Pleasure Mechanics

Perineum

The perineum is the central part of the pelvic floor, in between the genitals and the anus. This area is an often overlooked part of the sexual system. It is an intersection of pelvic muscles, with a dense concentration of blood vessels and nerve endings. For both the male and female sexual system, the perineum is a crucial zone that should not be ignored during erotic play.

Deep and penetrating touch at the perineum relaxes the muscles of the pelvis and encourages blood flow into the genitals. Try exploring the perineal area while pleasuring your lover’s genitals with your hands or mouth.

The perineum is also the sweet spot for external prostate massage on men.

Anus

The anus is part of both the male and female sexual system. The external anal sphincter is one of the most sensitive parts of the human body, with one of the densest concentrations of nerve endings. You can get a lot of pleasure out of external anal stimulation without ever going inside. If you do try anal penetration, you’ll find the internal anal sphincter. This muscle is involuntary and only relaxes when the body wants to open up – this is why you can’t rush anal sex. Through external touch and arousal, the internal sphincter begins to relax and open, giving way to the rectum. Internal anal stimulation is pleasurable for the sense of pressure and fullness it creates. Internal stimulation can also reach the clitoris and the root of the penis from inside – adding another layer of pleasure.

Anal sex can range from very light external stimulation all the way up to full penetration. Your experience is up to you to decide – if you are curious about including anal play in your sex life, start with our Guide to Anal Play for Women and our Guide to Prostate Massage for men. You’ll learn everything you need to know to enjoy highly pleasurable anal stimulation and add anal sensation to the sex you already enjoy.

Priapism

Priapism is a medical condition, in which the erect penis or clitoris does not return to its flaccid state, despite the absence of both physical and psychological stimulation, within four hours. Priapism is considered a medical emergency, which should receive medical treatment Early treatment can be crucial for a full recovery with full sexual function.

How long is too long to be hard? The duration of a normal erection before it is classifiable as priapism is still controversial. Ongoing penile erections for more than 6 hours can be classified as priapism.

Priaprism should not be confused with prolonged erections and sustained arousal attained through sexual techniques such as ejaculation control. Erections naturally have some ebb and flow, the hardness changing over the course of arousal, especially if arousal is maintained for hours.

The name comes from the Greek god Priapus, a fertility god often represented with a disproportionately large and permanent erection.

Pleasure

Most simply, pleasure is the experience of being pleased, gratified, rewarded. Pleasure most typically references a sensual experience of some sort – an experience of our physical bodies that we find good, satisfying or arousing.

Pleasure also connotes desire of some sort – we desire that which pleases us – good food, erotic touch, beautiful music. The relationship between desire and pleasure in most people is a cycle – we experience pleasure from something particular, and in turn begin to crave more. If you have never tasted fine wines, it is hard to desire it. We all have a unique constellation of known pleasures- developed tastes and desires that bring us joy, satisfaction and fulfillment. From our favorite music and food to a specific kind of erotic touch, many of us have desires for specific sensual delights.

To keep life interesting and relationships exciting, we can also begin to explore new kinds of pleasure – and may discover that we are capable of experiencing way more pleasure than we knew possible.

Orgasm

Orgasms get a LOT of attention in the world of sexuality and there are a ton of myths and misunderstandings about orgasms that prevent us from fully experiencing pleasure, connection and climax.

Orgasm is a specific event in the body: a release of accumulated sexual arousal, marked by involuntary contractions of the pelvic muscles and a hormonal cascade from excitement to enjoyment.

Orgasm is a brain event, not a genital event. This is essential for understanding that orgasm can be experienced from ANY kind of stimulation that produces arousal.

All bodies can experience one or more orgasms in any given sexual event, with or without ejaculation. Most people experience a building of sexual excitement towards a threshold, and a “point of inevitability” at which orgasm is imminent.

Orgasms can range from mild to wild, quick to long lasting, serene to bestial.

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Speaking Of Sex Episodes About Orgasm

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