Pleasure Mechanics

Massage is Amazing Foreplay, But Not Always Foreplay

The goal is to bring massage into your relationship to be a positive physical expression of your love, affection, desire, commitment. We invite you to share massage as an expression of love.

Massage can be amazing foreplay. Massage relaxes the body, preparing it for more intense arousal. It builds up intimacy, allowing you to go deeper with one another during lovemaking. Massage also brings your attention to the entire body, allowing whatever erotic sensation you build to flow more freely, creating full body arousal and orgasms. You’ll also be developing your touch skills, communication, timing and many other skills that will simply make you a better lover.

But it is important to know that all massage will not lead into sex – it can be enjoyed for its own pleasures, without any expectation of it culminating in sex. Communicate about what your mood, hopes and expectations are before you start massage, to avoid any misunderstandings – if one of you is thinking foreplay, and the other is ready to receive a massage then drift off to sleep, there might be some hurt feelings after an otherwise pleasurable experience. Be clear if you want the massage to lead to sex, you definitely don’t want to have sex, or you are open but not sure yet and want to check in later during the massage and see how you feel then.

So enjoy massage on its own as often as you can. When you are both in the mood, use massage as extended foreplay and notice the benefits to your sex life. But don’t conflate the two – or you might find one partner avoiding massage because they don’t feel like having sex – missing an opportunity to exchange pleasurable touch and share an intimate moment. And, you can always check in after the massage and see how you feel – receiving massage may stir up erotic excitement that wasn’t there when you started!

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Female Sexual System

The female sexual system is not as mysterious as many people believe. Men and women have more in common than we have differences. The female sexual system is an elegant architecture of pleasure – all of the parts are essential for optimal sexual experience and performance.

Many women experience shame about the appearance of their genitals. Genitals come in all shapes, sizes and colors, as diverse as the human face. No matter what your parts look like, your body is capable of experiencing sexual pleasure, arousal and orgasms.

The word vulva refers to the external genitals. The word vagina refers just to the internal opening. Neither of these terms, nor any of the slang for female genitals, accurately reflects the entire sexual system.

Clitoris : What It Is & How To Stimulate It

Clitoris DiagramThe clitoris is a central part of the female sexual system. It is part of the vulva, and the most sensitive part of the female body.  It is found at the top of the vulva, in between the labia.

The size and shape of the clitoris ranges widely from person to person, and the appearance often changes over the course of arousal and orgasm.

The clitoris contains erectile tissue that allows it to swell and extend during arousal. Some women will notice dramatic changes, others will have more subtle clitoral erections.

Many people consider the clitoris to be a small external structure, but what is visible is just the tip of the iceberg. The clitoral roots extend back into the body and down through the labia, connecting sensations throughout the region. One of the reasons internal stimulation feels good is because you are stimulating the internal roots of the clitoris!

The clitoris, just like the penis, has both a shaft and a head. You can stimulate the shaft of the clitoris as a warm up to more direct touch of the clitoral head.

Stimulate The Clitoris For Female Orgasm

erogenousClitoral stimulation is essential for female orgasm. Most women do not experience orgasm from penetration alone – they need clitoral stimulation to build up arousal and experience climax. Many women prefer the clitoris to be stimulated from the side or through the clitoral hood. Warm her up slowly to avoid overstimulating the highly sensitive clitoris. Master the skills of giving women pleasure with our Foreplay Mastery Course, which includes a stroke-by-stroke guide to touching women with skills and confidence.

The head of the clitoris has about 10,000 nerve endings – more than any other part of either the male or female body. It is considered the only part of human anatomy designed exclusively for pleasure. The clitoris is the anatomical homologue (match) to the penis. Remember this when considering the importance of the clitoris to female sexual pleasure!

Labia

The labia are part of the vulva (the external female genitals) and are anatomical homologues of the male scrotal skin. The labia cover and protect the sensitive clitoris, but are also part of the overall sexual system.

There are two sets of labia, inner and outer. Also referred to labia majora and labia menora. The labia come in all shapes, sizes and colors. Sometimes the inner lips are much larger than the outer lips, or vice versa. It is a myth that the outer labia are always larger than the inner labia.

There is a very wide range of normal labia, from tiny to big labia, short to long labia, pink to brown labia. The labia we see in most pornography does not reflect the diversity of labia that are perfectly normal, healthy and beautiful.

Many women grow up believing their genitals are deformed in some way, when all within the beautiful range of normal, healthy genitals. Genitals are just as diverse as the human face – we all have similar parts that can look radically different.

Honoring and celebrating all genitals is an essential part of creating a sexually healthy culture.