch at much-better-than-chance levels.”

In this podcast we guide you in how to activate this power so you can have more intimate, emotional and fulfilling connections – every time you reach out and offer your touch!

Amanda Palmer On Making Emotional Connections

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Amanda Palmer shares the crucial difference between Looking and Seeing, and offers wisdom on the importance of being truly seen as a full human being.

Excerpt from her book, The Art of Asking or How I Learned To Stop Worrying and Let People Help.

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I wanted to be seen.

That was absolutely true. All performers -all humans- want to be seen; it’s a basic need. Even the shy ones who don’t want to be looked at.

But I also wanted, very much, to see.

I didn’t quite grasp this until I had been up on the box for a while. What I loved as much as, possibly even more than, being seen was sharing the gaze. Feeling connected.

I needed the two-way street, the exchange, the relationship, and the invitation to true intimacy that I got every so often from the eyes of a random street patron. It didn’t always happen. But it happened enough to keep me up on the box.

And that’s why stripping, even though it often paid way better, when I tried my hand at it a few years later, just didn’t do it for me. I was being looked at. But I never felt seen. The strip joint was like Teflon to real emotional connection. – page 46, The Art of Asking by Amanda Palmer