Does your pleasure ever feel stuck at “good enough” – and you can’t quite kick up the intensity when you want to?
In this encore episode, we share a ton of techniques for amping up intensity while receiving stimulation. Here we are discussing the specific case of getting enough intensity during oral sex to reach orgasm – but the tips and strategies will help you amp up intensity during any kind of erotic play.
Sometimes lovingly called the “get your face wet” episode, this classic episode from our archives delivers a ton of classic Pleasure Mechanics strategies for optimizing your experience of pleasure and arousal.
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A lot of people want skills and strategies to master the art of giving oral pleasure. We understand wanting to know what you are doing down there! More than any other erotic act, this is where confidence and enthusiasm are key.
But here’s the catch: for a lot of couples, the roadblock to more oral pleasure isn’t on the giving side. For many, the challenge is in the ability to relax and receive so much pleasure and intimacy.
After talking to thousands of people who struggle to receive oral pleasure, here are some of the most common thoughts that take us out of our pleasure:
- Am I taking too long?
- Is my lover getting bored?
- Am I going to be able to climax?
- Do I look weird down there?
- Do I smell weird down there?
- Am I safe?
- Is my lover having fun?
These thoughts (and thousands of variants) spin through our brains, taking our attention away from our body and the sensations our lovers are providing. These thoughts create stress and anxiety – which shut down arousal and make pleasure feel even more out of reach. It is a vicious cycle that can feel impossible to break.
But here’s the thing – there are immediate steps you can take to be more available to receive pleasure (oral and otherwise!) Listen to the podcast below for a deep dive into the art of receiving oral sex.
When you can relax and fully receive the gift of oral pleasure, tremendous benefits await. Sure, there are the roaring orgasms that oral can create. But beyond that, there is an emotional gift of the intimacy that this act creates. For many people, receiving oral creates feelings of acceptance – when the most raw and vulnerable part of you is being taken into your lover’s mouth, you can feel truly held and loved.
So maybe you just want oral to become a more frequent and fun part of your erotic life. Or maybe you want to finally let your lover in and truly receive the loving attention they are offering you.
Tune in to the podcast episode, put the skills into practice and then let us know how it goes!
The episode originally aired as Speaking of Sex episode #210 : Oral Sex Orgasms Advanced Techniques