Think about the excitement and curiosity you brought to your first consensual sexual experiences – those first kisses, first times seeing people naked, first sexual encounters. The awe and wonder of these moments might be palpable in your memories.
Now think about seeing a long-term partner naked. Doesn’t quite have the same charge, right?
To maximize the experience of enjoying each sexual encounter, we can cultivate a Beginner’s Erotic Mind. This approach gives us access to experiencing each sexual encounter as new and fresh.
This isn’t just a concept, it is truth. Every moment is unique and you and your partner are always changing – so cultivating a Beginner’s Erotic Mind invites us to practice meeting them anew each time.
We share this approach and many more simple yet effective guided practices for you to experience more pleasure, presence and passion in our Mindful Sex course.
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Cultivating this attitude of Beginner’s Erotic Mind allows us to approach new erotic experiences without preconceived judgments or worrying about “not doing it right.” If you approach a new sexual experience with Beginner’s Erotic Mind, it becomes ok not to know what to expect or not know exactly how to do things. Many people get hung up worrying about performing in bed, rather than experiencing what is actually happening. Practicing Beginner’s Erotic Mind gives you access to focusing on the experience unfolding in front of you in real-time.
“The richness of present-moment experience is the richness of life itself. Too often we let our thinking and our beliefs about what we “know” prevent us from seeing things as they really are.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn