We get a lot of questions about penis size, and the guys that ask us tend to be obsessed with the answers! Check out our podcast episode: Does Penis Size Matter for a complete discussion about penis size!

Question:: Hi! 🙂

I’m 21-year-old white guy and my penis is 9.5 inches long and 6.75 inches in girth (so my penis is about as thick as an AXE body spray can for example). Is it big or small in your opinion? Do I have a good penis size in your opinion or is it too big or too small in length and girth?

How much the thickness of a cock matters? Do you like a thick penis and how thick is thick in your opinion? Do I have a thick one?

Also, does flaccid size matter? Do women like to see bigger flaccid dicks? My dick is about 7.5 inches when soft so is it big or small?

Hopefully you can answer 🙂

Sounds like you have a way above average, large and thick penis. Far more important than size is what you do with it, how much you are able to pleasure your lover with your hands, mouth and cock. In fact, with a penis that big, it is essential that you warm up your lover before penetrating so you don’t hurt her! Learn how to use your hands and mouth and make it a goal to give a woman at least one orgasm before you penetrate, and she’ll be much more able to take your full size inside without pain.

Thanks for your answer 🙂
Does women’s body type matter when it comes to penis size? I mean like are curvy girls with wide hips better to handle bigger penis than petite girls? Cause I have a new gf and she is asian and about 5′ 0” tall and she weighs about 95 Ibs so she is very petite. I just don’t want to hurt her during sex. and yeah about the flaccid size does bulge size matter? Are bigger bulges a turn on? Cause I have quite a massive bulge and sometimes it’s embarrassing when girls are laughing at me…

Women’s vaginal canals do vary in size, but there is no correalation between overall body size and vaginal size, just as there is no correalation between men’s body type and penis size (the biggest guys I have seen were all lanky skinny boys) So as I said, just go slow, explore her opening with your fingers and see what works. Also penetrate slowly, an inch at a time, so it is more pleasurable for her.

Question:: I’d like to know more about “fisting”. Although I hate the term (it sounds violent), my wife often enjoys a fuller “hand job”. However, my hands seem to be just a bit too broad at the knuckles and I don’t want to push it and end up giving pain rather than pleasure. Are there good quality vaginal plugs (i guess similar to a butt plug) that would be better ? Or will I eventually manage a full hand given enough arousal / time etc..

Thanks so much for all the cool info. We’ve been married for over 20 years and are trying hard to stay close and intimate despite all the pressure of teenage kids, mortgage etc etc. And thanks for thinking of us boring straight folks !! 🙂

All the best.

Hey there!

Your Question:: My boyfriend has a very small penis. I can barely tell when he is inside me. I can count on one hand how many orgasms I’ve had with him throughout our two year relationship. Even his hands are small, so he is unable to bring me to climax manually. We communicate openly and he is well aware of the problem. He’s tried everything I’ve asked of him, but at this point, I’ve become dependent on a vibrator. I hate that! But I love him so much! We are compatible in every other aspect of our lives and plan to get married. But I really need to know I’m not sentencing myself to a life of unfulfilling sex. He has no complaints in the bedroom. He is sweet and affectionate!

Hey there,

Your situation is not uncommon, and there are a few ways to approach it. You may want to start by listening to our podcast episode on the subject: Does Penis Size Matter? 

First, remember that your clitoris is the center of your sexual system, so no matter what size his hands he can learn how to bring you to orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Have you checked out our fingering techniques video together? Might be a fun and non threatening way to explore together. You might also want to explore fisting if you crave big penetration and he has little hands!

You can also try having intercourse while he wears a masturbation sleeve. A sleeve will increase his girth and he will be able to move inside it so you both will feel lots of sensation. Try having him put on a sleeve, then put a condom over it to smooth it all out and try penetration that way. They also make dildos that are hollow so he can put it over his penis and then penetrate you that way.

There are lots of ways he can pleasure you with his hands and mouth, and his penis using toys or not. If the relationship is worth sticking around for, I would encourage you to use this as an excuse to get creative and explore lots of ways to make love!

Let me know if any of these suggestions work out for you, or if you have any follow up questions.

Cheers!

Chris