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You Are Kinky

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You Are Kinky :: Free Podcast EpisodeAre you bored in bed?

Stuck in a routine?

Longing for the days of thrilling sex and passionate connection?

If so, you are not alone. Most of the emails we receive tell the same story: boredom, ruts and long lost libidos.

Here’s the truth: there is a proven path to more pleasure, and it is available to you right now.

That path? Kink. And whether or not you already know it, you are kinky.

Not everyone is into handcuffs and pain in bed. Not everyone wants to be tied up and spanked. But everyone has a little bit of kink inside their erotic soul, just waiting to come out.

Our new course, Kinky Sex Mastery, is your guided tour into the adventure of kinky sex. We guide you every step of the way so you can explore the thrills of kink while staying safe and strengthening your relationship.

But what does it mean to be kinky?

Here’s how we define Kinky Sex:

  • Kink is everything beyond the standard script of romantic intercourse driven sex
  • Kink includes intense sensation play, roleplaying and erotic power play.
  • Kink is an attitude, a willingness to explore and have fun with sex outside the box
  • “The box” is what culture tells us is permissible, shame-free sex. This changes over time. Right now culture is a little confused about what is in and out as more people come out of the closet about enjoying a wide range of sex play.

We all have cravings, interests and turn-ons that don’t fit into our standard sexual script. But very few people take action and actively explore kinky sex.

After talking to hundreds of men and women about kinky sex, here are the top reasons people don’t explore kink:

  • want to explore but don’t know how to get started
  • don’t want to feel silly,
  • don’t want to hurt your lover,
  • don’t want to break trust and lose their partner’s respect
  • partner not interested
  • scared of losing control
  • scared “vanilla” sex will never be satisfying again

Here is the truth: human sexuality is wildly creative, diverse and surprising. We are capable of being aroused by just about anything, and using that arousal for pure orgasmic fun or profound emotional connection.

For centuries, we’ve been sold the lie that “good” and “normal” sexuality consists of just a few basic sex acts performed within a reproductive marriage. Finally, we are realizing that this limiting view is not only incorrect but damaging. Most of us are suffering in silence with desires we don’t understand and longings that remain unfulfilled.

Finally, kinky sex is being unleashed out of the shadows of shame. We are slowly giving ourselves permission to explore “out of the box” sexuality. But this leap isn’t easy. In fact, for many people, it is scary to confront their own desires and ask their partner to try something new.

That’s where we come in. When you are ready to take the first step towards a lifetime of kinky adventures, enroll in our Kinky Sex Mastery course. Then, we will guide you every step of the way as you build the skills you need to safely and securely play with the thrills of kink. Over the course of 25 date nights, we give you everything you need to discover your desires, communicate with your partner and start getting hands-on experience with kinky skills.

You’ll find that exploring kinky sex not only gives you access to a whole new world of arousal and erotic experiences, it will also strengthen your relationship. You’ll discover surprising new sides to one another, remember what it feels like to be excited again, and develop advanced communication skills that will serve you in and out of the bedroom.

Naughty Sex For Grown Ups

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Naughty Sex For Grown Ups

Isn’t it fun to feel a little naughty? Ever since we were kids, being a bit naughty has been so thrilling. Bending the rules, sneaking a treat, testing boundaries and breaking taboos are surefire ways to create a thrill.

Erotic taboos can be a tremendous source of arousal. But they also create shame, and shame creates silence. In that silence, people can get hurt. So how do we relieve ourselves from crippling shame while preserving the thrills of breaking taboos?

In this week’s podcast, we explore the art of releasing shame and mastering technique while enjoying the thrill of breaking taboos. Make sure to tune in if any part of you enjoys being a little naughty once in awhile!

One of our favorite sexologists, the late and great Jack Morin, recognized the erotic importance of taboos. He even names “violating prohibitions” as one of the four cornerstones of eroticism. He states: “A fusion of arousal and rule-breaking when you’re young dramatically increases the odds that you’ll retain in your adult eroticism a tendency to be excited by violational behaviors and fantasies. I call the aphrodisiac effects of violating prohibitions “the naughtiness factor”

The essential step is to release shame so you truly believe in your heart that your actions are good for you and healthy. Then you can roleplay as much naughtiness as you wish.

Let’s admit it: we all like being a bit naughty once in awhile. We believe you can slay shame and still get the thrills of the naughtiness factor. You can be as naughty as you want to be and still feel great about yourself!

