Sex Toys and Tools

There are hundreds of high quality sex toys and tools available to experiment with.

Toys can help you create more pleasure, both solo and with your lover.

These vibrators, dildos, butt toys and prostate toys can help you stimulate new parts of your sexual anatomy, experience a wider range of sensations and play with sexuality in new ways.

Check out sites like Babeland.com or GoodVibes.com to find extensive buyer’s guides for toys that add more fun and variety to your sex life.

But remember – toys are supplements to high-quality touch, not a replacement for learning sexual techniques!

 

The Pleasure Mechanics Dos and Don’ts When Using Sex Toys and Tools

 

DO purchase toys from a reputable company that selects products based on quality and craftsmanship

DON’T purchase sex toys that are intended as “gag gifts” or “novelties”

DO spend time thinking about what kinds of sensation you want more of, and buy toys that will enhance your experience

DON’T buy toys just because they look good – ultimately, you want a toy collection that will help you have better sex, not pretty accessories.

DO start small when purchasing dildos, butt plugs or anything insertable – you can always get larger sizes and work your way up

DO buy high-quality silicone toys if your budget permits. Silicone is smoother and healthier for your body than latex or vinyl.

DO consider glass dildos and wands – they won’t break and can provide a nice, weighty, smooth surface.

 

Where To Find Quality Sex Toys

We don’t sell sex toys – but our friends do!

Babeland.com

Goodvibes.com

SelfServeToys.com

 

 

This page may contain affiliate links, allowing our friends in the sex toy biz to support PleasureMechanics.com. We only write about and link to products that we have personally reviewed and would use ourselves! For men’s sex toys, we work with fabulous male testers and our expertise of the male body! 

Am I Addicted to My Vibrator?

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Can a woman get addicted to her vibrator? Do vibrators cause numbness and desensitization of the clitoris? We tackle this tricky topic as we answer the question of a woman who can’t seem to orgasm without her vibrator. We offer tips and strategies to regain sensitivity and learn how to achieve orgasm from different kinds of stimulation. Hooked on the Hitatchi Magic Wand? You aren’t alone, and there is a way to unplug and gain more sensitivity!

Stronic Pulsator by Fun Factory Review

Stronic Fun Factory ReviewAre you bored with the same old vibrations? If you’ve tried vibe after vibe and aren’t feeling erotically inspired, you’ll be thrilled to hear about the new toy in town. I was so excited when I heard from my friends at Fun Factory, the producers of some of my favorite sex toys. They produce quality sex toys using 100% medical grade silicone and the quality of their German engineering shows in every one of their toys.

Inspired by NASA technology, Fun Factory invested eighteen months of research and development to create a whole new kind of sex toy. The result: the pulsator. The Stronic Eins, the first toy in the pulsator line, shakes things up by converting strong magnetic force fields into a thrusting motion, giving women a highly stimulating alternative to vibrators.

Users report that the orgasms induced by the Stronic feel “deeper,” and “more emotional.” The thrusting motion is somehow more human than the buzz of a vibrator, and the various settings make the toy come alive with a variety of thrusting patterns. From tiny little pulses to vigorous thrusts, the Stronic moves in ways that evoke the thrusting motion of intercourse. The higher settings start feeling a bit like vibration, but the slower longer pulse settings take your pleasure in a whole new direction.

Most women will want to pair the Stronic with clitoral stimulation. Toy or no toy, most women do not climax from vaginal stimulation alone. You can try using one hand to hold the Stronic inside you and use your other hand to manually stimulate your clitoris. The toy is nearly silent, thanks to it’s magnetic technology. But that might not matter: even if the toy is quiet, we doubt you’ll be able to keep silent with the Stronic pulsating inside you!

We recommend always emphasizing human touch during masturbation and love making. No toy can replace the dexterity and sensitivity of your fingers. If you really want to tap into your pleasure potential, learn how to stimulate yourself and your lover with just your hands. Toys can, however, add a variety of sensations to your solo and partnered sex life. If you are bored with vibrators, try the Stronic and prepare to be thrust into a new dimension of pleasure!

