Pleasure Mechanics

Naughty Sex For Grown Ups

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Naughty Sex For Grown Ups

Isn’t it fun to feel a little naughty? Ever since we were kids, being a bit naughty has been so thrilling. Bending the rules, sneaking a treat, testing boundaries and breaking taboos are surefire ways to create a thrill.

Erotic taboos can be a tremendous source of arousal. But they also create shame, and shame creates silence. In that silence, people can get hurt. So how do we relieve ourselves from crippling shame while preserving the thrills of breaking taboos?

In this week’s podcast, we explore the art of releasing shame and mastering technique while enjoying the thrill of breaking taboos. Make sure to tune in if any part of you enjoys being a little naughty once in awhile!

One of our favorite sexologists, the late and great Jack Morin, recognized the erotic importance of taboos. He even names “violating prohibitions” as one of the four cornerstones of eroticism. He states: “A fusion of arousal and rule-breaking when you’re young dramatically increases the odds that you’ll retain in your adult eroticism a tendency to be excited by violational behaviors and fantasies. I call the aphrodisiac effects of violating prohibitions “the naughtiness factor”

The essential step is to release shame so you truly believe in your heart that your actions are good for you and healthy. Then you can roleplay as much naughtiness as you wish.

Let’s admit it: we all like being a bit naughty once in awhile. We believe you can slay shame and still get the thrills of the naughtiness factor. You can be as naughty as you want to be and still feel great about yourself!

Erotic Massage

What Is Erotic Massage?

Erotic massage is a complete sexual experience that both men and women can enjoy. Erotic massage can create extremely high levels of arousal and often ends with powerful full body orgasms. The key to erotic massage is combining full body touch with arousing erotic touch.

Erotic massage is a “taking turns” erotic experience. One of you is in the role of Giver, the other gets to relax and focus entirely on being the Receiver.
Erotic massage is an opportunity to lavish your lover with erotic touch, head to toe. It is a very luxurious experience, and many people report reaching higher levels of arousal than they knew possible.

Just like oral sex, the experience of “taking turns” allows you to sink deeper into the experience of both giving and receiving. While receiving erotic massage, there is nothing to do but focus on the sensations in your body. Many people are surprised at just how much arousal they can handle while receiving erotic massage. Women are surprised at how much pleasure they can feel when they give themselves permission to receive the full attention of their devoted lover. Men are surprised at how long they can sustain arousal and maintain erections. When receiving erotic massage people often experience far more arousal than they new possible.

Erotic massage starts with a full body massage. This relaxes the body and primes it for full body arousal. Once the recipient is totally relaxed, you can begin building arousal with erotic stimulation. Using your hands to stimulate your lover’s genitals (and anal area if you so choose!) you build up arousal and then use more full body touch to “spread it out” into full body arousal.

When done well, erotic massage creates the experience of full body orgasm – as you climax you feel the arousal streaming through every part of your body. Many people report the sensation of arousal streaming through their legs and arms and “shooting out” the top of their heads. Don’t go into your first erotic massage experience expecting a transcendent outcome. Just like any other physical skill, it will take time to master. Instead, approach it with a spirit of curiosity and just be open to what happens!

To master the art of erotic massage, check out the Foreplay Mastery Course!

Rope Bondage For Beginners

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Rope Bondage For Beginners

Rope bondage is one of the most common erotic fantasies for both men and women. There is a strong allure for participating on both sides of the bondage fantasy. It can be incredibly sexy to imagine being tied up by a trusted lover, held captive in ropes while you are lavished in touch. It is equally thrilling to imagine having your partner bound tightly, looking up at you as you decide what to do to them next. For some people, it is the ropes and restraint that are so captivating. Others find a kind of freedom in being dominated and restrained, so they can relax into the erotic experience and do nothing but receive.

One of the most important things to learn is that bondage doesn’t have to be rough to be sexy. It can be a slow, sensual experience of love and trust. Bondage can even be a portal to a spiritual erotic experience.

“By restraining the flesh, the body is occupied, leaving the mind and spirit to engage in other pursuits.”

In this week’s podcast, we are joined by internationally recognized rope bondage expert Lee Harrington to talk all about rope bondage. We cover:

  • the history of rope bondage in Japan
  • how rope bondage became a popular fantasy
  • how to get started with your very first rope bondage scene
  • safety precautions for beginners
  • how to make rope bondage
  • how to amplify intimacy with rope bondage

Lee Harrington is an internationally known sex educator who focuses on the intersection of spirituality, eroticism and kink. He is an award winning author, and just released both an updated version of Shibari You Can Use and a sequel More Shibari You Can Use, both hands-on manuals about rope bondage. Lee emphasizes the intimate and even spiritual uses of rope bondage while providing easy to use techniques that beginners can put to use right away.

Whether or not you ever want to try out something like rope bondage, this conversation will fascinate and delight you. You’ll learn something you can apply to your sex life, with or without the thrills of bondage!

Best Sex Ever

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Best Sex Ever

This week we are sharing some of favorite techniques for having the Best. S*x. Ever. These are the elements that will take your lovemaking from ordinary to extraordinary. Try one of the strategies and see how things heat up. Slowly add them, one by one, to your intimate life and you’ll feel their collective power!

Remember, one of the best ways to improve your love life is to take the time to learn how to give one another more pleasure. Our online courses are the perfect way to invest in one another’s pleasure (and orgasms, and ecstasy!)

Some couples invest thousands of dollars going to a weekend workshop – we’ve taught sold out workshops all across the country. Now, we bring all of our best techniques to you so you can explore at your own pace in the privacy of your own home (for less than the cost of one night at a hotel!)

Ready to master new erotic skills and take your love life to the next level?

Enroll in one of our online courses now!

Flirtation, Seduction And Initiation

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Flirtation, Seduction And Initiation

In episode #074 of the podcast we explored how to be romantic while still being true to yourself. We examined the four elements of authentic romance so you can discover how to activate the power of romance all year long, going beyond red roses and champagne.

To continue our 3 part series leading up to the lover’s holiday of Valentine’s Day, this week we are exploring Flirtation, Seduction & Initiation.

  • Flirting is all about expressing attraction and creating the spark of desire. Flirting is part of what makes dating so much fun, but tends to get lost in long term relationships. In this episode, we talk about why flirting is so important to maintain in a long term relationship and give you strategies to start flirting with your partner again.
  • Seduction is the art of inviting your partner into an erotic experience. Many people don’t feel very seductive, but we give you strategies to seduce and fearlessly initiate intimacy.
  • Initiation can be scary, because it makes you vulnerable and puts you at risk of rejection. But if you want to have a great love life, you have to learn how to fearlessly initiate intimacy. Listen in to discover how!

Flirting, Seducing and Initiating are essential skills for having a great love life over the years. Listen in to this week’s episode and challenge yourself to amp up these forces in your relationship, and we promise you’ll love the results!