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The Sexy Side Of Sensory Nerve Endings

The Anatomy of Pleasure : The Sexy Side of Sensory Nerve Endings

To fully explore your capacity for sensual and sexual pleasure, it is useful to know a little bit about how pleasure works in our body. Our anatomy is an intricate, awe-inspiring feat of chemistry and physics, and serves as a useful roadmap to the experiences we crave.

Pleasure begins with a stimulus, and ends with a response, a full body reaction that our system perceives experiences as pleasure. The stimulus can be from any of the five senses – sight, smell, sound, touch or taste. It can even be the thought of pleasure – we humans are so hardwired for pleasure that a thought alone can trigger powerful physical responses.

Your sensory nerves cover your entire body, inside and out, providing the brain with constant information about both the external and internal environment. The densest concentrations of nerve endings are found in the fingertips, lips, clitoris, penis and anus. There are four kinds of sensory nerves in the skin – some detect tiny vibrations on the surface of the skin, others detect deeper pressure. There are even specialized nerve endings to detect changes in temperature. All senses are highly specialized variations of touch sensors: the sensory nerves in your ears, for example, are tiny filaments that respond to the vibration of sound waves.

Each nerve ending has a “threshold” for stimulation – at a certain point (of vibration, pressure, heat, etc) the nerve will fire, creating an electrical impulse that travels up the nerve axon. When it reaches the end of the nerve fiber, a chemical reaction “jumps” across the space (synapse) to the next nerve ending, where the impulse again travels up that nerve fiber, and so on until the signal reaches the brain. These signals travel through our body at up to 250 miles per hour, so you feel stimulation on your toe within a tiny fraction of a second.

Our sensory nerves are constantly firing, providing our brain with valuable information about our surroundings, our activities and other sensory inputs. It is astonishing that our brain handles so much information, constantly throughout the day, and we barely notice this process going on.

Sensory nerves raise the threshold for firing when there is a consistent, steady input of sensation. This is why you don’t notice the clothes you are wearing most of the time – but if a wrinkle forms in your pants and it stimulates your skin in a new way, you’ll notice.

This is true as well for repeated stimulation in massage and sex – if you do the same thing over and over, exactly the same way, the person you are touching will begin feeling it less. Repetition feels good- you can get into a trancelike rhythm of sensation that can be relaxing and arousing. But variation keeps things fresh and unexpected. As in music, repetition with variation creates the most pleasurable outcome.

The more we learn and discover what our bodies are capable of, the more we can feel at home in our sexuality and desires, and know how to create profoundly pleasurable sex for all involved! If you are interested in exploring the Pleasure Mechanics strategies and techniques for maximum pleasure, get started for free with our Erotic Essentials course.

Women Get Erections Too! Here’s What You Need To Know

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We ALL get erections – it is not just a guy thing! All human bodies have about the same amount of erectile tissue in their genitals – it is just situated differently! People with vulvas get erections too – and in this podcast episode we cover everything you need to know about female erections for more fun and pleasure!

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In the 3D animation below, notice the purple structures – and imagine how much better penetration feels when the area is awake and erect!

Learn more about the amazing clitoris and how to pleasure it:

Want more visual illustration of the female anatomy?

Check out Cyndi Darnell’s Atlas of Erotic Anatomy here

Butt Plugs! Who, What, Where, When, Why and How?

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Butt plugs are one of the most versatile types of sex toys, but not many people know about them. Here is everything you’ve ever wanted to know (and more!) about butt plugs. In this free podcast episode, we cover all the basics and more. This is a Who, What, Where, When, Why and How Episode of Speaking of Sex, so we cover all the essentials, including:

  • What is a butt plug?
  • Who are butt plugs for?
  • Where do you use butt plugs?
  • When do you use butt plugs?
  • How do you use a butt plug?
  • How can men use butt plugs?
  • How can men and women use butt plugs during sex?
  • Why do butt plugs feel good?
  • How are butt plugs different from dildos?
  • Should I buy a vibrating butt plug?

Resources Mentioned On This Episode:

How To Prepare For Anal Play

Prostate Massage Mastery Online Course

Anal Play Mastery Online Course

A Few Of Our Favorite Butt Plugs:

*Bvibe Silicone Plugs: a range of sizes, body safe silicone and friendly colors

*Njoy Stainless Steel Plugs: for those who like a heavier, harder heft

*Trainer Set: a set with several sizes so you can explore what feels best to you

* SheVibe has the largest selection of butt plugs – especially if you want something playful (a tail? some sparkle? look no further!)

 


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Having Fun With Erotic Roleplaying

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When many people think about kinky sex, one of the first images to come to mind is erotic role playing. From the classic boss and secretary scenario to Prince Charming and Sleeping Beauty, role playing captures our collective erotic imagination. Yet many people find it hard to get into, leaving these erotic roles to fantasy alone.

If you want to be guided, step by step, in exploring kinky sex and erotic roleplaying, check out our Kinky Sex Mastery online course.

Role playing can be a powerful tool of kinky sex. Stepping into an erotic role gives you permission to experience things outside of your normal comfort zone. Using role playing in a long term relationship can trick your brain into believing you are having sex with someone new, creating much needed novelty in your sex life. Ultimately, role playing is like slipping into someone else’s skin for a short period of time, so you can experience something the “ordinary” you would never have access to.

Play is important. Kinky sex is a way that adults play. Roleplaying is a wonderful playground for all of us, if you are willing to get past any initial awkward moments and are willing to bring a playful spirit into the bedroom. We all worry about looking funny and not getting it quite right. Move through this concern and erotic role playing can be about having fun and getting imaginative. It can also be very hot for some people, and you’ll never know how arousing it can be if you don’t give it a fair shot!

Don’t be fooled into thinking that erotic role playing is all about costumes and props. As we’ll explore later on, costumes are great fun for some people and hold little interest for others. They certainly aren’t required for role playing, so if they aren’t interesting to you don’t give up on this fun category of kink!

Role playing is a form of storytelling. Instead of you and your lover having sex as you normally do, in your everyday roles as lovers or spouses, erotic role playing invites you into the world of drama where you can be whoever you want to be. By stepping into new roles, you get the chance to embody new attitudes, play with new energy and experience new dynamics between you. While the roles are temporary, the novelty and excitement often create long term positive effects in your relationship as a whole.

So even if you have no interest in dressing up like a pirate captain to claim your maiden captive, give erotic role playing a chance. You may find more than you bargained for!

Begging For It

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Imagine a lover gasping for air, begging for it, begging for YOU, begging for the release of your touch – is this a fantasy alone? Or is there a way to make begging for it something we can all do a bit more of, each in our own way?

In this episode we explore the erotic art of begging for it. What does begging for it mean – begging FOR sex vs. begging DURING sex? Begging for a specific sex act vs. begging for pleasure? Begging for orgasm vs. begging for mercy?

When we imagine erotic begging, we also need to think about the erotic energy behind the begging. Begging can range from bratty to reverent, from demanding to humiliating, from thrilling to flirty.

And, as Charlotte points out, isn’t begging really just an extreme form of consent? Of saying, out loud, what it is you want and how you want it? How can we leverage the sexiness of begging to make consent clear, honest and exciting?

If you are ready to explore your kinky side together, check out our Kinky Sex course – we’ll take you on a guided adventure, date by date, in the privacy of your own home.

 

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