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How To Have Multiple Orgasms

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How To Have Multiple Orgasms

In this episode, we share how to have multiple orgasms as we answer a listener’s question about how to experience multiple orgasms.

Are all women capable of multiple orgasms?

How can women learn to have multiple orgasms? Listen in to find out!

Curious about male multiple orgasms? Check out the podcast episode on Multiple Orgasms For Every Body

More About How To Have Multiple Orgasms

In this episode, we answer a listener’s question about how to have multiple orgasms. She wants to know if all women can learn how to have multiple orgasms, or if she should be satisfied with just one orgasm.

While not essential for great sex, all women can learn how to have multiple orgasms if they choose. We offer practical strategies to try out during both solo and partnered sex to build arousal towards a second (or third, or fourth!) orgasm.

Many women experience hypersensitivity in the clitoris after an orgasm, making them stop the sexual experience after one orgasm. We share techniques to stay connected and continue building arousal while giving the clitoris a rest. We also discuss breathing techniques, how to build more arousal through stimulating multiple erogenous zones, and how to communicate with your partner as you explore how to have multiple orgasms together.

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Fingering : Part of the Foreplay Mastery Course

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How To: Clitoral Stimulation

If you want to be a great lover and be able to pleasure women, you need to learn how to master clitoral stimulation. For sexual satisfaction and fulfillment, the clitoris is the most important square inch of flesh on the female body. Of course, paying attention to the full body is important – and learning how to touch and pleasure every part of your lover’s body is an essential skill in becoming a better lover. But when it comes to female arousal and orgasm, the clitoris is the key.

The clitoris has about 8,000 nerve endings – the densest concentration of nerve endings anywhere on the male or female body. The external structure of the clitoris is the most available to touch, but the clitoral body extends deep into the body, and can be stimulated internally, or when pressure grinds the internal clitoris against the pubic bone!

For a complete how-to for clitoral stimulation, check out the Foreplay Mastery Course

Clitoral Stimulation is Essential for Female Pleasure!

Clitoral StimulationFor the vast majority of women, clitoral stimulation is essential for becoming highly aroused and reaching orgasm. Some women love the addition of vaginal penetration or anal play (or both!) – but almost all women need their clitoris to be a key component in sexual stimulation. To become a more confident lover and gain mastery over the female orgasm, clitoral stimulation techniques are top priority.

But don’t get stuck with just one clitoral stimulation method – just because it worked on your last lover doesn’t mean every woman will respond! It is far better to be confident with many different ways of stimulating the clitoris, so you can mix it up, surprise your lover with new sensations and stimulate more nerve endings for maximum pleasure.  Learning a wide range of clitoral stimulation techniques will allow you to pleasure every woman, every time.

Women need a range of stimulation to stay satisfied – which is why our video guide on female pleasure guides you in learning a huge range of clitoral stimulation methods – from gentle warm-ups to highly arousing strokes, from one finger techniques to an exclusive internal-external stimulation technique that touches all parts of the clitoris simultaneously. We know that clitoral pleasure is essential for female sexual fulfillment – so our guide makes the clitoris a priority, in addition to showing ways of pleasuring the entire external vulva as well as internal stimulation techniques.

Let us show you how to master clitoral stimulation techniques, g-spot stimulation and much more. Gain the skills and confidence you need to surprise your lover with a wide range of sensations and powerful orgasms.

How to Give a Handjob

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How To Give A Handjob

Ready to learn how to give a handjob that he’ll never forget? First, forget everything you think you know about handjobs.

Forget the image of holding on and pumping up and down in the same frenzied motion over and over again. We’re not quite sure when this one-stroke model for touching men became the norm, but throw it out the window – men deserve a lot more finesse than that.

Touch your man with creativity and curiosity, and use your hands to create the widest range of sensation possible.
ForeplayBadgeAs trained massage therapists and body-based sex educators, we are experts in erotic touch, and to help you out we have created a stroke-by-stroke video guide that demonstrates a huge range of handjob techniques for maximum pleasure and arousal.

The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Handjobs was first published on DVD in 2007.  Now, you’ll find the video and much more in our Foreplay Mastery Course.

Learn a few new skills and you’ll soon discover that your hands can create a huge range of sensations. You can create a full and satisfying sexual experience with just your hands if you know how.

Tips on How To Give A Handjob To Blow His Mind!

