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How To Be Romantic

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How To Be Romantic

Champagne, chocolate and roses. Is that what Valentine’s Day is really about? Or is it the opportunity to be more romantic, express your love and make your loved one feel special? The cynics roll their eyes at Valentine’s Day but we think that Valentine’s Day is a great excuse to brush up on romance and recommit to being more romantic, seductive and yes, even orgasmic, all year round!

Over the next three weeks, we are going to be dissecting Valentine’s Day so you can have a better love life all year round. We pull apart what makes champagne and chocolates “romantic” to unlock the key to experiencing the richness of real, authentic romance.

Part 1: How To Be Romantic: What is romance and how can we make it work for us all year round? We present our romance formula so you can figure out what will make your lover swoon! Authentic romantic gestures can set the stage for a happier, hotter relationship all year round.

Part 2: Seduction: Once you have the power of romance working for you, you still have to seduce your lover and initiate intimacy. This can get tricky, even painful. We take the guesswork out of seduction and initiation and reveal how to fearlessly seduce your lover.

Part 3: Best Sex Ever: Beyond chocolates, what everyone hopes for on Valentine’s Day is some special occasion lovemaking. Here’s five ways to take it from ordinary to extraordinary. These strategies work any day of the year, so be sure to put all of them to the test!

This week, it’s all about romance. Click the “play” button above to listen to the free podcast on how to be romantic. You’ll hear all about our take on what creates meaningful romance.

Discover the 4 cornerstones of romance
Find out how to discover what makes your lover swoon so you can deliver romance all year round!
Use our simple strategies to give your romantic gestures the most bang for your buck

5 Ways To Pamper Your Woman

Pamper Your Woman Go ahead and buy her flowers and chocolates, but don’t stop there! To truly express your love and appreciation for the woman in your life, go the extra mile and truly lavish her. A birthday, job promotion or anniversary are great times to pamper the lady you love – but these ideas are for any day of the year!

1. Express Yourself!

Write a love letter, and include specific reasons you appreciate and value her. The more specific, the better. Don’t just say “Thanks for being a great mom!” Instead, say “Thanks for being patient and kind with our kids. Thank you for making family dinner so fun with your stories.” Think about the specific reason that you love her as a unique woman. Specific gratitudes and compliments are WAY more romantic than general ones! Write out your letter in a card or on a simple piece of paper and leave it somewhere for her to discover. She’ll likely keep it forever!

2. Give her a foot massage!

Invite her to relax on a chair or the couch and sit at her feet. If you really want to go the extra mile, bring a basin of warm water with a few drops of essential oil and let her soak her feet before you begin. Then, one foot at a time, give her a deep, satisfying foot massage. Master foot massage skills with our Couples Massage Mastery Course before you begin and you’ll have her swooning! Remember, even five or ten minutes of foot massage can create a full body wave of relaxation – so you can squeeze a great foot massage in even on busy nights!

3. Send her away!

Give your lady an envelope with some cash ($20-$50 depending on your budget) and tell her that she can’t come home for at least two hours. Suggest she takes herself out to a coffee shop, meet friends for lunch or go to a movie. She may hesitate or protest, but be firm in your resolve to give her alone time. Send her away with a huge hug and a long kiss. While she is out, clean the house (if you can afford it, hire a cleaner!) Even a simple sweep of the house will do wonders: clean the kitchen, put away the laundry, and put fresh flowers on the kitchen table. Want bonus points? Be waiting for her when she returns with a bottle of wine, a few cupcakes or a nice dinner prepared. She’ll be grateful for the mini-vacation and eager to reconnect with you!

4. Run her a bath!

Go to the grocery store and purchase the following items: Epsom Salts, Lavender Oil or Bubble Bath, Tea Light Candles, Her Favorite Beverage and a bouquet of flowers. In the evening, ask her if she’d like a bath. Then take your time to set it up for her. Make sure to clean the bathroom before you get started (most women WILL notice if the bathtub is dirty! Make it sparkle!) Then run a hot bath, adding a cup or two of epsom salts and some oil or bubble bath for scent. Light a dozen small candles and scatter them around the room. Arrange the flowers in a nice vase. Let the tub fill up, making the room nice and steamy. Fold a clean towel for her. Then, escort her into the room, kiss her forehead and invite her to simply take her time and enjoy. If you have kids, take them out of the house for an hour so she can have uninterrupted time to herself.