The Stronic, along with lots of other great sex toys, is available at GoodVibes.com

Female Masturbation Techniques

Masturbation is an essential foundation to your sexuality. Masturbation is how you get to know your own body, get in touch with your desires, discover how you get most aroused and learn how to have orgasms. You can then bring all of this knowledge to your partnered sex so you can enjoy more pleasure with your lovers. Learning new female masturbation techniques can help you discover whole new parts of your sexuality and become more in touch with how you like to be touched.

Female Masturbation Techniques: Use Your Hands

Female Masturbation TechniquesUse your hands to explore your entire sexual system. Don’t rush right to your clitoris. Explore what it feels like to touch your labia, your mons and the perineum. Try lots of different kinds of stimulation to wake up new kinds of sensation. You can also zero in on the clitoris to get to orgasm – but try to experience more kinds of stimulation as you build arousal.

Find the outer labia. Touch the entire outside labia, gliding one or two fingers along the length. Then, gather the flesh of the outer labia (might be quite a lot, or a small fingerful of tissue) and gently pinch and roll the labia between your fingers. Feel the texture of the lips and notice what, if any sensation, you are creating. Some people have quite a lot of erotic sensation in their outer labia – other women have very little. Try this stroke with the inner labia as well if there is enough fliesh tissue to play with. The shape and size of the labia is different for every woman – but all have the potential of being a pleasurable part of the female sexual anatomy. Explore the area and notice what sensations you can create by stimulating the labia.  Stimulating the labia is important, as it brings blood flow to the genitals and begins waking up the area without direct clitoral stimulation.

The perineum is a highly sensitive part of the female anatomy that often goes overlooked. The perineum is a nexus of nerves and an intersection of musculature. Use your thumb in small circles on the perineum. Pulse in and out, using quite deep pressure. Move one finger in small circles around the perineum.

Rest your fingers just outside the entrance to the vagina. Pause. Explore this area of the opening – there are a lot of nerve endings here and circling around the outside can be highly stimulating. Use a fingerpad and trace circles around the entrance,  and trace small circles for a few moments just inside the entrance along the bottom wall, then vibrate your finger a little.

If you can reach, use your own fingers to explore your g-spot and try a range of stimulation techniques to see how much sensation you can feel inside. Try circles, long strokes, pulses and vibrations around the g-spot and see what feels best. Combine g-spot stimulation with clitoral stimulation for maximum pleasure.

Female Masturbation Techniques: Use Toys

We believe that hands are the best sexual tool ever invented! But there are lots of female masturbation techniques that can only be explored with toys. Check out our page on sex toys to get linked up to some of our favorite toys.

Smartballs are one of our favorite kinds of sex toys. These weighted balls arouse a lot of vaginal sensation, strengthen your pelvic muscles and can be a great compliment to clitoral stimulation.

You can also explore with the wide range of sex toys that are available. Like anal stimulation? Try incorporating butt plugs into your masturbation. Love your nipples played with? Put nipple clamps on and tug at them as you touch your clitoris. Your body is your own playground – explore it fully!

The more female masturbation techniques you experiment with, the more knowledge you will gain about your sexuality. Then you’ll be able to communicate with your lover and ask for exactly what you want in bed.

Lubricants

Water Based Lubricants

 

Water based lubricants are a great choice. They are easy to find and inexpensive. Many brands, however, have potentially harmful chemicals.

Look for brands containing natural ingredients, and make sure your lubricant is paraben-free and glycerin-free!

Glycerin is a sweetener added to lube that can promote yeast infections. Glycerin-free lubes are a better choice for women and men alike.

 

Silicone Based Lubricants

Silicone lubricants are an excellent choice for anal play. Silicone lubes stay slick for a very long time and don’t get sticky like water based lubricant.

Silicone lubes are safe for use with latex condoms, but should not be used with silicone toys (like dildos or butt plugs) – when in doubt, use a water based lube.

 

Oil Based Lubricants: 

Commercially available oil based lubricant, like Vaseline or any kind of lotion, should not be used for sex play. These products contain harsh chemicals that will irritate the sensitive tissues of the genitals and anus.

Natural oils like coconut oil, almond oil or even olive oil have been used for centuries as sexual lubricant, and are much safer than lotions – but any product containing oil of any kind is NOT latex compatible – oils degrade latex and cause condom failure.