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Female Masturbation with Jenny Block

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Female Masturbation with Jenny Block

Jenny Block is a sex writer and educator. Her latest book is The Ultimate Guide To Solo Sex, and she has also written books about female orgasm and open marriage. In this podcast episode, she joins us to talk about her new book and the importance of female masturbation for a happy, healthy sex life. Jenny Block opens up with some personal and hilarious stories about her own solo sex adventures – and what happens when you get a thousand women on a cruise ship to have orgasms every day! 

We cover:  

  • Why it is important to actively celebrate and think about female masturbation
  • Why we can’t truly be at peace in our bodies without masturbation.
  • How female masturbation can make women better wives, mothers, friends and global citizens
  • Masturbation requires women to take time and focus solely on their own pleasure – is there something political about this act?
  • Why some women can only reach orgasm in one specific position – and the good things that happen when you break these patterns and diversify the positions and methods used during masturbation.
  • Sexy ways to integrate masturbation into relationships: sexting phone sex, skype sex and more!

Find out more about Jenny Block and her new book, The Ultimate Guide To Solo Sex here!

The Reromanticizing Exercise

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Has the romance faded from your relationship? Want to feel those sparks of new romance again? Just want to feel more love and care in your life?

The Reromanticizing Exercise comes from the classic relationship guide Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. First published in 1988, this book has been a massive New York Times bestseller and a classic guide for relationship self-help and marital therapy. This simple yet effective exercise is a tool for getting clear about what kind of love you want to receive and how you can best give your partner the love they crave.

Harville and Helen Hendrix went on to develop Imago Therapy, used by tens of thousands of therapists all around the world. You can learn more about their work here.

You can get an audiobook copy of Getting The Love You Want for FREE with your free trial at Audible.com.

Here are the 5 basic steps for The Reromanticizing Exercise:

  1. Identify what your partner is already doing that pleases you. Make a list, being as specific as possible, completing this sentence: I feel loved and cared about when you…
  2. Recall the most romantic stage of your relationship and think about what you used to do but no longer do very often. Make a list, being as specific as possible, completing this sentence: I used to feel loved and cared about when you… 
  3.  Think about caring and loving behaviors that you have always wanted but have never asked for. Make a list, being as specific as possible, completing this sentence: I would like you to…
  4. Now combine your lists, and think about which gestures are most important to you. Label each behavior from 1-5, 1 being very important and 5 being least important.
  5. Share your list with your partner. Now aim to do 1-2 gestures for one another every day for 2 months.

You’ll find this and more relationship exercises in the book, Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.

Swinging and Ethical Non-Monogamy with Cooper Beckett

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Curious about swinging? Interested in exploring ethical non-monogamy or polyamory? Fascinated by alternative sexual lifestyles? This is a not to be missed episode where we dive deep into the topics of swinging and non-monogamy with our special guest, Cooper Beckett.

Cooper is the founder of LifeontheSwingset.com & host of its swinging & polyamory podcast. He speaks and teaches classes on pegging, swinging, polyamory, play parties, and non-monogamy. He has written two books. My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory & a new novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous. Use the code “pleasure” to get 10% off the new book!

You can get his book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as a FREE audiobook on Audible.com with your free trial membership. Click here for your FREE audio book!

In this podcast episode (hit the play button at the top of this page to listen!) we cover:

  • the difference between swinging, ethical non-monogamy and polyamory
  • the first steps towards exploring swinging (without taking off your clothing!)
  • conversations to have with your partner if you are interested in ethical non-monogamy
  • how to find your local swinging community
  • safety while swinging
  • the difference between “full swap” and “soft swap”
  • Cooper’s new novel “A Life Less Monogamous“

Erotic Failure: No Such Thing

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Erotic Failure : No Such Thing

At one point or another, we all feel like a failure in the realm of romance and sex. When relationships end, when our sex life isn’t what we want it to be, when we feel like we’ve let someone down, the crushing feeling of failure can set in.

In this episode, Buddhist teacher Pema Chödrön offers soothing wisdom about the true nature of failure. She reveals how failure can be just the opening we need to grow, heal and better understand ourselves.

“Sometimes you experience failed expectations as heartbreak and disappointment, and sometimes you feel rage. Failure or things not working out as you’d hoped doesn’t feel good; that’s for sure. But at the time, maybe instead of doing the habitual thing of labeling yourself a “failure” or a “loser” or thinking there is something wrong with you, you could get curious about what is going on. . . Remember that you never know where something will lead.” ~ Pema Chödrön

This excerpt is from her book Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better. Get this book or another one of her amazing books as a FREE audiobook by clicking here for your free Audible.com trial membership.

Kinky Communication 101 with Patrick Califia

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Kinky Communication 101 :: Free Podcast Episode

Patrick Califia, one of the best known BDSM educators, shares a five step communication cycle for talking to your partner about sexual fantasies, kinky sex and other forbidden subjects. These erotic communication tools are also useful for anytime you want to talk to your partner about a vulnerable topic.

This podcast features an excerpt from Patrick Califia’s book Sensuous Magic: A Guide to S/M for Adventurous Couples.

You can get this book for free from Audible by going to AudibleTrial.com/Pleasure and enrolling in a free trial membership!

Ready to explore kinky sex? The Kinky Sex Mastery Online Course guides you into the thrilling adventure of kinky sex, one step at a time! Designed for total beginners and more experienced players alike, you’ll master all the skills you need to have exciting kinky adventures while avoiding the most common pitfalls. If you are ready for your next erotic journey, dive in here.