Pleasure Mechanics

Penis Power: An Interview With Dr. Dudley Danoff

UPDATE: This episode has been retired.

To discover the powers of  the male sexual system, we think everyone deserves time with Cyndi Darnell’s Atlas of Erotic Anatomy, the erotic education we all should have had! She gives you a guided tour of your sexual anatomy and what it is capable of! 

The Modern Man’s Guide To Ending Performance Pressure

If you are struggling with erection and ejaculation control, sex therapist Vanessa Marin offers a comprehensive online program that will get you to the core of your individual experience and give you tons of strategies to take matters into your own hands!

Cunnilingus Techniques

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Cunnilingus Techniques :: Free Podcast Episode

Cunnilingus Techniques For Maximum Pleasure and Comfort

Cunnilingus is one of the most effective ways at giving women intense, orgasmic pleasure. But it is also a challenge for a lot of couples. No matter how comfortable you are giving oral sex to a woman, you can also improve your cunnilingus techniques to help her enjoy even more pleasure from this highly intimate act.

Most cunnilingus techniques focus on more speed and pressure. While this is an important skill to develop, it is also essential to learn how to convey love and devotion through your cunnilingus technique. Many women are hesitant to receive oral sex, so the first essential cunnilingus technique is the ability to make women comfortable and eager to receive this form of erotic attention. Only once she is comfortable receiving oral sex will you be able to lavish her with the your expert techniques and give her as much pleasure as possible.

In this free podcast episode (just hit the play button at the top of this page to start listening) we share Ian Kerner’s cunnilingus techniques that focus on slowing down and allowing your tongue to patiently draw forth her pleasure, without any rush towards orgasm or any agenda other than her maximum pleasure. He gives specific instructions for a cunnilingus technique that will surprise you – so make sure to give it a try to see how it works for you and your lover! His slow, methodical approach evokes an intense response in many women and will change the way you approach oral sex.

This podcast features several cunnilingus techniques to get you started at mastering the skill of oral sex. This episode features an excerpt from the NY Times bestselling author Ian Kerner. His book She Comes First is one of the best selling sex books of the past 10 years.

You can get a free audiobook version of She Comes First by Ian Kerner by signing up for a free trial membership at www.AudibleTrial.com/Pleasure

If you want to brush up on your clitoral anatomy so you can be sure to pleasure every part of her, here are two podcasts that go into detail all about the clitoris: Episode 106: Cliteracy and Episode 175: The Truth About The Clitoris.

Cock and Ball Play

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Cock and Ball Play

When you hear “cock and ball play” what comes to mind? For most people, intense images of clamps, bondage and other extreme toys come to mind. While cock and ball play is sometimes called “cock and ball torture” this type of stimulation doesn’t have to be intense to be fun!

In this podcast, expert Hardy Haberman shares the basics of cock and ball play – including how to communicate and a few easy toys to get started with cock and ball stimulation.

The podcast covers:

  • the importance of communication as you start exploring CBT
  • why going slowly is always the wisest path when playing with these precious parts
  • the “starter kit” for sensation toys so you don’t have to spend a fortune
  • how one unexpected household item can get you started in cock and ball play
  • simple bondage techniques that anyone can use to begin experimenting

This podcast features an excerpt from Hardy Haberman’s essay found in The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and The Erotic Edge edited by T. Taormino.

God, Sex and Pleasure (according to a Rabbi!)

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In this podcast Charlotte reads from Yearnings: Ancient Wisdom For Daily Life, Embracing The Sacred Messiness of Life by Rabbi Irwin Kula. The excerpts are taken from the chapter on The Blessing of Pleasure.

This piece from Rabbi Kula is extraordinary. It feels so important to me to share spiritual voices about pleasure and sex. In a world where pleasure is distorted, misunderstood and misused this kind of smart, nuanced spiritual perspective is so valuable. There are many of you who overtly struggle with the idea that the sensual is sacred, and many more who feel it as a more subtle undercurrent in your life. Hearing this spiritual leader’s acceptance, reverence and integration of the sacred, sensual, sexual and spiritual is deeply healing for many of us. This voice and perspective can give us permission to continue to untether our guilt and shame and instead to deepen in letting pleasure be a joyful part of our life. One of the parts I love so much is he really speaks to the fulfillment, satisfaction and happiness that sensual pleasures can offer us that many other experiences can not. Rabbi Kula speaks so well to the idea that our inclusion of pleasure is key to a fulfilling life where we feel connected to our own bodies and to each other.

One of the other parts I think is interesting is about creating “dirty monogamy”. This is using different language but is in a way paralleling what relationship expert Esther Perel and renowned anthropologist Helen Fisher talk about in how to make monogamy exciting. We talked about those ideas in Podcasts 102 and 130. This continues the idea that to have an excellent relationship it is essential to keep cultivating risk, excitement and newness in long term relationships.

This approach to pleasure is at the core of why we, The Pleasure Mechanics, do the work we do. We deeply believe in the sacred nature of pleasure. Chris and I both experience spirituality to be at the core of our lives, but we follow no faith aside from following our body’s wisdom and the path of pleasure so Rabbi Kula’s words are music to my ears and salve to my soul. So I’ll sign off for today and encourage you to find and notice the blessings of pleasure in your everyday life, always.

PS If you are interested in having outdoor sex like Rabbi Kula shares about please listen to Podcast 41 on how to do it safely without getting caught!

 

A Billion Wicked Thoughts

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A Billion Wicked Thoughts : Interview with author Ogi Ogas

A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What The Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

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A Billion Wicked Thoughts : Interview with author Ogi Ogas

Together with his co-author Sai Gaddam, Dr. Ogi Ogas analyzed a billion web searches, a million Web sites, a million erotic videos, a million erotic stories, millions of personal ads, tens of thousands of digitized romance novels, and much more. The results? Stunning data on the nature of desire and fantasy, gathered together in the amazing book A Billion Wicked Thoughts.

Ogi Ogas received his Ph.D. in computational neuroscience from Boston University, where he designed mathematical models of learning, memory, and vision. Ogi was also a Department of Homeland Security Fellow and conducted biodefense research at MIT Lincoln Laboratory.

He used cognitive techniques from his brain research to win half a million dollars on Who Wants to Be a Millionaire.

Ogi brought all of his skills to investigating one of the biggest mysteries in human history: what exactly arouses men and women? What are our true desires, unfiltered by the social forces of shame and secrecy?

Billion Wicked Thoughts :: Interview with author Ogi Ogas