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Esther Perel’s 7 Verbs Of Love

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Esther Perel's 7 Verbs Of Love Podcast Episode Speaking of Sex #318

Love is a verb – an action we must practice in an ongoing way. But “love” is also kind of vague, and the daily act of loving another human being is really a symphony of verbs that is constantly changing. So how do we get more specific about HOW we love and what actions are needed to feel loved and to be more loving?

In this podcast episode, we explore Esther Perel’s framework of the 7 Verbs of Love. Sex therapist and author Esther Perel offers these seven verbs as points of reflection to notice the specifics of how we love in our daily lives.

The 7 Verbs Of Love, offered by Esther Perel, are:

  • to ask
  • to take
  • to receive
  • to give
  • to share
  • to refuse
  • to play

Check out Esther Perel’s blog post about the 7 Verbs Of Love here.

Listen to our interview with Esther Perel on Speaking of Sex here.

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Cannabis, Sexuality and You : What You Need To Know

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Cannabis, in and out of the bedroom: here’s what you need to know!

Now that cannabis is legal in many states for both medicinal and recreational use, and legal in Canada as well as other countries around the world, it’s time to refresh your knowledge about cannabis and all the ways you can use it for health and pleasure.

In this episode, we cover what you need to know about cannabis and sex, including:

  • THC and CBD, the two major compounds this plant offers us
  • How cannabis interacts with your body and the endocannabinoid system
  • All of the ways you can use cannabis as part of your sex life
  • Weed lube, cannabis suppositories and weed in your butt!
  • How to walk into a cannabis dispensary for the first time with confidence
  • Ways to make cannabis a part of your next erotic adventure

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Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

Foria: Check out their full line of CBD and THC infused lubricant, suppositories and more!

Update from our friends at Foria: CBD products should be legal to ship to all states soon now that the farm bill has passed, as of now there are 6 states we currently do not ship to because of state regulations around hemp. 

Quim Rock

Ashley Manta, Cannasexual

Foria’s study on CBD for menstrual pain

The Resilient Edge of Resistance (A Sexual Superpower, Revealed!)

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The Resilient Edge of Resistance is a concept that guides how we approach massage, erotic touch and even relationships!

The Resilient Edge of Resistance is all about finding that magical place of “just right” – in touch, in sex, in love. It means using not too much force and not too little, offering full support without smothering, being fully present without being overbearing. When you find that place of “just right” so much opens up – more pleasure, more arousal, more connection, more responsiveness to your partner’s changing needs.

In this episode we talk about how to develop the skill of finding and riding the resilient edge of resistance, and how to apply it in every day life, in and out of the bedroom.

The Resilient Edge of Resistance is a concept we inherited from our amazing teacher, Chester Mainard. Chester was a pioneer of erotic touch, gay spirituality and the creator of the anal massage techniques we teach. After a few profound years as Chester’s student and then co-teacher, Chris lived with Chester for 9 months as he died of brain cancer. Chester’s work continues to live through our teachings, and those of so many of his other students.

 

Own Your Arousal

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Arousal is not something that happens TO you – it is something that YOU generate. Your arousal is your own – so OWN IT!

In this episode we explore the nature of sexual arousal, and why we all need to stop waiting around hoping to get turned on! Arousal is an internal process that we can develop, learn how to pay attention to, and practice on purpose!

We offer you a three step process for owning your arousal. First, you learn how to pay attention to arousal using the super power of interoception. Then, you map how your arousal system works – what arouses you and what happens when you get aroused? Third, you learn how to cultivate arousal and then put it to use as fuel for your life and creative purpose! But for all of us, this magical process starts by learning how to first pay attention to arousal and then feel less shame and judgment about that arousal. These are the skills we work on in the Mindful Sex course and throughout our work and relationships – how can we get rid of the sexual shame and fear so we can cultivate and use sexual arousal as the clean burning fuel it can be?

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Resources mentioned in this episode:

Mindful Sex Course

 

Sexual Worship and Reverent Sex

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What would it mean to bring more reverence, awe and wonder to the bedroom? What does it mean to worship the genitals rather than degrade them? What are the implications of bringing more reverence to sexuality? We explore all this and more in this heartful episode.

First, we explore the standard definitions of cock worship, pussy worship and body worship. Then we talk about what we can all learn from bringing elements of worship into the bedroom (no matter what your spiritual inclinations or what your faith looks like)

Tune in to reflect on the power and potential of exploring reverent sex!

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