  • Use lubricant to allow your hands to slip and slide over his sensitive skin. Lube decreases friction and increases sensation.
  • Use more pressure than you thought possible. Many women are scared of hurting the penis and use light, tentative pressure. Try using a very firm grip, using your hands to create a tight squeeze along the entire length of his shaft. Then explore the full range of pressure, from feather light to very deep.
  • Use your hands in a variety of ways – from a full hand grasp to a single finger glide. The more variety you create, the more sensation he will feel and your touch will stay fresh and exciting.
  • Play with rhythm and speed to create variety. Think of it as music – steady rhythm with variety and unexpected flourishes creates more pleasure.
  • Think of the stimulation as a journey, not a race to the finish. Don’t just find one stroke that works and try to finish as quickly as possible. Build up his arousal, then back off. Tease him. Create peaks and valleys in his pleasure. This will make his climax even more intense.

Ready to master the skill of how to give a handjob? The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Handjobs is the world’s bestselling video guide on how to give a handjob that will blow his mind! You’ll find it and much more in our Foreplay Mastery Course.

You’ll learn strokes to create a wide range of sensations, prolong his arousal and give him stronger orgasms. Go way beyond the classic jerk-off stroke – surprise him with all of the different ways you stimulate his most sensitive parts.

Kegels for Men Exercises for Pelvic Strength

Most people think Kegel exercises are just for women. Men can also benefit from strengthening the muscles of the pelvic floor: some men report major increase in erectile function and more powerful orgasms. Remember, during orgasm the muscles of the pelvic floor contract – so stronger muscles means stronger contractions, and stronger contractions mean stronger orgasm. Makes sense, right?

Below you’ll find a few Kegel exercises for men to get you started.

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The musculature of the pelvic floor can be toned and strengthened with exercise. Clenches are the easiest way to tone your pelvic muscles. Start with slow easy clenches, rhythmically tightening and relaxing the muscles around your genitals and anus. You should feel or see your penis lift with each clench and fall with each release. Try to do a set of five clenches a few times a day. When this feels easy, move on to sets of ten, fifteen, or more clenches at a time.

After mastering easy, slow clenches, begin adding in sets of faster clenches. Flutter your pelvic floor muscles. Pay attention to the sensations created through these clenches- can you feel the blood rushing to your genitals? Do you get erect? What do you notice while doing these clenches? A regular practice of pelvic clenches can have dramatic benefits. These clenches can be done anywhere at anytime- try them next time you are getting aroused or during a boring business meeting and notice the results!

Over time, the musculature of your pelvic floor will strengthen and you will be able to work each muscle within the group independently. Try working the left or right side, or work from back to front and see how many muscle actions you can isolate.

Kegel Exercise For Men #1: Clench and Release

Practicing clenches is easier lying down or standing, rather than sitting up with your weight on the pelvic floor. Begin by lying in a comfortable position, and bring your attention to the pelvic floor. Try and locate the muscles of the pelvic floor by clenching – clench your butt muscles first, then your anal sphincters, then move forward into the muscles around the genitals. Your penis should lift or bob with each clench. See if you can feel these distinct regions of the pelvic musculature. If you can not, do not worry. What you feel will change wildly over time. Just keep exploring what you do feel. Clench and release, clench and release. Check in and make sure you are releasing completely. Just like the breath, each part of this cycle is equally important. Over time, this action of clenching and releasing will relax patterns of chronic tension or constriction in these muscles. Begin with sets of 10 clenches. Then take a break. Over time, add more repetitions. You can also experiment with holding each clench a bit longer.

Kegel Exercise For Men #2: Quick Flutter

Once you’ve located the major pelvic floor muscles and begun to feel comfortable with the clench and release practice, try a quick flutter clench. Very quickly, contract and release the muscles in the pelvis. Try ten quick flutters, and over time work up to sets of fifty or more. Many find the quick flutter to be quite tiring. This clench helps train the muscles to contract rapidly, which is part of the natural orgasm response when aroused. By creating this clench deliberately, you are strengthening this response and have the opportunity to pay attention to the effect of creating more movement and blood flow in this muscle group.