5. Give Her What She Really Wants!

Pampering comes in many forms – including intense sensation if that is what she is truly craving. A lot of busy woman crave the release of intense stimulation and loving dominance. If she’s been reading 50 Shades of Grey or has expressed any interest in experimenting with rough sex, ask her if she would be interested in exploring erotic spanking! Grab our course on Erotic Spanking and watch it together, asking her to point out specific techniques and positions she finds most exciting. Then, claim your erotic power and give her a beautiful spanking. The video will show you how to build up from a gentle warm-up to a highly arousing climax, and how to make sure it is purely pleasurable every step of the way. Sometimes, being loving can mean being firm and giving her an experience of erotic intensity!

Pamper Her With Your Attention!

Ultimately, pampering a woman is about lavishing her with attention, love and praise. Everyone has a different combination of time, money and energy – so figure out what you have to give and be as generous as you can! But no matter how busy you are, you can create moments of intimate connection by sharing kind words, specific compliments and expressions of gratitude.

Whether it is for Mother’s Day, her birthday, your anniversary or for a “no reason” celebration, try to pay specific attention and figure out what your lover needs most. Does she need time alone, or does she want to be pampered with massage? Is she ready for a sexual adventure like erotic spanking, or does she need a night to simply relax? Only by paying attention will you know what she really needs – and once you give her what she authentically desires, you’ll discover the thrill of creating a fulfilling sex life together.

Sex Advice from Lady Gaga

“If you are laying in bed next to someone who really doesn’t make you feel like the goddess you are, you need to rediscover what you truly want and need” – Lady Gaga on The Conversation with Amanda De Cadenet

Lady Gaga once again proves wise and powerful beyond her years with this profound statement about the nature of fulfillment. She invites anyone who feels a longing, who feels unfulfilled and unmet by their lover to turn our gaze right where it belongs – right into the depths of one’s own heart and mind.

Our culture often talks about love and romance as something that happens to us – the perfect lover comes along and sweeps us off our feet. The perfect lover knows exactly what we want and has the secret keys to unlocking our arousal and turn-on. The truth is, no one else can give you pleasure – you can only receive as much pleasure as you allow yourself. Two people can eat the same exact meal, and one may find absolute gastronomic bliss while the other shrugs and complains about too much salt.

Lady Gaga flips the standard narrative and asks us to look within if we are not satisfied with our love and sex life. Rather than looking externally for a better lover, instead of waiting for a more charming prince to come around, we must turn inward to rediscover ourselves. In this simple bit of wisdom, Lady Gaga redefines romance.

If you read between the lines, it is clear that Gaga understands that we can only receive what we believe ourselves to be worthy of. So if our lover isn’t fulfilling us, we need to take inventory of what more we need. We can’t expect our lovers to fill holes we don’t even know are there. Through a process of constant self-discovery, we can start understanding our own unique desires and longings, and then reach out and ask our lover to be part of fulfilling those wishes.

This doesn’t have to mean finding a new lover. When we change internally, when we change our relationship to ourselves, all other relationships in our life change. If you can open yourself up to receiving more pleasure, it can be your husband of twenty years who meets you there. If you harness your inner strength and start standing up for yourself, it can be your current boyfriend that supports you every step of the way. Of course, we may find that as we grow our relationships may need to change or end. The fear of this change is what keeps so many people locked in unfulfilling relationships, silently suffering in our own skin. It takes courage and trust to ask for more out of life. We must trust that we are worthy of more, and that there is someone out there that will meet us and love us more fully.

Rediscovering ourselves, realigning our energy with our true goals and desires, is a lifelong process. Gaga, queen of reinvention, can inspire us all to be more playful and flexible with our understandings of who we are and what we want. Once we let go of these being set in stone, life becomes much more interesting and way more exciting.