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Playing Without Penetration : Fulfilling Sexuality Beyond Intercourse

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On this tender and compassionate episode, we talk about claiming an erotic life beyond intercourse, if penetration is not available for any number of reasons, for any length of time – how can we explore, connect and enjoy a fulfilling sex life without intercourse or penetrative sex?

We hear from listeners all the time with any number of life changes that take intercourse off the menu and force the question of “what now?” – from prostate conditions to cancers of all kinds, from lichen sclerosus to vulvadynia and vaginismus, from accident to injury to illness of all kinds – and that is just the medical shortlist! Penetration can also come off the table sometimes during stages of trauma integration or as part of gender affirmative boundaries. Penetrative play sometimes is a no-go for all kinds of reasons – so what are the conversations, strategies and allies in discovering an erotic life beyond intercourse?

More Speaking Of Sex Episodes To Continue The Conversation:

  • Turning Towards Pleasure While Living With Pain & Illness
  • Pelvic Floor Pleasure with Dr. UC
  • Your Body Is Good Enough
  • What Do You Want?

Pleasure Tools and Toys For Playing Without Penetration

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  • Air pulsator toys can be a game changer if vibrators are too intense or overstimulate the skin
  • Stroker toys can be great for solo or partnered play as a place to playfully penetrate!
  • The OhNut provides a pleasurable bumper for when less depth is desirable
  • Check out the Exo wearable stimulator as just one option amongst so many!

Explore a wide range of full body sensations and mental turn on to discover what feels good to you, right now

Resources To Explore & Share With Your Medical Care Team

  • Pelvic Pain Perception Project
  • You can locate a pelvic health physical therapist near you here or here.
  • Disability Justice Resources
  • 10 Principles of Disability Justice

Click here for more resources about sexuality, chronic illness and chronic pain.

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