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Female Orgasm During Intercourse

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Female orgasm during intercourse is something a lot of couples want to experience. Yet it remains out of reach for most people, with good reason. The reality of female orgasm during intercourse comes down to basic female anatomy.

In our very first episode of the Speaking of Sex Podcast, we answer a question we received from one of our community members.

Laura, like 80% of women, does not experience orgasm during intercourse. She wants to know what she can do to become more orgasmic during intercourse. Should she use herbal aphrodisiacs? Does she need to wait for “the pink pill?”

We offer practical strategies and techniques so she can enjoy more sexual pleasure and become more orgasmic during intercourse.

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More About Female Orgasm During Intercourse

Many women are concerned about their inability to have orgasms during intercourse. Women have been taught that the ultimate sexual achievement is simultaneous orgasm during intercourse. Sadly, this myth creates a huge amount of needless anxiety and distracts women from their authentic experience of sexual pleasure.

When women focus on having orgasms during intercourse, they are ignoring the basic facts of their sexual anatomy. Here’s the real deal: the clitoris is the centerpiece of the female sexual system, and clitoral stimulation is how most women experience orgasms. The clitoris is the anatomical match to the penis, so just imagine men trying to reach orgasm without touching their penis and you’ll get a sense of how essential clitoral stimulation is to female orgasm!

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Wife Doesn’t Want Sex? Here’s What To Do!

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It is very common for one person in a relationship to want sex when the other isn’t in the mood.

Mismatched libidos can quickly turn a relationship sour.

In this episode, we answer a listener’s question about what to do when her husband wants sex and she isn’t up for intercourse.

We offer lots of great strategies for keeping intimacy alive even when intercourse isn’t an option.

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Sexual Fantasy

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This episode was originally published in 2013, and updated in 2021 as Speaking of Sex episode #387, Fantasy Vs. Desire

Ever wanted to share a fantasy with your lover, but had no idea how to get the conversation started?

In this podcast, we share the best ways to get your lover to share a sexual fantasy with you.

We start by exploring the crucial difference between a sexual fantasy and a desire, and then offer strategies for getting your lover to open up and share with you. Talking about fantasies and naming desires is an incredibly vulnerable act, but one that can have huge benefits for your relationship and your sex life.

In this episode of our Speaking of Sex podcast, we answer a listener’s question about getting his wife to tell him what she liked about 50 Shades of Grey, but no matter what your literary preferences, you can benefit from being more honest and transparent about your fantasies with your lover.

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The Pleasures of Pegging

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What Is Pegging?

Pegging is the erotic act of a woman wearing a strap-on dildo and anally penetrating a man.

This act, popularized first in the “Bend Over Boyfriend” video series, has been depicted in erotic art throughout history and across cultures.

The term “pegging” was coined by sex columnist Dan Savage, who recognized the surging popularity of the act and thought it was time this act had a good name. The term pegging stuck, and it is now one of the most popular fantasies for heterosexual men.

Why Does Pegging Feel Good?

Pegging can be a highly pleasurable act, for both partners. The anus is one of the most highly sensitive parts of the human body, and many people love the sensations of both external and internal anal stimulation. Some people eroticize the gender play of seeing a woman wear a strap-on and take on the penetrative role in sex. Others just love the sensation of being “filled up” and enjoy the sensations of anal penetration with a strap-on toy.

Many women love the feeling of being in charge, of switching up the roles of intercourse and watching their male lover respond to the sensations of being penetrated. When a strap-on is well fitted and positioned, the base of the dildo grinds into the clitoris and pubic bone, offering pleasurable stimulation with every thrust. There are also harness and dildo models that allow a woman to wear a vibrator, or even a double-ended dildo that allows both partners to be penetrated at the same time.

How To Get Started With Pegging

Anal penetration is intense and must be taken slowly in order to be pleasurable. If rushed, anal penetration can be painful, leading to lasting injuries. So go slow!

If you are new to anal stimulation, we highly recommend starting with your fingers to begin exploring the external sensations and the slowly proceed to penetration with just one little finger, allowing the slow relaxation and opening of the anal sphincters. Our best advice is to join our Prostate Mastery Course. This online course guides you stroke by stroke through highly pleasurable external and internal stimulation. Once you master the techniques in this course, you will be ready to proceed to penetration with a larger strap-on toy and the full pegging experience, if you so choose.

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Peak Erotic Experiences

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How do you know what you authentically desire? Dr. Jack Morin, author of The Erotic Mind, suggests that we use our own Peak Erotic Experiences, our sexual “highlight reel” to look for clues about who we are as erotic beings. He has found that what worked best for you in the past is very likely to work again in the future. This simple but powerful tool puts you in control of naming what turns you on most authentically.

In this exercise, we invite you to use memories of your Peak Erotic Experiences to create a map of the elements of what makes sex hot and memorable for you specifically.

This is a quick interactive experiment that will help you reveal the landscape of your authentic desires. We recommend repeating this exercise at least once a year, and anytime you feel stuck or unsure of what you are craving from your lover.

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“Now you are ready to begin examining your peak erotic experiences. Think of them using two seemingly mismatched metaphors. Peak turn-ons are precious jewels. To fully appreciate their glittering facets, it is necessary to gaze at them from different angles. Yet peak experiences are also onionlike. As each layer is peeled away you uncover additional information not visible on the surface” – Dr. Jack Morin, The Erotic Mind