Pleasure Mechanics

Sex Advice: My Boyfriend is into anal – on him!

Hi Pleasure Mechanics,
My boyfriend recently downloaded your Prostate Massage video and asked me to try it out with him. I’m a little freaked out but also kind of excited by the idea – he seemed really turned on by it. Do other women like doing this? Is this a normal thing for straight people to do? I guess I just never expected my jock guy to be into this kind of thing!
Thanks,
Sarah

Hey Sarah,

Fabulous that you are willing to consider offering this pleasure to your man. We assure you, it is a totally normal thing for a straight guy to be into – our Guide to Prostate Massage is a bestseller around the world for a reason! Men are discovering that this can be a highly pleasurable addition to their sex lives, and a lot of women are quite enjoying it as well!

Learning more about the anatomy may help you get used to the idea. For example, did you know that up to 2/3rds of a man’s penis is situated internally, and can be stimulated through anal penetration? The anus (on both men and women) is one of the most sensitive parts of the human body, and is linked up to the same pleasure receptors as the genitals. Anal pleasure is a totally normal, totally natural experience for men and women of all sexual orientations. When you combine prostate massage with handjob techniques, you can literally stimulate all parts of the male sexual system at once – an experience all men should experience at least once in their lifetime!

Prostate massage is a very pleasurable practice for most men, and there is growing evidence that it also helps maintain prostate health. So go for it! Our guide will help you take it slowly and make it a completely pleasurable experience for both of you.

I would also encourage you to feel into the pleasure of being the Giver, the Penetrator. Many women find this incredibly sexy,empowering, exciting. . . Let us know how you find it!

For other women who have given anal stimulation or prostate massage to their boyfriends, husbands and lovers – how did it make YOU feel?

Wishing you lots of pleasure,
Christine

How to Give a Handjob

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How To Give A Handjob

Ready to learn how to give a handjob that he’ll never forget? First, forget everything you think you know about handjobs.

Forget the image of holding on and pumping up and down in the same frenzied motion over and over again. We’re not quite sure when this one-stroke model for touching men became the norm, but throw it out the window – men deserve a lot more finesse than that.

Touch your man with creativity and curiosity, and use your hands to create the widest range of sensation possible.
ForeplayBadgeAs trained massage therapists and body-based sex educators, we are experts in erotic touch, and to help you out we have created a stroke-by-stroke video guide that demonstrates a huge range of handjob techniques for maximum pleasure and arousal.

The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Handjobs was first published on DVD in 2007.  Now, you’ll find the video and much more in our Foreplay Mastery Course.

Learn a few new skills and you’ll soon discover that your hands can create a huge range of sensations. You can create a full and satisfying sexual experience with just your hands if you know how.

Tips on How To Give A Handjob To Blow His Mind!

  • Use lubricant to allow your hands to slip and slide over his sensitive skin. Lube decreases friction and increases sensation.
  • Use more pressure than you thought possible. Many women are scared of hurting the penis and use light, tentative pressure. Try using a very firm grip, using your hands to create a tight squeeze along the entire length of his shaft. Then explore the full range of pressure, from feather light to very deep.
  • Use your hands in a variety of ways – from a full hand grasp to a single finger glide. The more variety you create, the more sensation he will feel and your touch will stay fresh and exciting.
  • Play with rhythm and speed to create variety. Think of it as music – steady rhythm with variety and unexpected flourishes creates more pleasure.
  • Think of the stimulation as a journey, not a race to the finish. Don’t just find one stroke that works and try to finish as quickly as possible. Build up his arousal, then back off. Tease him. Create peaks and valleys in his pleasure. This will make his climax even more intense.

Ready to master the skill of how to give a handjob? The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Handjobs is the world’s bestselling video guide on how to give a handjob that will blow his mind! You’ll find it and much more in our Foreplay Mastery Course.

You’ll learn strokes to create a wide range of sensations, prolong his arousal and give him stronger orgasms. Go way beyond the classic jerk-off stroke – surprise him with all of the different ways you stimulate his most sensitive parts.

Give Your Man a Hand

Your hands are sensitive, dexterous and capable of giving your man intense pleasure and powerful climaxes.

With a little skill and confidence, you can fully satisfy your man and leave him feeling saturated with pleasure. Many women enjoy having the option of fully satisfying their lover without being penetrated.

Let’s face it, sometimes the idea of intercourse or oral sex is just a little too much. But you may be turned-on enough to kiss, cuddle and give your man a fabulous orgasm with your hands!

Today’s challenge is to add this skill to your sexual repertoire, and then notice the benefits of bringing manual stimulation back into your bedroom. We’re going to help you out by showing you that touching a man goes way beyond the “one stroke wonder” kind of touch you might have used back in the day.

Once you give yourself permission to explore new ways of touching him, begin noticing his reactions. Pay exquisite attention to his responses. How does he respond when you touch ever so lightly around the head of his penis? Do faster or slower strokes peak his interest? Can you tell when he is really into it? What happens to his breathing? Does he make sounds to let you know when it feels good? By paying attention you’ll gain valuable information about your lover’s patterns of arousal and in no time you’ll be proficient in giving him pleasure.

Using your hands is also the best way to explore prolonging his arousal and delaying ejaculation. Your hands can quickly respond to feedback, allowing you to back off on stimulation before he reaches the point of “no return” and climaxes. After you gain confidence using your hands to pleasure him, begin playing with prolonging his pleasure. Work together to notice and communicate as he gets closer to ejaculation, and play with backing off and building up as many times as you can before he simply can’t wait any longer and wants to experience his climax.

With a little skill and a lot of confidence, using your hands to pleasure your man can add a whole new dimension to your sex life. Many women find this to be an exciting and sexy addition, as they take control and are able to pleasure their man in a whole new way. All too often we forget about our hands as the amazing erotic tools they are designed to be – we are built to give and receive pleasure and touch is our primary way of communicating with our lover. We invite you to explore the pleasurable potential of making love to your man – with just your hands!

The Joy of Sex on Handjobs

One of the great things about life as a professional sex educator is my reading list. Ever since I was 8 years old, I have spent hours a day reading about sex. It is one of my great fascinations and intellectual challenges, to learn about the complicated universe of human sexuality.

Today, I was revisiting an old classic, The New Joy of Sex. This cookbook style sex manual first appeared in 1972 and has been part of the sex education library ever since.

The passage on handjobs and fingering, which they call “HandWork” reminded me why our core guides are focused on the skill of pleasuring your lover with your hands.

“A couple who can masturbate each other really skillfully can do anything else they like. Handwork is not a substitute for vaginal intercourse but something quite different, giving a different kind of orgasm, and the orgasm one induces oneself is different again from orgasm induced by a partner.

In full intercourse it is a preparation to stiffen the man, or to give the woman one or more preliminary peaks before insertion. After intercourse, it is the natural lead in to a further round.”

(From the 1991 edition of The Joy of Sex)

The book goes on to describe “rolling the penis like pastry between the palms of two hands” and many other techniques. Want to learn masterful ways of touching your partner for maximum pleasure? Check out our online course, Foreplay Mastery and let us show you, stroke by stroke!