Question::
I’ve been with my partner for nearly 3 years now and I enjoy our sex life lots. We have a laugh and enjoy ourselves but sometimes he will start to play with my breasts and I’ll push him away and not like it, it’s not that I dislike him playing and I know he’s turned on when he does and it will turn me on too but I sometimes get a fright when he starts doing it randomly and it makes me a little uncomfortable and now he has stopped playing with them altogether recently and so I’m wondering what to do. Please help x Nikki
Answer::
Hey Nikki,
Thanks for being in touch. Tell me more about what you mean by “sometimes get a fright when he starts doing it randomly”
Many women have complex feelings about breast touch – not only because it feels different according to time of the month and how aroused you are, but also because they have been touched so poorly so many times in our life. It often feels like our lovers are touching our breasts for _their_ pleasure rather than to pleasure us! So know that you are not alone.
Often, men go straight for the nipple, which can also be uncomfortable. And once there, they just pinch it!
These are all the reasons we made our video guide on Breast Massage – so lovers can learn a wide range of ways to touch the breasts, warm up before touching the nipple, and stimulate the nipples with more creativity. Perhaps you want to grab a copy and watch it together as a way of having a conversation about how you want your breasts to be touched in the future!
Cheers,
Chris