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Breathing for Sexual Enhancement

Breath is an essential sexual skill. We breath without thinking much about it our entire lives- and yet most of us breath only enough to survive.

Deliberate deep breathing can help the body relax, flood the bloodstream with fresh oxygen, create more sensation in the body and fuel your erotic fire.

It is no surprise that breathing is a central skill not only in all sexual traditions around the world, but also in most devotional religious traditions, and for professional singers and athletes.

Learning to breath more fully allows us to live more fully, and experience new kinds of relaxation and sensation in the body.

Breathing is also a way to develop your ability to pay attention and be present in each moment. When someone learns to meditate, often the breath is the first tool of mindfulness.

When you are paying attention to your breath, you are paying attention to what is happening in that very moment in your body, and you can begin cultivating the ability to clear the mind clutter and notice physical sensations more fully.

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Prostate Masturbation Tips and Techniques

Many men enjoy including self prostate massage in their masturbation. By touching their own prostate, men can engage more of their sexual system, thereby enjoying more sexual sensation and improving health in the entire pelvis.

Prostate masturbation can include internal or external stimulation, with or without toys. The most direct way of milking your own prostate is via anal penetration. If you are flexible and can reach that far, you might be able to feel your own prostate with your fingers. Otherwise, you can explore the area using toys and pay attention to the sensations in your sexual system.

It can take some time to get used to new erotic sensations. You might feel numbness or even nausea at first when you explore anal stimulation. Over time (or sometimes right away!) that newness gives way to intense arousal, deep sensations and powerful orgasms. We get emails every day from guys saying “why did I wait so long to do this?” and “why isn’t every guy taught about prostate orgasms?”

To experience the most arousal from your anal and prostate masturbation, be sure to warm up with lots of external touch, slowly relax the anal sphincters first and only proceed to penetration when you are really relaxed and aroused.

We’ve been teaching guys and their partners about prostate massage for over 10 years now. While designed for partnered play, many of the techniques in our bestselling online course Prostate Massage Mastery (which includes the world’s best selling video about prostate pleasure!) can be used for self-prostate stimulation.

Tips for More Pleasurable Prostate Masturbation

Prostate Masturbation Toys

Using a toy such as the Aneros* or this favorite from Fun Factory can help you experience the full range of sensations, depth of penetration and kinds of stimulation that are available during prostate masturbation.

Many men enjoy using prostate masturbation toys* in the shower. Again, be sure to stimulate the external anal sphincters so you are relaxed and the toy penetrates easily. There never needs to be a moment of pain during anal stimulation.

External Prostate Masturbation

External prostate milking can be done via the perineum. You need deep pressure to reach the prostate through the sling of muscles that comprise the pelvic floor. Push deeply along the perineum and see if you can feel sensation in and around your prostate. Do this while stroking your penis for maximum pleasure.

Make sure you are highly aroused while stimulating the prostate. Prostate stimulation feels best for most guys when done in combination with genital stimulation. The more aroused you are, the more swollen and pronounced the prostate will be, making it easier to locate and stimulate with your finger.

Internal Prostate Stimulation

Wear a glove for easier clean-up and to free yourself the distraction of being worried about touching your butt. Over time you’ll notice that with a little preparation, there is nothing gross to worry about!

Once your finger is inserted, feel towards the front of the body and try to locate the walnut shaped prostate gland. Many men can not reach deep enough to feel their own prostate.

It may take several sessions of prostate stimulation for the sensations to turn into intense pleasure. Many men experience tenderness or numbness at first. Allow yourself to explore the sensations without too many high expectations at first. Many men report that prostate sensation is a learned pleasure!

Positions for Prostate Masturbation

Manually stimulating your prostate can be a pleasurable and healthy part of your masturbation. Most men who are interested in exploring this pleasure find themselves limited only by flexibility – it can be extremely challenging to contort your body into a position for prostate masturbation and yet relax enough to enjoy it.

Try reaching both forward between your legs and from around back, or one hand going each way. Try lying on your side, on your front and back, standing or squatting. Use pillows to elevate your hips.

Stand with one foot on a chair or stool and then reach with one hand behind you. This opens up the pelvis and may allow for deeper self penetration.

Feeling fit? Drop into a deep squat and try penetrating yourself from this position. This position may help you penetrate with more ease, but most guys can’t hold a squat long enough to explore getting aroused in this position.

Be creative enough to see if there is a position comfortable enough to reach both your penis and your anus – the rewards are well worth the effort. If you simply can not reach, and many men can not, try using toys to extend your reach. Or, get your lover on board and save anal play for partnered explorations.

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What Is Prostate Milking?

As the producers of the world’s bestselling video guide on prostate massage-now part of our Prostate Massage Mastery online course, we receive a lot of questions about prostate milking like: What is prostate milking? How is prostate milking different from prostate massage?

What is Prostate Milking?

Prostate massage is sometimes called prostate milking. This is because stimulation of the prostate helps release fluid from the prostate gland. Prostate milking can either be part of an ejaculatory orgasm, usually through a combination of prostate massage and genital stimulation. Sometimes, however, prostate milking is performed without genital stimulation and a small amount of clear fluid is released through the urethra. This form of prostate stimulation is sometimes done for health purposes, or as part of an erotic relationship using orgasm tease and denial.

