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Sexual Worship and Reverent Sex

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What would it mean to bring more reverence, awe and wonder to the bedroom? What does it mean to worship the genitals rather than degrade them? What are the implications of bringing more reverence to sexuality? We explore all this and more in this heartful episode.

First, we explore the standard definitions of cock worship, pussy worship and body worship. Then we talk about what we can all learn from bringing elements of worship into the bedroom (no matter what your spiritual inclinations or what your faith looks like)

Tune in to reflect on the power and potential of exploring reverent sex!

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In this weeks podcast episode we had to come out of the closet as secret genital worshipers. I have been using the handle “reverent sex” for 20 years and finally spoke about what that really looks like. What it meant to us before we met, to our work in erotic massage, and what it has meant for the 12 years of growing our family and work together. Do you practice Reverent Sex? What does that look like for you?

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Help! My Partner Won’t Play Along

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What happens when you are ready to explore sexually, and your partner doesn’t want to play along? How do you move forward as a couple when only one of you wants to get kinky?

If you have ever felt like you were ready to explore new sexual thrills or go on new erotic adventures, but your partner was not willing to participate, this episode is for you. Or maybe YOU are the one who is terrified of your partner’s new desires and feel totally freaked out about what is being asked of you.

We ALL have felt the fear and resistance that comes when we confront change or are asked to try something new. Let’s face it – it is way easier to keep things the same. It is way easier to stay safe. But what gets lost is the adventure, the pleasure and the potentially transformative experience of trying something new. We all need to grow and change, and in long term relationships, we need to learn how to grow and change together, one step at a time.

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

Couples Massage Mastery – no matter where you are on your erotic path, learning the skills of couples massage will lay a foundation of touch, pleasure and communication that will support all of your other erotic adventures. If we could give all couples one gift, this would be it.

The Sexy Side Of Sensory Nerve Endings

The Anatomy of Pleasure : The Sexy Side of Sensory Nerve Endings

To fully explore your capacity for sensual and sexual pleasure, it is useful to know a little bit about how pleasure works in our body. Our anatomy is an intricate, awe-inspiring feat of chemistry and physics, and serves as a useful roadmap to the experiences we crave.

Pleasure begins with a stimulus, and ends with a response, a full body reaction that our system perceives experiences as pleasure. The stimulus can be from any of the five senses – sight, smell, sound, touch or taste. It can even be the thought of pleasure – we humans are so hardwired for pleasure that a thought alone can trigger powerful physical responses.

Your sensory nerves cover your entire body, inside and out, providing the brain with constant information about both the external and internal environment. The densest concentrations of nerve endings are found in the fingertips, lips, clitoris, penis and anus. There are four kinds of sensory nerves in the skin – some detect tiny vibrations on the surface of the skin, others detect deeper pressure. There are even specialized nerve endings to detect changes in temperature. All senses are highly specialized variations of touch sensors: the sensory nerves in your ears, for example, are tiny filaments that respond to the vibration of sound waves.

Each nerve ending has a “threshold” for stimulation – at a certain point (of vibration, pressure, heat, etc) the nerve will fire, creating an electrical impulse that travels up the nerve axon. When it reaches the end of the nerve fiber, a chemical reaction “jumps” across the space (synapse) to the next nerve ending, where the impulse again travels up that nerve fiber, and so on until the signal reaches the brain. These signals travel through our body at up to 250 miles per hour, so you feel stimulation on your toe within a tiny fraction of a second.

Our sensory nerves are constantly firing, providing our brain with valuable information about our surroundings, our activities and other sensory inputs. It is astonishing that our brain handles so much information, constantly throughout the day, and we barely notice this process going on.

Sensory nerves raise the threshold for firing when there is a consistent, steady input of sensation. This is why you don’t notice the clothes you are wearing most of the time – but if a wrinkle forms in your pants and it stimulates your skin in a new way, you’ll notice.

This is true as well for repeated stimulation in massage and sex – if you do the same thing over and over, exactly the same way, the person you are touching will begin feeling it less. Repetition feels good- you can get into a trancelike rhythm of sensation that can be relaxing and arousing. But variation keeps things fresh and unexpected. As in music, repetition with variation creates the most pleasurable outcome.

The more we learn and discover what our bodies are capable of, the more we can feel at home in our sexuality and desires, and know how to create profoundly pleasurable sex for all involved! If you are interested in exploring the Pleasure Mechanics strategies and techniques for maximum pleasure, get started for free with our Erotic Essentials course.

Women Get Erections Too! Here’s What You Need To Know

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We ALL get erections – it is not just a guy thing! All human bodies have about the same amount of erectile tissue in their genitals – it is just situated differently! People with vulvas get erections too – and in this podcast episode we cover everything you need to know about female erections for more fun and pleasure!

Want all of our proven strategies and techniques to stimulate the ENTIRE female sexual system, unlock more orgasmic potential and enjoy way more sex? The Foreplay Mastery Course is our best selling course and offers everything you need to know about both the male and female pleasure system!

In the 3D animation below, notice the purple structures – and imagine how much better penetration feels when the area is awake and erect!

Learn more about the amazing clitoris and how to pleasure it:

Want more visual illustration of the female anatomy?

Check out Cyndi Darnell’s Atlas of Erotic Anatomy here

Butt Plugs! Who, What, Where, When, Why and How?

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Butt plugs are one of the most versatile types of sex toys, but not many people know about them. Here is everything you’ve ever wanted to know (and more!) about butt plugs. In this free podcast episode, we cover all the basics and more. This is a Who, What, Where, When, Why and How Episode of Speaking of Sex, so we cover all the essentials, including:

  • What is a butt plug?
  • Who are butt plugs for?
  • Where do you use butt plugs?
  • When do you use butt plugs?
  • How do you use a butt plug?
  • How can men use butt plugs?
  • How can men and women use butt plugs during sex?
  • Why do butt plugs feel good?
  • How are butt plugs different from dildos?
  • Should I buy a vibrating butt plug?

Resources Mentioned On This Episode:

How To Prepare For Anal Play

Prostate Massage Mastery Online Course

Anal Play Mastery Online Course

A Few Of Our Favorite Butt Plugs:

*Bvibe Silicone Plugs: a range of sizes, body safe silicone and friendly colors

*Njoy Stainless Steel Plugs: for those who like a heavier, harder heft

*Trainer Set: a set with several sizes so you can explore what feels best to you

* SheVibe has the largest selection of butt plugs – especially if you want something playful (a tail? some sparkle? look no further!)

 


* please note some links on this page are affiliate links, and if you choose to make a purchase we will receive a small percentage as thanks for the referral. We only link to resources we know, trust and love!

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