Kegel Exercise For Men #3: Gradual Clench

This is a very powerful strengthening clench, and also helps to release chronic tension. You can practice the gradual clench focusing just on the muscles around the anus. Many have found this practice to be helpful in relief of hemorrhoids, which are caused when severe tension pushes blood vessels through the sensitive tissues around the anus. Try these clenches in sets of one or two to begin, then add a few more as you build strength.

First, to get a sense of the movement, try it in your hand. Make a fist, squeeze as hard as you can. Try to squeeze even harder. You may find the second squeeze difficult. Now, shake it out. Make a fist again, squeeze as hard as you can. Now relax it just a little bit, not all the way, and squeeze again. Relax just a little, then squeeze even harder. Repeat until you feel like you can’t clench any deeper. Now relax your hand completely.

Now try this with your anal sphincter muscles. Clench the sphincters a little bit, then relax a little. Clench deeper, then relax. Clench deeper yet. Make sure at the end of each set to relax your sphincter muscles completely – do not hold onto any extra tension. Notice if you feel any heat, energy or arousal in your body while practicing these gradual clenches.

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Beyond Kegels: Pelvic Clenches for Women

The musculature of the pelvic floor can be toned and strengthened with exercise. Clenches are the easiest way to tone your pelvic muscles. Start with slow easy clenches, rhythmically tightening and relaxing the muscles around your genitals and anus. Try to do a set of five clenches a few times a day. When this feels easy, move on to sets of ten, fifteen, or more clenches at a time.

After mastering easy, slow clenches, begin adding in sets of faster clenches. Flutter your pelvic floor muscles. Pay attention to the sensations created through these clenches- can you feel the blood rushing to your genitals? What do you notice while doing these clenches? A regular practice of pelvic clenches can have dramatic benefits. These clenches can be done anywhere at anytime- try them next time you are getting aroused or during a boring business meeting and notice the results!

Over time, the musculature of your pelvic floor will strengthen and you will be able to work each muscle within the group independently. Try working the left or right side, or work from back to front and see how many muscle actions you can isolate.

Exercise 1: Clench and Release 

Practicing clenches is easier lying down or standing, rather than sitting up with your weight on the pelvic floor. Begin by lying in a comfortable position, and bring your attention to the pelvic floor. Try and locate the muscles of the pelvic floor by clenching – clench your butt muscles first, then your anal sphincters, then move forward into the muscles around the genitals. See if you can feel these distinct regions of the pelvic musculature. If you can not, do not worry. What you feel will change wildly over time. Just keep exploring what you do feel. Clench and release, clench and release. Check in and make sure you are releasing completely. Just like the breath, each part of this cycle is equally important. Over time, this action of clenching and releasing will relax patterns of chronic tension or constriction in these muscles. Begin with sets of 10 clenches. Then take a break. Over time, add more repetitions. You can also experiment with holding each clench a bit longer.

Exercise 2: Quick Flutter 

Once you’ve located the major pelvic floor muscles and begun to feel comfortable with the clench and release practice, try a quick flutter clench. Very quickly, contract and release the muscles in the pelvis. Try ten quick flutters, and over time work up to sets of fifty or more. Many find the quick flutter to be quite tiring. This clench helps train the muscles to contract rapidly, which is part of the natural orgasm response when aroused. By creating this clench deliberately, you are strengthening this response and have the opportunity to pay attention to the effect of creating more movement and blood flow in this muscle group.

Exercise 3: Gradual Clench

This is a very powerful strengthening clench, and also helps to release chronic tension. You can practice the gradual clench focusing just on the muscles around the anus. Many have found this practice to be helpful in relief of hemorrhoids, which are caused when severe tension pushes blood vessels through the sensitive tissues around the anus. Try these clenches in sets of one or two to begin, then add a few more as you build strength.

First, to get a sense of the movement, try it in your hand. Make a fist, squeeze as hard as you can. Try to squeeze even harder. You may find the second squeeze difficult. Now, shake it out. Make a fist again, squeeze as hard as you can. Now relax it just a little bit, not all the way, and squeeze again. Relax just a little, then squeeze even harder. Repeat until you feel like you can’t clench any deeper. Now relax your hand completely.

Now try this with your anal sphincter muscles. Clench the sphincters a little bit, then relax a little. Clench deeper, then relax. Clench deeper yet. Make sure at the end of each set to relax your sphincter muscles completely – do not hold onto any extra tension. Notice if you feel any heat, energy or arousal in your body while practicing these gradual clenches.