How is Prostate Milking Different from Prostate Massage?

Prostate milking is really just another term for prostate massage, with more of an emphasis on the stimulation and release of fluid from the prostate gland. The techniques are the same. If you want to learn how to milk the prostate and explore prostate orgasms, check out our online course: Prostate Massage Mastery.

Why Is Prostate Milking Healthy?

Many doctors recommend prostate massage to maintain the health of the prostate gland. When prostate massage is done strictly for health reasons, and not as a sexual activity, it is sometimes referred to as milking the prostate. Prostate milking is focused on draining the fluid from the gland, encouraging blood flow and fresh fluid production, flushing stagnant fluid out of the area and releasing chronic tension in the pelvis. There are theories that stagnation causes the build up of toxins and the cell mutation that can lead to prostate massage, prostatitis and prostate inflammation. If you are interested in the health benefits of prostate massage, talk to your doctor about prostate milking.

Does Prostate Milking Require a Prostate Orgasm?

It is much more pleasurable to milk the prostate in combination with arousal and genital touch. As sex educators, this is the combination we teach in our video guides. You can, however, massage the prostate without erotic stimulation and release fluid from the prostate gland without a prostate orgasm. This will lead to a clear fluid being released through the urethra – clear because it does not contain semen which is normally found in an ejaculate.

Ready to explore prostate stimulation and prostate orgasms? Check out our online course, Prostate Massage Mastery to get started tonight!

How To Touch Balls

The balls, or testicles, are one of the most ignored parts of the male sexual system. A lot of women don’t know how to touch the balls to give him pleasure. The balls seem delicate and fragile. In reality, most men’s balls are very sensitive to touch and can be a source of erotic pleasure. Learn how to touch his balls to add more pleasure to your handjobs and prostate massage.

How To Touch Balls: 10 Strategies For Maximum Pleasure

How To Touch Balls Strategy 1) Focus on the scrotum, not the balls. The scrotum is the tissue surrounding the balls. The skin is quite sensitive and can handle deep pressure. The balls themselves are more delicate and should be handled with care!

How To Touch Balls Strategy 2) As you’re kissing, gently hold his testicles in your hand. Simply hold still and allow him to feel the warmth of your hand.

How To Touch Balls Strategy 3) Trace circles at the crease at the base of the penis where the shaft meets the scrotum.

How To Touch Balls Strategy 4) Explore very light pinching on the skin of the scrotum. Roll the skin in between your fingers very gently and watch how he reacts.

How To Touch Balls Strategy 5) Wrap your fingers around the scrotum and massage them lightly between your thumb and index finger. Gently pull the testicles down and away from his body so you’re holding them in a tight sack of skin. This exposes more nerve endings and increases sensitivity. Now stroke the taut skin and see how it feels.

How To Touch Balls Strategy 6) Wrap both hands around his penis with a firm grip. Now glide one hand up and over the head and the other hand down and across the balls. This move will make the penis feel large and expand the sensation. Use lube or massage oil to create a nice smooth glide.

How To Touch Balls Strategy 7) Straddle his chest, facing his pelvis. Reach down all the way to his perineum, then drag your hands, hand over hand, over the scrotum and penis, and up onto his stomach.

How To Touch Balls Strategy 8) Very lightly run your fingernails over the skin of the scrotum. Notice how he responds. Some guys love this scratching sensation and will get almost giddy with pleasure. Other guys get nervous. See if he enjoys it and respond accordingly.

How To Touch Balls Strategy 9) Pull the scrotum into your mouth. First, just hold still. Then move your tongue around, exploring the contours of the scrotal skin. Find the seam that runs down the middle of his testicles and lick it.

How To Touch Balls Strategy 10) As you touch his scrotum with one hand, place the flat of your knuckles on your other hand against his perineum (the area between his testicles and anus), and vibrate it. Shake your fist, pulse in and out. We cover a lot more techniques for stimulating the perineum on both our Handjob and Prostate Massage video guides.

Have fun learning how to touch his balls with more creativity and confidence. Master the art of stimulating his entire sexual system with our stroke-by-stroke guides on handjobs (part of our Foreplay Mastery Online Course) and prostate massage to be the best lover he’s ever had!

Q& A: Handjob Vs. Blowjob

Question::

Hi. I’m thinking of ordering your hand job video. Question though. Can a hand job be just as pleasurable and sexy as a blowjob? I want to get a handjob cause I don’t want to risk std/sti from blowjobs.

Thanks!

Jason

Answer::

Hey Jason!

Thanks for being in touch. I LOVE this email because I can say your situation is perfect for what we offer. Handjobs can be amazing – the hands can deliver a huge range of sensations unavailable in any other way. Oral sex is a totally amazing experience, and I hesitate to compare them, but a good handjob can be just as transcendent. Most handjobs are totally boring because people stick to one or two strokes. Our handjob video guide shows you tons of ways to stimulate the penis for maximum sensation. Handjobs are also great to prolong arousal, keeping a guy suspended in pleasure for longer than he can believe. I strongly encourage you to explore going through the guide a few times with your lover, and then just playing and discovering which strokes are your favorite (my favorite? “endless penetration” – so fun!)

And you are right that it is 100% safe sex – great to be able to give one another so much pleasure without any of the worry!

Cheers,

Chris

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