Rope Bondage For Beginners

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Rope Bondage For Beginners

Rope bondage is one of the most common erotic fantasies for both men and women. There is a strong allure for participating on both sides of the bondage fantasy. It can be incredibly sexy to imagine being tied up by a trusted lover, held captive in ropes while you are lavished in touch. It is equally thrilling to imagine having your partner bound tightly, looking up at you as you decide what to do to them next. For some people, it is the ropes and restraint that are so captivating. Others find a kind of freedom in being dominated and restrained, so they can relax into the erotic experience and do nothing but receive.

One of the most important things to learn is that bondage doesn’t have to be rough to be sexy. It can be a slow, sensual experience of love and trust. Bondage can even be a portal to a spiritual erotic experience.

“By restraining the flesh, the body is occupied, leaving the mind and spirit to engage in other pursuits.”

In this week’s podcast, we are joined by internationally recognized rope bondage expert Lee Harrington to talk all about rope bondage. We cover:

  • the history of rope bondage in Japan
  • how rope bondage became a popular fantasy
  • how to get started with your very first rope bondage scene
  • safety precautions for beginners
  • how to make rope bondage
  • how to amplify intimacy with rope bondage

Lee Harrington is an internationally known sex educator who focuses on the intersection of spirituality, eroticism and kink. He is an award winning author, and just released both an updated version of Shibari You Can Use and a sequel More Shibari You Can Use, both hands-on manuals about rope bondage. Lee emphasizes the intimate and even spiritual uses of rope bondage while providing easy to use techniques that beginners can put to use right away.

Whether or not you ever want to try out something like rope bondage, this conversation will fascinate and delight you. You’ll learn something you can apply to your sex life, with or without the thrills of bondage!

Erotic Bondage Basics For Better Sex

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Bondage Basics For Better Sex

In this episode, we talk about how bondage can be a pleasurable part of your sex life.

Bondage doesn’t have to be intricate or extreme to be incredibly hot!

For some people, bondage is a way to relax and focus on the sensations of sex.

For others, bondage can create a hot excuse to struggle and get more bestial during sex, which many people find very cathartic!

Want to dive into your erotic bondage fantasy? Enroll in the Kinky Sex Mastery Course to get started exploring kinky sex!

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Why Explore Erotic Bondage?

Erotic bondage can add thrills and excitement to your sex life – and it doesn’t have to be scary or intense! Erotic bondage can be gentle, sensual and seductive. It offers an opportunity to escape everyday life and be held captive in your lover’s care.

For some people, erotic bondage creates the delicious experience of surrender. For others, it is empowering and gives permission to release pent up desire. For most, erotic bondage adds a highly arousing dimension to sex with a trusted lover.

Erotic bondage can be a delicious way to add more variety, interest and heat to sex you already enjoy. In this podcast, we share how to get started with erotic bondage while minimizing risk.

We go over why erotic bondage is so sexy, safer alternatives to handcuffs, basic safety and consent information and what to do with your lover once you have them in bondage! Do you want to play a tease and denial game? Or lavish your lover in sensual pleasures? Do you want to experience the serenity of bondage, or resist and pull against your restraints? Once you begin exploring erotic bondage you get to create the erotic experience that fulfills your unique sexual desires.

Many people are concerned that bondage is demeaning or degrading. We believe that when you choose to participate out of your own authentic desire, the pleasure of erotic bondage can be liberating and empowering. Many stressed out people, who have to be in control in every aspect of their lives, enjoy the surrender of bondage. It becomes an opportunity to relax and release into a world of sensation and pleasure. For many, erotic bondage creates a sense of freedom!

At the end of the show, Charlotte reads an excerpt from the new book in the Fantasy A-Z series, B is for Bondage.

If you’ve ever been curious about erotic bondage, this is a must-listen episode of Speaking of Sex!

BDSM

Curious about BDSM? You are not alone!

More and more couples are exploring the world of BDSM.

BDSM is an umbrella term. It stands for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, SadoMasochism

BDSM can include a huge range of activities, from light bondage to extreme sensation play. It is important to remember that you don’t have to do more to feel more: sometimes more subtle activities can create intense pleasure and arousal!

Join Us For An Adventure Into Kinky Sex

New To BDSM?

Here are some free podcast episodes to get started exploring the terrain of BDSM and Kink

  • Episode #137: You Are Kinky – Why Everyone Needs To Explore Kinky Sex
  • Episode #139: How To Be Kinky
  • Episode #238: First Steps Into Kinky Sex

Explore Erotic Spanking

Erotic spanking can be an amazing way to start exploring more intense sensation, power dynamics and erotic euphoria!

Erotic spanking can be gentle and seductive or rough and intense! Enroll in our online course to be guided step-by-step as you explore expanding your erotic horizons!

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