Go ahead and buy her flowers and chocolates, but don’t stop there! To truly express your love and appreciation for the woman in your life, go the extra mile and truly lavish her. A birthday, job promotion or anniversary are great times to pamper the lady you love – but these ideas are for any day of the year!

1. Express Yourself!

Write a love letter, and include specific reasons you appreciate and value her. The more specific, the better. Don’t just say “Thanks for being a great mom!” Instead, say “Thanks for being patient and kind with our kids. Thank you for making family dinner so fun with your stories.” Think about the specific reason that you love her as a unique woman. Specific gratitudes and compliments are WAY more romantic than general ones! Write out your letter in a card or on a simple piece of paper and leave it somewhere for her to discover. She’ll likely keep it forever!

2.  Give her a foot massage!

Invite her to relax on a chair or the couch and sit at her feet. If you really want to go the extra mile, bring a basin of warm water with a few drops of essential oil and let her soak her feet before you begin. Then, one foot at a time, give her a deep, satisfying foot massage. Master foot massage skills with our Couples Massage Mastery Course before you begin and you’ll have her swooning! Remember, even five or ten minutes of foot massage can create a full body wave of relaxation – so you can squeeze a great foot massage in even on busy nights!

3. Send her away!

Give your lady an envelope with some cash ($20-$50 depending on your budget) and tell her that she can’t come home for at least two hours. Suggest she takes herself out to a coffee shop, meet friends for lunch or go to a movie. She may hesitate or protest, but be firm in your resolve to give her alone time. Send her away with a huge hug and a long kiss. While she is out, clean the house (if you can afford it, hire a cleaner!) Even a simple sweep of the house will do wonders: clean the kitchen, put away the laundry, and put fresh flowers on the kitchen table. Want bonus points? Be waiting for her when she returns with a bottle of wine, a few cupcakes or a nice dinner prepared. She’ll be grateful for the mini-vacation and eager to reconnect with you!

4. Run her a bath!

Go to the grocery store and purchase the following items: Epsom Salts, Lavender Oil or Bubble Bath, Tea Light Candles, Her Favorite Beverage and a bouquet of flowers. In the evening, ask her if she’d like a bath. Then take your time to set it up for her. Make sure to clean the bathroom before you get started (most women WILL notice if the bathtub is dirty! Make it sparkle!) Then run a hot bath, adding a cup or two of epsom salts and some oil or bubble bath for scent. Light a dozen small candles and scatter them around the room. Arrange the flowers in a nice vase. Let the tub fill up, making the room nice and steamy. Fold a clean towel for her. Then, escort her into the room, kiss her forehead and invite her to simply take her time and enjoy. If you have kids, take them out of the house for an hour so she can have uninterrupted time to herself.

5. Give Her What She Really Wants!

Pampering comes in many forms – including intense sensation if that is what she is truly craving. A lot of busy woman crave the release of intense stimulation and loving dominance. If she’s been reading 50 Shades of Grey or has expressed any interest in experimenting with rough sex, ask her if she would be interested in exploring erotic spanking! Grab our course on Erotic Spanking and watch it together, asking her to point out specific techniques and positions she finds most exciting. Then, claim your erotic power and give her a beautiful spanking. The video will show you how to build up from a gentle warm-up to a highly arousing climax, and how to make sure it is purely pleasurable every step of the way. Sometimes, being loving can mean being firm and giving her an experience of erotic intensity!

Pamper Her With Your Attention!

Ultimately, pampering a woman is about lavishing her with attention, love and praise. Everyone has a different combination of time, money and energy – so figure out what you have to give and be as generous as you can! But no matter how busy you are, you can create moments of intimate connection by sharing kind words, specific compliments and expressions of gratitude.

Whether it is for Mother’s Day, her birthday, your anniversary or for a “no reason” celebration, try to pay specific attention and figure out what your lover needs most. Does she need time alone, or does she want to be pampered with massage? Is she ready for a sexual adventure like erotic spanking, or does she need a night to simply relax? Only by paying attention will you know what she really needs – and once you give her what she authentically desires, you’ll discover the thrill of creating a fulfilling sex life together.